Jean-Luc Picard
@spacedadsupport.bsky.social
Captain Picard says the supportive things you wish your father would say. Inspired by SpaceDad Stories by @writercrafter.bsky.social (manager of this page) along with @spacedocmom.bsky.social. He/him.
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When you tell me your name/pronouns, that's what I'll call you. If you previously used a different name/pronoun, that's in the past. If your name/pronouns change in the future, I'll adjust immediately. I'd be quite annoyed to be called Ensign Picard. Respect is easy when we care.
Peace is worth striving for and protecting.
November 11, 2025 at 8:26 PM
Peace is worth striving for and protecting.
The activism you do towards social justice is important, even if it feels small to you. Change requires an abundance of small actions towards a better tomorrow. I'm proud of you for all that you do.
November 10, 2025 at 7:10 PM
The activism you do towards social justice is important, even if it feels small to you. Change requires an abundance of small actions towards a better tomorrow. I'm proud of you for all that you do.
Being loved and being useful are two different things. Separate those entirely in your mind. You deserve love even when you are unproductive, and you cannot "earn" love by making yourself useful to others.
November 9, 2025 at 9:04 PM
Being loved and being useful are two different things. Separate those entirely in your mind. You deserve love even when you are unproductive, and you cannot "earn" love by making yourself useful to others.
The notion that anyone can achieve anything if they try hard enough ignores systemic inequity and blames victims for circumstances they cannot escape. I want you to meet challenges head-on but I also acknowledge your reality. I'm proud of you for the journey, not the destination.
November 8, 2025 at 7:18 PM
The notion that anyone can achieve anything if they try hard enough ignores systemic inequity and blames victims for circumstances they cannot escape. I want you to meet challenges head-on but I also acknowledge your reality. I'm proud of you for the journey, not the destination.
It is good to build up a stronger community in the face of unpleasant political news, but it won't work unless you make sure to include all vulnerable populations.
November 7, 2025 at 8:41 PM
It is good to build up a stronger community in the face of unpleasant political news, but it won't work unless you make sure to include all vulnerable populations.
Turning off the ability for all and sundry to comment on your social media posts is an act of self care.
November 6, 2025 at 7:11 PM
Turning off the ability for all and sundry to comment on your social media posts is an act of self care.
It's all right to be wrong. Be teachable. Learn and grow.
November 5, 2025 at 6:58 PM
It's all right to be wrong. Be teachable. Learn and grow.
A significant element of maturity is recognising the diminishing value of having the last word versus moving on.
November 4, 2025 at 8:05 PM
A significant element of maturity is recognising the diminishing value of having the last word versus moving on.
Abusive people rely on their victims being "the bigger person" and pressure those victims into "forgiveness" so there are no consequences for terrible actions.
November 3, 2025 at 8:28 PM
Abusive people rely on their victims being "the bigger person" and pressure those victims into "forgiveness" so there are no consequences for terrible actions.
Just because someone gets angry with you for saying, "No," or defending your boundaries doesn't mean you should have said, "Yes," or opened the gates. They've proven your self-defence was justified. You are worth good shields.
November 2, 2025 at 7:33 PM
Just because someone gets angry with you for saying, "No," or defending your boundaries doesn't mean you should have said, "Yes," or opened the gates. They've proven your self-defence was justified. You are worth good shields.
If you find it too difficult to be kind to yourself, then please allow me be kind to you as an example while you practice.
November 1, 2025 at 7:39 PM
If you find it too difficult to be kind to yourself, then please allow me be kind to you as an example while you practice.
Stop using the words of your abusers against yourself.
October 31, 2025 at 7:11 PM
Stop using the words of your abusers against yourself.
Learning to walk away from pointlessly harmful social situations is a skill. It is very difficult at first, but the more you do it the better you'll become, the healthier you'll be, and the less of an easy target you'll appear to be.
October 30, 2025 at 6:04 PM
Learning to walk away from pointlessly harmful social situations is a skill. It is very difficult at first, but the more you do it the better you'll become, the healthier you'll be, and the less of an easy target you'll appear to be.
