Jean-Luc Picard
@spacedadsupport.bsky.social
Captain Picard says the supportive things you wish your father would say. Inspired by SpaceDad Stories by @writercrafter.bsky.social (manager of this page) along with @spacedocmom.bsky.social. He/him.
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When you tell me your name/pronouns, that's what I'll call you. If you previously used a different name/pronoun, that's in the past. If your name/pronouns change in the future, I'll adjust immediately. I'd be quite annoyed to be called Ensign Picard. Respect is easy when we care.
Diplomacy doesn't mean accepting or even tolerating nonsense. It means recognising nonsense for what it is and either working around it or refuting it as necessary.
December 30, 2025 at 7:33 PM
Diplomacy doesn't mean accepting or even tolerating nonsense. It means recognising nonsense for what it is and either working around it or refuting it as necessary.
You are the main character in your own story but nobody else’s. Pilot your own course accordingly.
December 29, 2025 at 7:44 PM
You are the main character in your own story but nobody else’s. Pilot your own course accordingly.
Never allow anyone to silence you when you speak about that which you have endured. You will not change a silencer's mind, but it does wonders for others who are suffering the same to know they're not alone. It also makes it harder for the silencers to gaslight anyone.
December 28, 2025 at 7:06 PM
Never allow anyone to silence you when you speak about that which you have endured. You will not change a silencer's mind, but it does wonders for others who are suffering the same to know they're not alone. It also makes it harder for the silencers to gaslight anyone.
Don't settle for being merely tolerated. Find groups where you are celebrated for your true self. I know that's not always easy but these things often take effort on everyone's part and that includes you.
December 27, 2025 at 8:42 PM
Don't settle for being merely tolerated. Find groups where you are celebrated for your true self. I know that's not always easy but these things often take effort on everyone's part and that includes you.
When I advise you to keep your shields up, I am aware that doing so long-term is exhausting. Even yellow alert is tiresome after awhile. I sincerely hope you are able to find a space safe enough to let all of your guards down so you can get some rest.
December 26, 2025 at 7:09 PM
When I advise you to keep your shields up, I am aware that doing so long-term is exhausting. Even yellow alert is tiresome after awhile. I sincerely hope you are able to find a space safe enough to let all of your guards down so you can get some rest.
I quite enjoy a secular Christmas, so Merry Christmas to all of you throughout time and space, or wishes for a lovely day for those who do not celebrate. May much kindness and peace come your way.
December 25, 2025 at 5:19 AM
I quite enjoy a secular Christmas, so Merry Christmas to all of you throughout time and space, or wishes for a lovely day for those who do not celebrate. May much kindness and peace come your way.
Holidays are not an excuse for people to launch an attack upon you. You are allowed to keep your shields up in any way that you require or warp away at your convenience.
December 24, 2025 at 6:33 PM
Holidays are not an excuse for people to launch an attack upon you. You are allowed to keep your shields up in any way that you require or warp away at your convenience.
You are allowed to walk away from relationships that do nothing but eat away at you.
December 23, 2025 at 7:35 PM
You are allowed to walk away from relationships that do nothing but eat away at you.
The point of embarrassment is to highlight a mistake so you won't repeat it. There’s little value in hanging onto any embarrassment that is no longer serving that purpose. Should you require it, I grant you permission to let go of discomfort from lessons you have learned.
December 22, 2025 at 7:01 PM
The point of embarrassment is to highlight a mistake so you won't repeat it. There’s little value in hanging onto any embarrassment that is no longer serving that purpose. Should you require it, I grant you permission to let go of discomfort from lessons you have learned.
Denying your needs and/or your true self to fit in with a group of people who won't accept you unless you do those things is self-defeating. Find or create a group of people whom you value and who value you back. It isn't easy, but neither is stepping on your own neck.
December 21, 2025 at 7:21 PM
Denying your needs and/or your true self to fit in with a group of people who won't accept you unless you do those things is self-defeating. Find or create a group of people whom you value and who value you back. It isn't easy, but neither is stepping on your own neck.
As the holidays approach, remember that you put up your shields for a good reason: to protect yourself. Don't let anybody talk you into dropping them until you're ready to do so on your own terms. You are worth protecting.
