Gemma Lidgate
@iamgemma.bsky.social
NB/trans/bi-gender. Egg crack 2/23. Not a dresser. Wife trying to come to terms with this.
No men. South-East UK
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No men. South-East UK
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My first time out in daylight as me. Full day. Proud of myself today. 💚 a long time coming, sure, and these milestones always seem a whole lot smaller when they’re behind me. When will I learn that?
February 9, 2026 at 12:37 PM
My first time out in daylight as me. Full day. Proud of myself today. 💚 a long time coming, sure, and these milestones always seem a whole lot smaller when they’re behind me. When will I learn that?
I was so dysphoric on holiday. I just needed to say that somewhere.
August 11, 2025 at 7:00 PM
I was so dysphoric on holiday. I just needed to say that somewhere.
Had therapy (online) as Gemma!
That's the most interaction with someone I've ever had when presenting as my femme side. Super scary but then very validating.
That's the most interaction with someone I've ever had when presenting as my femme side. Super scary but then very validating.
July 25, 2025 at 10:43 AM
Had therapy (online) as Gemma!
That's the most interaction with someone I've ever had when presenting as my femme side. Super scary but then very validating.
That's the most interaction with someone I've ever had when presenting as my femme side. Super scary but then very validating.
Surely someone I'm connected with.... but hey I have no followers or reach on here so...
Considering a switch from finasteride to dutasteride and maybe some oral minoxidil.
Anyone got any experience of that?
Anyone got any experience of that?
July 18, 2025 at 6:56 AM
Surely someone I'm connected with.... but hey I have no followers or reach on here so...
Considering a switch from finasteride to dutasteride and maybe some oral minoxidil.
Anyone got any experience of that?
Anyone got any experience of that?
July 17, 2025 at 9:19 PM
Considering a switch from finasteride to dutasteride and maybe some oral minoxidil.
Anyone got any experience of that?
Anyone got any experience of that?
I don’t need forever. But I need to try. At least once. I want to know how it feels.
UK-based trans feminine person exploring slow HRT options. I’m already on finasteride, and looking for gentle mutual aid routes to try estradiol — even just to understand how my body might respond. I know others have been where I am. Open to DMs.
July 13, 2025 at 5:39 PM
I don’t need forever. But I need to try. At least once. I want to know how it feels.
Three therapy sessions in. 'Best self'. Tears. Many.
July 11, 2025 at 7:46 PM
Three therapy sessions in. 'Best self'. Tears. Many.
UK-based trans feminine person exploring slow HRT options. I’m already on finasteride, and looking for gentle mutual aid routes to try estradiol — even just to understand how my body might respond. I know others have been where I am. Open to DMs.
July 5, 2025 at 8:31 AM
UK-based trans feminine person exploring slow HRT options. I’m already on finasteride, and looking for gentle mutual aid routes to try estradiol — even just to understand how my body might respond. I know others have been where I am. Open to DMs.
So many doubts about who I am. I don’t know. Wish I was cisnormal, female preferably.
August 9, 2024 at 7:58 AM
So many doubts about who I am. I don’t know. Wish I was cisnormal, female preferably.
Finally got some more time as this part of me. Very very overdue and much needed x
August 3, 2024 at 4:45 PM
Finally got some more time as this part of me. Very very overdue and much needed x
I want to develop a skincare regime and I don't really know. If I Google it I'll get too much advice. Any pointers gratefully received. Ideally something I can do with male (or unisex looking) skincare products so it doesn't trigger my wife too much.
April 17, 2024 at 8:10 AM
I want to develop a skincare regime and I don't really know. If I Google it I'll get too much advice. Any pointers gratefully received. Ideally something I can do with male (or unisex looking) skincare products so it doesn't trigger my wife too much.
I've been quite down recently. But, had my final conversation with my therapist on Friday, she reminded me how far I'd come. From "what am I doing?" to "I'm not broken, I haven't done anything wrong."
And so today, working from home as Gemma (camera off!) was indeed really uplifting.
And so today, working from home as Gemma (camera off!) was indeed really uplifting.
April 15, 2024 at 5:17 PM
I've been quite down recently. But, had my final conversation with my therapist on Friday, she reminded me how far I'd come. From "what am I doing?" to "I'm not broken, I haven't done anything wrong."
And so today, working from home as Gemma (camera off!) was indeed really uplifting.
And so today, working from home as Gemma (camera off!) was indeed really uplifting.
Quote skeet with you in glasses.
March 20, 2024 at 7:49 AM
Quote skeet with you in glasses.
