Martin Baker
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Martin Baker
@martinbaker.bsky.social
Fran & Marty live 3k miles apart. Our book HIGH TIDE LOW TIDE inspires others supporting a friend with mental illness. Posts are Marty's. He/him/his.
On our blog tomorrow I have a new post for #InternationalMensDay - From Joe 90 to Marty: Celebrating the Boy I Was and the Man I Would Become. In the meantime, here's last year's #IMD post, Six Qualities and Twelve Men I Admire.

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Six Qualities and Twelve Men I Admire: Positive Thoughts for International Men’s Day
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
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November 18, 2025 at 11:54 AM
#MondayBlogs [new] An Instrument for Living: How Am I Using My Words?

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It’s no hyperbole to claim that our words can change lives, even save lives.
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An Instrument for Living: How Am I Using My Words?
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
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November 17, 2025 at 2:08 PM
[new] An Instrument for Living: How Am I Using My Words?

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An Instrument for Living: How Am I Using My Words?
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
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November 12, 2025 at 9:22 AM
Tomorrow on our blog I'm sharing my response to reading Colin Wilson's "The Outsider." In the meantime, here's another look at Occasional Spikes of Mayday: The Power of Analogy When Talking About Mental Health.

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#mentalhealth #analogy #TimeToTalk
Occasional Spikes of Mayday: The Power of Analogy When Talking About Mental Health
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
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November 11, 2025 at 3:16 PM
Content warning: discussion of tragedy including loss of life

#MondayBlogs In a Solitude of the Sea: Exploring My Fascination With Disaster Documentaries

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In a Solitude of the Sea: Exploring My Fascination With Disaster Documentaries
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
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November 10, 2025 at 10:19 AM
Tomorrow (Wednesday) on our blog I'll be talking about my fascination with disaster documentaries. In the meantime, here's another look at Only Partly Clueless: The Secret to Being a Supportive Friend.

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#MentalHealth #friendship #support #FriendshipGoals
Only Partly Clueless: The Secret to Being a Supportive Friend
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
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November 4, 2025 at 2:22 PM
#MondayBlogs Forward or Back? Thoughts on a Steam Train Ride from Heatherslaw to Etal

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Forward or Back? Thoughts on a Steam Train Ride from Heatherslaw to Etal
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
www.gumonmyshoe.com
November 3, 2025 at 10:25 AM
Tomorrow (Wednesday) on our blog we have a new post inspired by a steam train ride on the Heatherslaw Light Railway. In the meantime, here's another look at managing hope and expectation when you live with chronic illness.

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Everything Is (Not Always) Possible: Managing Hope and Expectation With Chronic Illness
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
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October 28, 2025 at 10:53 AM
#MondayBlogs Miserable Places: My Welsh Nightmare

Do you have "miserable places" you never want to revisit and can scarcely think about? Here's one of mine.

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#holidayFromHell #Wales #carRental
Miserable Places: My Welsh Nightmare
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
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October 27, 2025 at 2:06 PM
[new] Miserable Places: My Welsh Nightmare

Do you have "miserable places" you never want to revisit and can scarcely think about? Here's one of mine.

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#holidayFromHell #Wales #carRental
Miserable Places: My Welsh Nightmare
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
www.gumonmyshoe.com
October 22, 2025 at 7:27 AM
Tomorrow (Wednesday) on our blog we have a new post about how great it feels when you and your friend are on the same page. In the meantime, here's Looking Out: An Open Letter to My Best Friend.

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#letterwriting #adventure #mentalhealth
Looking Out: An Open Letter to My Best Friend
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
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October 14, 2025 at 5:45 PM
#MondayBlogs So What If You Don't Have a Workplace? WMHD Is for You Too

#WorldMentalHealthDay is focused on mental health in the workplace but what does workplace mental health mean in a world where not everyone has or wants a traditional workplace?
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So What If You Don't Have a Workplace? WMHD Is for You Too
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
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October 13, 2025 at 9:17 AM
Do More of What You're Good at and Keep Good People Close: What I've Learned about Prioritising Mental Health in the Workplace