December 20, 2025 at 6:53 PM
As the holidays approach, remember that you put up your shields for a good reason: to protect yourself. Don't let anybody talk you into dropping them until you're ready to do so on your own terms. You are worth protecting.
I have absolute faith in your ability to face your hardships even when you should not have to.
December 19, 2025 at 3:14 PM
I have absolute faith in your ability to face your hardships even when you should not have to.
Basic rights must never be curtailed by economics. It is an evil, archaic conceit to ever place monetary needs ahead of the safety of people.
December 18, 2025 at 8:03 PM
Basic rights must never be curtailed by economics. It is an evil, archaic conceit to ever place monetary needs ahead of the safety of people.
You are valued and worthwhile regardless of what your anxiety, depression, imposter syndrome, or other mind-monsters tell you.
December 17, 2025 at 7:33 PM
You are valued and worthwhile regardless of what your anxiety, depression, imposter syndrome, or other mind-monsters tell you.
If someone is pressuring you to do something you don't wish to do, look them square in the eye and say, "Captain Picard said I don't have to listen to you." Not only will my voice in your mind bolster you, but your foe will be utterly baffled, giving you time to walk away.
December 16, 2025 at 7:42 PM
If someone is pressuring you to do something you don't wish to do, look them square in the eye and say, "Captain Picard said I don't have to listen to you." Not only will my voice in your mind bolster you, but your foe will be utterly baffled, giving you time to walk away.
Maintaining your shields and defending your boundaries doesn't make you a bad person. Anyone who tells you otherwise is not your friend.
December 15, 2025 at 6:59 PM
Maintaining your shields and defending your boundaries doesn't make you a bad person. Anyone who tells you otherwise is not your friend.
Just because nobody was there for you in your hour of need doesn't mean your need wasn't valid. It means others failed you, not that you failed.
December 14, 2025 at 8:15 PM
Just because nobody was there for you in your hour of need doesn't mean your need wasn't valid. It means others failed you, not that you failed.
You are not required to put up with the hateful or dangerous ignorance of others. I certainly don't.
December 13, 2025 at 7:50 PM
You are not required to put up with the hateful or dangerous ignorance of others. I certainly don't.
Remember to always include yourself in the set of people who are worth your time and energy to protect.
December 12, 2025 at 6:37 PM
Remember to always include yourself in the set of people who are worth your time and energy to protect.
Do not cede hard-won ground to those who will never accept you as an equal. They will only demand more "compromise" in which they will never yield anything themselves. You and your rights are worth defending.
December 11, 2025 at 7:10 PM
Do not cede hard-won ground to those who will never accept you as an equal. They will only demand more "compromise" in which they will never yield anything themselves. You and your rights are worth defending.
You always have the option to steer your ship away from a truly futile battle.
December 10, 2025 at 7:37 PM
You always have the option to steer your ship away from a truly futile battle.
You are not required to be open-access by all and sundry at all times. You are allowed to have limits, boundaries, and expectations of others.
December 9, 2025 at 2:49 PM
You are not required to be open-access by all and sundry at all times. You are allowed to have limits, boundaries, and expectations of others.
I believe in you for exactly the person you tell me you are, and I will always respect and protect your gender identity. Transphobes can leave their bigotry elsewhere; there is no room for it aboard my ship.
December 8, 2025 at 8:35 PM
I believe in you for exactly the person you tell me you are, and I will always respect and protect your gender identity. Transphobes can leave their bigotry elsewhere; there is no room for it aboard my ship.
On days when your energy levels are critically low yet you persevere and survive through it anyway, you have still given 100% of your available reserves.
December 7, 2025 at 7:34 PM
On days when your energy levels are critically low yet you persevere and survive through it anyway, you have still given 100% of your available reserves.
When you observe true kindness, add to it. Join in if you are able or at least give kind words to those performing the acts of kindness. You will feel better about yourself and others in doing so. This is the foundation of community.
December 6, 2025 at 8:15 PM
When you observe true kindness, add to it. Join in if you are able or at least give kind words to those performing the acts of kindness. You will feel better about yourself and others in doing so. This is the foundation of community.