Yay: told my little sister I'm trans. Not transitioning, but not just a guy either. She was so supportive. x
Nay: told my wife I told my sister, and it threw her into a foul mood because 'it makes it all more real'
Nay: told my wife I told my sister, and it threw her into a foul mood because 'it makes it all more real'
March 9, 2024 at 3:13 PM
Yay: told my little sister I'm trans. Not transitioning, but not just a guy either. She was so supportive. x
Nay: told my wife I told my sister, and it threw her into a foul mood because 'it makes it all more real'
Nay: told my wife I told my sister, and it threw her into a foul mood because 'it makes it all more real'
My next therapy session, I have to "set goals" for the next six therapy sessions. I'm still fairly new to this game. And I'm not sure what I want to get out of therapy.
Initially, it was nice to have someone to listen to my gender-confused monologue without yelling at me. What next?
Initially, it was nice to have someone to listen to my gender-confused monologue without yelling at me. What next?
March 5, 2024 at 8:03 PM
My next therapy session, I have to "set goals" for the next six therapy sessions. I'm still fairly new to this game. And I'm not sure what I want to get out of therapy.
Initially, it was nice to have someone to listen to my gender-confused monologue without yelling at me. What next?
Initially, it was nice to have someone to listen to my gender-confused monologue without yelling at me. What next?
I don't shave daily, as I'm basically male presenting. But this is not, as my wife thinks, because I "like a bit of stubble".
It's because I _hate_ facial hair, and don't really want to engage with it, deal with it, at all. Shaving hurts. Shaving daily hurts more. It relentlessly returns.
It's because I _hate_ facial hair, and don't really want to engage with it, deal with it, at all. Shaving hurts. Shaving daily hurts more. It relentlessly returns.
March 4, 2024 at 9:19 AM
I don't shave daily, as I'm basically male presenting. But this is not, as my wife thinks, because I "like a bit of stubble".
It's because I _hate_ facial hair, and don't really want to engage with it, deal with it, at all. Shaving hurts. Shaving daily hurts more. It relentlessly returns.
It's because I _hate_ facial hair, and don't really want to engage with it, deal with it, at all. Shaving hurts. Shaving daily hurts more. It relentlessly returns.
My second proper transitioning dream last night. I was at work on a Friday and discussed coming in to work from next Monday as Arwen.
Arwen? Don't know where that came from, 'cept my love of Tolkein.
Do proper, real trans people dream of transition more?
Arwen? Don't know where that came from, 'cept my love of Tolkein.
Do proper, real trans people dream of transition more?
February 21, 2024 at 7:52 AM
My second proper transitioning dream last night. I was at work on a Friday and discussed coming in to work from next Monday as Arwen.
Arwen? Don't know where that came from, 'cept my love of Tolkein.
Do proper, real trans people dream of transition more?
Arwen? Don't know where that came from, 'cept my love of Tolkein.
Do proper, real trans people dream of transition more?
So, my wife listened at the door as I had my therapy session and described my innermost feelings about gender dysphoria and lack of intimacy based around my identity shift.
I'm basically in shock.
I'm basically in shock.
January 28, 2024 at 5:18 PM
So, my wife listened at the door as I had my therapy session and described my innermost feelings about gender dysphoria and lack of intimacy based around my identity shift.
I'm basically in shock.
I'm basically in shock.
I know this isn't a new statement by any means, but it's amazing how good the brain is at missing stuff. I had gender dysphoric thoughts my whole life, and just kind of assumed that was a perfectly normal thing for a cis person. Er...
January 26, 2024 at 5:25 PM
I know this isn't a new statement by any means, but it's amazing how good the brain is at missing stuff. I had gender dysphoric thoughts my whole life, and just kind of assumed that was a perfectly normal thing for a cis person. Er...
I ventured out into the world as me for the first time :)
December 18, 2023 at 6:16 PM
I ventured out into the world as me for the first time :)
It's been a while. Here's a new photo, no filters or anything, just me :)
November 26, 2023 at 5:36 PM
It's been a while. Here's a new photo, no filters or anything, just me :)
I've landed on Bluesky!
I'm Gemma, somewhere in the non-binary/trans/bi-gender area, still trying to work that out. Egg crack 2/23. Not a "dresser". Wife trying to come to terms with this, and she's not doing bad so far. x
#trans #bigender #nonbinary
I'm Gemma, somewhere in the non-binary/trans/bi-gender area, still trying to work that out. Egg crack 2/23. Not a "dresser". Wife trying to come to terms with this, and she's not doing bad so far. x
#trans #bigender #nonbinary
August 28, 2023 at 8:52 AM
I've landed on Bluesky!
I'm Gemma, somewhere in the non-binary/trans/bi-gender area, still trying to work that out. Egg crack 2/23. Not a "dresser". Wife trying to come to terms with this, and she's not doing bad so far. x
#trans #bigender #nonbinary
I'm Gemma, somewhere in the non-binary/trans/bi-gender area, still trying to work that out. Egg crack 2/23. Not a "dresser". Wife trying to come to terms with this, and she's not doing bad so far. x
#trans #bigender #nonbinary