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#WorldMentalHealthDay #MentalHealthAtWork #WMHD #WMHD2025
Do More of What You're Good at and Keep Good People Close: What I've Learned about Prioritising Mental Health in the Workplace
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
www.gumonmyshoe.com
October 10, 2025 at 12:02 PM
So What If You Don't Have a Workplace? #WMHD Is for You Too

#WorldMentalHealthDay is focused on mental health in the workplace but what does workplace mental health mean in a world where not everyone has or wants a traditional workplace?

www.gumonmyshoe.com/2025/10/so-w...
So What If You Don't Have a Workplace? WMHD Is for You Too
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
www.gumonmyshoe.com
October 10, 2025 at 9:47 AM
[new] So What If You Don't Have a Workplace? #WMHD Is for You Too

Your day may not begin and end with a commute to the office. Your week or month may not begin or end with a paycheck. Nevertheless, your mental health and your needs are important.

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So What If You Don't Have a Workplace? WMHD Is for You Too
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
www.gumonmyshoe.com
October 8, 2025 at 6:56 AM
On our blog tomorrow (Wed) we have a new post ahead of #WorldMentalHealthDay. In the meantime, here's another look at "I Wish Our Friendship Could Keep You Safe But I Know it Can't. And That's Okay."

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I Wish Our Friendship Could Keep You Safe But I Know it Can't. And That's Okay.
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
www.gumonmyshoe.com
October 7, 2025 at 2:36 PM
#MondayBlogs Seven Hours on Sun-beds (I'm Not a Beach Person)

Sometimes, being a supportive friend means sitting with them through their darkest moments. And sometimes, it means sitting with them on a beach helping them relax.

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#Poros #Greece #SelfCare
Seven Hours on Sun-beds (I'm Not a Beach Person)
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
www.gumonmyshoe.com
October 6, 2025 at 2:48 PM
[newish] Seven Hours on Sun-beds (I'm Not a Beach Person)

Sometimes, being a supportive friend means sitting with them through their darkest moments. And sometimes, it means sitting with them on a beach helping them relax.

www.gumonmyshoe.com/2025/10/seve...

#Poros #Greece #SelfCare
Seven Hours on Sun-beds (I'm Not a Beach Person)
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
www.gumonmyshoe.com
October 4, 2025 at 7:58 PM
[new] Our Top Blog Posts of the Month (September 2025)

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Our Top Posts of the Month (September 2025)
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
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October 4, 2025 at 7:56 PM
On our blog tomorrow (Wednesday) we'll look at why it's not always easy to relax, even when you're sitting on a beautiful beach. In the meantime, here's a related post: "Togetherness Apart: Walking on the Beach With Friends."

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Togetherness Apart: Walking on the Beach With Friends
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
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September 30, 2025 at 3:00 PM
#MondayBlogs Every Grey Hair Is a Badge: Fifteen Life Prompts by Holly Hatam

"Every grey hair is a badge. Every wrinkle, a receipt for the life I’ve lived." (Holly Hatam)

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#WritingCommunity #WritingPrompts #BloggingPrompts
Every Grey Hair Is a Badge: Fifteen Life Prompts by Holly Hatam
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
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September 29, 2025 at 9:39 AM
Reposted by Martin Baker
“Don’t say, ‘Let me know if there is anything I can do.’ People rarely feel comfortable saying, ‘Yes, my laundry.’ Instead pick something you are willing to do & then ask her permission.””: buff.ly/DmJSaF7

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#support #ChronicPain #ChronicFatigue #disabled #support
31 Tips for Helping Your Chronically Ill Loved One
12. "Allow them to use humor to cope with their illness, but be careful about joining along."
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September 28, 2025 at 8:30 PM
[new] Every Grey Hair Is a Badge: Fifteen Life Prompts by Holly Hatam

"Every grey hair is a badge. Every wrinkle, a receipt for the life I’ve lived." (Holly Hatam)

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Every Grey Hair Is a Badge: Fifteen Life Prompts by Holly Hatam
No one is too far away to be cared for or to care. Inspiring those who support a friend living with mental illness.
www.gumonmyshoe.com
September 24, 2025 at 7:24 AM