Kelly Judd
@psychodynamiccoach.bsky.social
👋 New here!
🏳️🌈 Queer, AuDHD, chronic illness, exvangelical
🤓 Life coach for smart & quirky folx
Posts about self-advocacy, autism, ADHD, relationships, psychology, lgbtqia+ rights, Rhode Island
My work: https://www.kickstartwellness.com/social-media
🏳️🌈 Queer, AuDHD, chronic illness, exvangelical
🤓 Life coach for smart & quirky folx
Posts about self-advocacy, autism, ADHD, relationships, psychology, lgbtqia+ rights, Rhode Island
My work: https://www.kickstartwellness.com/social-media
When you express concerns about problematic behaviors, you’re not “focusing on the negative.” You’re exercising discernment and protecting yourself.
July 10, 2025 at 4:10 PM
When you express concerns about problematic behaviors, you’re not “focusing on the negative.” You’re exercising discernment and protecting yourself.
Coexisting peacefully with uncertainty looks like staying fluid, releasing outcomes, caring for your nervous system, and surrounding yourself with emotionally mature, supportive people. It's ok not to know what's next.
June 27, 2025 at 6:31 PM
Coexisting peacefully with uncertainty looks like staying fluid, releasing outcomes, caring for your nervous system, and surrounding yourself with emotionally mature, supportive people. It's ok not to know what's next.
You don’t owe anyone unlimited access to your life
June 26, 2025 at 11:34 AM
You don’t owe anyone unlimited access to your life
People are allowed to have feelings about your boundaries. Those feelings aren’t your responsibility to fix.
June 24, 2025 at 5:39 PM
People are allowed to have feelings about your boundaries. Those feelings aren’t your responsibility to fix.
Clear boundaries communicated with respect aren't weapons. They’re kindnesses.
June 21, 2025 at 3:00 PM
Clear boundaries communicated with respect aren't weapons. They’re kindnesses.
In my very lengthy therapy journey, there’s a single question that absolutely changed my life, and that is this:
What if the problem isn’t me?
What if the problem isn’t me?
June 20, 2025 at 9:03 PM
In my very lengthy therapy journey, there’s a single question that absolutely changed my life, and that is this:
What if the problem isn’t me?
What if the problem isn’t me?
Your nervous system's requirements are valid, and honoring them isn't selfish—it's necessary for your wellbeing
June 12, 2025 at 1:24 PM
Your nervous system's requirements are valid, and honoring them isn't selfish—it's necessary for your wellbeing
Needing alone time isn't “antisocial.” It's honoring your nervous system's needs for rest and restoration.
June 11, 2025 at 5:15 PM
Needing alone time isn't “antisocial.” It's honoring your nervous system's needs for rest and restoration.
Things that brought me joy this week
June 7, 2025 at 3:25 PM
Things that brought me joy this week
You don’t have to justify or explain your boundaries. A simple “this doesn’t work for me” is enough.
June 7, 2025 at 12:36 PM
You don’t have to justify or explain your boundaries. A simple “this doesn’t work for me” is enough.
Acknowledging your successes isn't arrogance. You can be genuinely humble and kind and generous while still fully owning what you've accomplished and what you're good at.
June 5, 2025 at 1:53 PM
Acknowledging your successes isn't arrogance. You can be genuinely humble and kind and generous while still fully owning what you've accomplished and what you're good at.
Emotional caretakers tend to attract friends and partners who need (and often demand) caretaking
June 4, 2025 at 2:16 PM
Emotional caretakers tend to attract friends and partners who need (and often demand) caretaking
Embracing your actual needs (not just the ones you think are easy to meet) is an act of profound self-love.
When you name them clearly and unapologetically, you give others the sacred opportunity to love you well.
When you name them clearly and unapologetically, you give others the sacred opportunity to love you well.
June 3, 2025 at 3:24 PM
Embracing your actual needs (not just the ones you think are easy to meet) is an act of profound self-love.
When you name them clearly and unapologetically, you give others the sacred opportunity to love you well.
When you name them clearly and unapologetically, you give others the sacred opportunity to love you well.
Quintessential Rhode Island photo ☕️🌊
June 2, 2025 at 11:49 PM
Quintessential Rhode Island photo ☕️🌊
Happy Monday! Gentle reminder that hustle culture is a crock of shit ❤️
June 2, 2025 at 1:12 PM
Happy Monday! Gentle reminder that hustle culture is a crock of shit ❤️
Happy sunny Sunday, Bluesky ❤️
June 1, 2025 at 3:13 PM
Happy sunny Sunday, Bluesky ❤️
If you grew up with emotionally immature caregivers, you were likely taught that having boundaries was selfish or dangerous.
Your nervous system is wired to associate limit-setting with anxiety and guilt.
Your nervous system is wired to associate limit-setting with anxiety and guilt.
June 1, 2025 at 12:29 PM
If you grew up with emotionally immature caregivers, you were likely taught that having boundaries was selfish or dangerous.
Your nervous system is wired to associate limit-setting with anxiety and guilt.
Your nervous system is wired to associate limit-setting with anxiety and guilt.
Happy Saturday, Bluesky ❤️
May 31, 2025 at 2:24 PM
Happy Saturday, Bluesky ❤️
You can love your family deeply while still saying “no” to harmful dynamics
May 30, 2025 at 12:35 PM
You can love your family deeply while still saying “no” to harmful dynamics
You don't need to burn yourself out to prove your commitment.
You don't need to sacrifice your wellbeing for the illusion of productivity.
You don't need to sacrifice your wellbeing for the illusion of productivity.
May 29, 2025 at 1:20 PM
You don't need to burn yourself out to prove your commitment.
You don't need to sacrifice your wellbeing for the illusion of productivity.
You don't need to sacrifice your wellbeing for the illusion of productivity.
Clap for me—I left my house (after dark, no less) and made new friends tonight 😭💕
May 29, 2025 at 1:43 AM
Clap for me—I left my house (after dark, no less) and made new friends tonight 😭💕
You don't have to participate in every conflict you're invited to
May 28, 2025 at 8:49 PM
You don't have to participate in every conflict you're invited to
The healthiest relationships aren't those without boundaries—they're those where boundaries are communicated clearly, respected consistently, and adjusted as needed through open dialogue
May 28, 2025 at 2:23 PM
The healthiest relationships aren't those without boundaries—they're those where boundaries are communicated clearly, respected consistently, and adjusted as needed through open dialogue
When we’re focused on managing other people’s emotions, we disconnect from our own
May 27, 2025 at 4:27 PM
When we’re focused on managing other people’s emotions, we disconnect from our own
Ways I can care for myself today: allow myself to cry if that's what I need, remind myself that it's ok to be afraid of change, allow for imperfection, and create space for time in nature.
May 27, 2025 at 1:21 PM
Ways I can care for myself today: allow myself to cry if that's what I need, remind myself that it's ok to be afraid of change, allow for imperfection, and create space for time in nature.