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Seeing health as a virtue is rooted in the same historical religious mindset that sees wealth as a virtue. Poverty doesn't make someone a less worthy person and disability/illness doesn't either. Healthy/wealthy folks are just lucky, not better than anyone else. 🖤💙😷🥄
October 29, 2025 at 8:30 PM
Seeing health as a virtue is rooted in the same historical religious mindset that sees wealth as a virtue. Poverty doesn't make someone a less worthy person and disability/illness doesn't either. Healthy/wealthy folks are just lucky, not better than anyone else. 🖤💙😷🥄
One of the best ways to get people to look up to you is to help them up to wherever you are.
October 29, 2025 at 8:24 PM
One of the best ways to get people to look up to you is to help them up to wherever you are.
As I once told Mr. Worf, villains don't always readily identify themselves by twirling their moustaches. If you've been duped, that is not a reflection on you so much as it is on them. Their skill at wrongdoing is their burden, not yours. Do not bear it for them.
October 28, 2025 at 7:34 PM
As I once told Mr. Worf, villains don't always readily identify themselves by twirling their moustaches. If you've been duped, that is not a reflection on you so much as it is on them. Their skill at wrongdoing is their burden, not yours. Do not bear it for them.
Your trauma is valid even if someone else had it worse. Someone else's suffering doesn't lessen yours. What it can do, however, is offer a meeting place for mutual understanding and support that can lead to great friendship.
October 27, 2025 at 7:01 PM
Your trauma is valid even if someone else had it worse. Someone else's suffering doesn't lessen yours. What it can do, however, is offer a meeting place for mutual understanding and support that can lead to great friendship.
You will ultimately be happier and healthier when you learn to walk away from pointless, never-ending arguments. Learn to accept not having a meaningless last word. Learn to accept that some people may not know your side of the story. Save your energy for better battles.
October 26, 2025 at 7:04 PM
You will ultimately be happier and healthier when you learn to walk away from pointless, never-ending arguments. Learn to accept not having a meaningless last word. Learn to accept that some people may not know your side of the story. Save your energy for better battles.
When someone attacks you for being unyielding in your inclusive, socially just values it means they're angry that you're not letting them get away with exclusion, hatred, and bigotry. Wear that as a badge of pride and stand all the firmer still.
October 25, 2025 at 7:57 PM
When someone attacks you for being unyielding in your inclusive, socially just values it means they're angry that you're not letting them get away with exclusion, hatred, and bigotry. Wear that as a badge of pride and stand all the firmer still.
Oppressed and vulnerable people owe neither comfort nor absolution to the privileged and dominant.
October 24, 2025 at 5:45 PM
Oppressed and vulnerable people owe neither comfort nor absolution to the privileged and dominant.
If you take no risks, you will miss out. If you take every risk, you will lose frequently. Adulthood is learning which risks are worth it and how best to mitigate them.
October 23, 2025 at 7:23 PM
If you take no risks, you will miss out. If you take every risk, you will lose frequently. Adulthood is learning which risks are worth it and how best to mitigate them.
Your anger at adults who harmed you in your childhood is legitimate. You cannot heal while you're still stuck suppressing that anger in the vain hope that they will properly apologise when they see how "good" you're behaving now.
October 22, 2025 at 6:48 PM
Your anger at adults who harmed you in your childhood is legitimate. You cannot heal while you're still stuck suppressing that anger in the vain hope that they will properly apologise when they see how "good" you're behaving now.
Rebel against capitalistic oppression in your era by liking yourself for who you are in spite of all the commercial interests telling you otherwise.
October 21, 2025 at 6:21 PM
Rebel against capitalistic oppression in your era by liking yourself for who you are in spite of all the commercial interests telling you otherwise.
Anyone who disrespects your entirely reasonable boundaries serves as proof as to why you need those boundaries.
October 20, 2025 at 6:23 PM
Anyone who disrespects your entirely reasonable boundaries serves as proof as to why you need those boundaries.
Self-defence - both physical and verbal - is bravery you can practice ahead of time.
October 19, 2025 at 6:13 PM
Self-defence - both physical and verbal - is bravery you can practice ahead of time.