His introductory email was thoughtful and articulate. He’d not only read my profile, but he had also looked through my many Q&A responses and his note referenced both. He was 6’2, a little younger than me, no photos. I suggested we meet after a few exchanges. This must be a new record for me. My new strategy: ‘Dating immersion’. [...]

I was trying to figure out what I wanted to talk about with you good folks, what I was in the mood for, and nothing quite fitted right. Then I was chatting with my friend Captain Andy, who was having a beer, with his doodle pad nearby. I asked him to send me a doodle, and five minutes later, [...]

Hello UseMeForAnything, You read my profile, yes? For an MBA level educated man, reading a couple of sentences shouldn’t be too much of a stretch. “…have been involved in submission for over 25 years.” If this is true, then why didn’t some kind Domme teach you in the first 5 minutes that women really hate it when strangers offer themselves ‘to be used’? [...]

At the gym. Doing triceps. First set. Earphones in, music loud. I don’t talk to anyone at the gym. In my rest period, a hugely built, bald man hovered around the machine, I saw his mouth move. Talking to me. I removed an earbud. “Can I work in with you here?” I nodded. “Sure.” I watched him move the pin to the very bottom of the weight stack. “I just have to remember to change the weight before my turn,” [...]

I received a lovely email and a link to a happy femdom story in my inbox recently. I am always so delighted to get stories about happy F/m relationships and am thrilled that Melusine is allowing me to share it with you. — Melusine wrote:  First I would like to say your blog has been invaluable to me, [...]

A reader question: “In a recent thread on FetLife you mentioned that you use punishment as part of your dynamic, while both recognizing and agreeing with the reasons some do not. How does punishment work in your relationships? Removal of privileges? Some kind of physical punishment? Something else entirely?” I did mention that, yes. For the record, my comment is here (requires Fetlife login), [...]

I just got my arse kicked. Seriously. Back story (for context!) I’ve been working out for about 10 months now.  10 months ago: I started with 3 days of weights (pyramid sets) that had 48 reps with 3 failure points for each muscle group, plus 3 days of cardio a week. I was also doing two days of pilates per week. [...]

I can’t post this without a tedious and long winded explanation… God forbid you should just have a hot little video to enjoy without me blathering in your ear! Femdom porn sucks. Really. I have never found any that I enjoy, and I have looked, believe me. It’s just not hot to me. It neither reflects my extreme, [...]

Hello please_train_me_Mistress, No, I won’t teach you. Don’t be passive and expect someone to spoon feed you. Use some initiative and learn at least something for yourself, then ask smart questions. I suggest you go and read the message boards here [on CM]. Join Fetlife.com and read some discussions from people who live this. Even read my blog to get a realistic picture of what a D/s relationship might be like. [...]

For me, distance is a practical problem: A logistical and financial hurdle for a relationship, not a show stopper. The must-have for it to grow, though, is communication that works extraordinarily well from afar. And by that I don’t mean ‘being able to string articulate sentences together’, I mean ‘being able to reach out in a way that fires me up, [...]

Step 1: Find somewhere else to live (yay, exciting!) Step 2: Apply for tenancy, get the go ahead Step 3: Plan the move, create a spreadsheet with a to-do list (geekery!) Step 4: Do paperwork for exiting current apartment, redirecting mail, cutting off and connecting utilities, informing a gazillion organisations (each of these requires at least an hour of frustration) Step 5: Co-ordinate and get quotes for moving, [...]

There are some questions that you asked in my survey that are easy to answer, I like easy! If you want to out yourselves as the owners of said questions by fessing up in the comments, feel free… the confession box is open… Ready? Here goes: A daily cartoon strip?  *laugh* Ummmm… no, but that did make me laugh. [...]

I wonder if you can smell me in your sleep, colouring your thoughts and invading your dreams. I have marked you with my scent, putting it on your skin, your lips, reminding you that I am here, reminding you who you belong to. I like having you smell of me, walking around in the world like a shadow of me, [...]

[SubmissiveGuyComics is also doing a post for our NaBloWriMo project, though he’s hiding some of them on Twitter so if you aren’t following him, you should… ]   Paltego over at Femdom Resource often links to interesting articles, this one more interesting to me than most. On 18th November, Yvonne van den Bergh outed herself as a Domme to avoid being outed by a stalker. [...]

I am anxiously looking around, touching parts of the blog, clicking things, checking and double checking… Let me show you around…  In the right sidebar is the button to get the RSS feed… click it, click it, CLICK ITCLICKIT!!!! I have added buttons so you can share my posts (see below… pretty!) I have added sections at the top… the first new one is About Me, [...]

puppying [puhp-ee-ing] (verb): To behave in an excited and exuberantly enthusiastic manner over someone, like a puppy. Usage: You are puppying at me! Submissive men who are into me ‘puppy’ at me. I call it puppying. I have no idea if I made that term up. Puppying is when they are so excited every time they are around me that their whole body vibrates with delight, [...]

Discovering things about people whose partner-potential you are sussing out should be fun. If it’s not fun, interesting, challenging, fascinating, exciting, why do it? Simple, right? And obvious! Still, I think there are lots of reasons people keep banging away at it *even if it’s no fun*. I’ve been guilty of that myself at times. Sometimes in my interactions with submissive men where we are feeling each other out, [...]

There was a moment where he changed.  A sudden metamorphosis as if I had flicked a switch. From passive acceptance to aggressive greed. I felt small changes in his body before I realised what was coming.  Muscles that had been relaxed tensed below me, small movements at first, he pulled at his bindings, quietly straining at the ropes that held his wrists firm, [...]

Making me happy today: turned up full volume, bouncing around the house… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BsISfQAXE60  [...]

I’m always surprised by pegging coming up in mainstream media. It is becoming more common in the same way chastity is finding its way into the mainstream. I was going to compile a whole list with links, but look, I’m up against the deadline for posting today (I nearly forgot!), so I’m just putting out what I had in the depths of my 180+ drafts (it’s a mess in there). [...]

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I had my first non-solo orgasm with my boyfriend when I was about 16 or 17. I was in my last year of high school, he was a year or two older, was at university. Unlike other girls of my age, our dates involved going out for dinner. I don’t know why. Maybe I saw it in movies and insisted that that was what a date looked like. [...]

Étienne asked about the demographics of the folks who responded to the ‘How Much D/s’ question in my survey. The question was ‘how much D/s do you have now, and how much would you ideally like’. Being the obliging and curious person that I am, I did indeed slice it a little further. Since submissive men and dominant women made up nearly 75% of the respondents, [...]

Vanilla dating when you're a femdom can either be an exercise in futility, or a reasonable attempt to get most of what you are looking for... We'll see.