(exhaustedly🏳️‍⚧️) Emily
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(exhaustedly🏳️‍⚧️) Emily
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the most beautiful and least expected effect of transitioning is when affirmation replaces shame

“a collection of sweethearts with a dash of nightmare” - chi

“if you’re in line to kiss emily, stay in line” - juni

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🫵 hey! you! 🫵

were you about to scroll my media tab to like my pics and then dm me about how attracted you are to me?

🛑 DON’T 🛑

harassment is not a turn-on
as a flirty bit from a known friend? maybe

from a stranger? creepy af

it signals a serious lack of respect for boundaries and autonomy. it puts all focus on the perpetrators’ desires while ignoring the victim’s needs entirely. it is pure objectification and entitlement with zero empathy
i spent a lot of time crying today as i packed up my life but i spent even more time last night surrounded by a club full of goth lesbians, kissing a goth lesbian, as a goth lesbian, and i should remember the 2nd half more
February 16, 2026 at 2:30 AM
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Scene: A parking lot at 3am.

Girl 1: I'm so lucky I got to dance with the hottest girl in the club.
Girl 2: I feel the same.
Girl 1: Haha, as if.
Girl 2: What would @emoria.bsky.social do if she heard you say that?
Girl 1: ...
Girl 2: Say it.
Girl 1: Fuck yeah, I'm gorgeous
The Tax. It must be paid. In DARK MODE.

Words by Emoria (hey, that’s me). Art is by Pas: www.patreon.com/paxiti
February 16, 2026 at 1:41 AM
ch12 resolved at a beautifully necessary place

but holy shit does it get dark to do so

proceed with extreme caution
Aftertaste Chapter 12 is complete. It is a very emotionally heavy chapter, and this list of content warnings is lacking the big one. It went in a place that surprised me, I wasn’t trying to hide it from anyone. Full list of Content Warnings in the comment to this post.
Aftertaste Chapter 12

CW for disassociation, discussion of domestic violence, dysphoria, fantasy alcohol consumption, internalized transphobia. 🔞 NSFW

1-5: bsky.app/profile/emor...

6-10: bsky.app/profile/emor...

11: bsky.app/profile/emor...
February 16, 2026 at 1:04 AM
every fucking thing i touch is an emotional land mine, armed with memories of the wrong life, or of us
a fucking hard aspect of packing up my life is that i can’t have anyone over as emotional support to get through it
February 15, 2026 at 10:50 PM
surprising find while packing. i have zero recollection of this or where it came from
February 15, 2026 at 10:17 PM
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The trans community makes our city great. I am committed to building a safer city for our fellow trans Angelenos. Join me in celebrating our trans neighbors.

Shoutout to my team on this video who are all trans women: Tru Segal, Willa Cutolo, and Evie Smith (and Jazz, who runs our bsky!) 🏳️‍⚧️
February 13, 2026 at 2:24 AM
a fucking hard aspect of packing up my life is that i can’t have anyone over as emotional support to get through it
February 15, 2026 at 9:33 PM
an llm is infinite typewriters and increasing tokens is just adding more monkeys
February 15, 2026 at 8:37 PM
i’ve stopped pretending i’m not hot

fucking owning this going forward
me, belonging with goth lesbians? never would have believed it
February 15, 2026 at 7:37 PM
best valentine’s day of my life
today will be different

today i will kiss two beautiful women who are both becoming very special to me

i will see them together

no anger

no shouting

no barbed words of hurt

🧵
February 15, 2026 at 10:34 AM
me, belonging with goth lesbians? never would have believed it
February 15, 2026 at 7:35 AM
one of my most gender-euphoric behaviors is to gently rest my open palm on her upper breast, nails gently grazing her collarbone, as we play twister on each others’ soft tender lips
it’s the best

kissing a woman AS A WOMAN is so fucking incredible
February 14, 2026 at 10:39 PM
2y ago today i was secretly 1w on hrt and had discovered full transition was an absolute and immediate certainty

i did my best to dress masculine one last time for her, and prepped an incredible dinner of oysters, burrata salad, lobster, a5 strip steak, with amazing wine pairings, her favorites

🧵
February 14, 2026 at 8:54 PM
oh this is an enormous relief! i was certain i was about to lose my healthcare

but i know they’re just going to find another way to attack
February 14, 2026 at 7:05 PM
fuuuuuuuuuuuck
trans girls in stem going like "wait a minute, i'm not actually passionate about this, it was just an appealing way to channel my thinking into a structure that didn't involve introspecting or feeling emotions" after starting hrt
February 14, 2026 at 6:08 PM
tomorrow will be for emotional packing, queer boardgames, lesbian goth night, and celebrating a beautiful woman’s hrtversary

tonight is for staying in with a book, chocolate, and wine
February 14, 2026 at 6:59 AM
for a long time people praised me for being good at distilling and teaching complex topics

yeah, no. turns out that was just infodumping and the autistic need to ensure others understand the nuances that i do
February 14, 2026 at 12:16 AM
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What was your first time dressing like your gender?

One afternoon a few (very few) years ago, I put on a pair of... I guess they're pants? it's hard to describe, but they're heavily embroidered and very femme

Anyway, I went grocery shopping — scared to death & expecting to be terrorized

/1
i can recall that day 7y ago when i first stepped outside in women’s athletic leggings, dashed for the stairs and prayed the neighbors didn’t see me

today i tossed on that same pair of leggings with a sports bra to head across town sans makeup for a dr appt and coffee

no-one batted an eye
February 13, 2026 at 9:32 PM
our existence is political;
it shouldn’t be

they choose to attack our joy because they fear doing the bare minimum introspection that even the least self-aware of us must do in order to survive

we will win

our joyous truth is stronger than their fearful lies

make your joy visible

be seen

live
they are incapable of understanding this

they see us replace broken empty shells with thriving vibrancy

and that scares them, for what shames do they keep secreted away?

so they choose to hurt us, to destroy us, the proof that exposes the lies in their social contract, that challenges their power
this is the real miracle of transition

a lifetime of these moments of abject terror, inflicting incalculable damage, crushing all will to live

gone

wiped away

replaced with simple everyday normality

boring is beautiful

there is an incredible joy when affirmation replaces omnipresent terror
February 13, 2026 at 9:32 PM
they are incapable of understanding this

they see us replace broken empty shells with thriving vibrancy

and that scares them, for what shames do they keep secreted away?

so they choose to hurt us, to destroy us, the proof that exposes the lies in their social contract, that challenges their power
this is the real miracle of transition

a lifetime of these moments of abject terror, inflicting incalculable damage, crushing all will to live

gone

wiped away

replaced with simple everyday normality

boring is beautiful

there is an incredible joy when affirmation replaces omnipresent terror
i can recall that day 7y ago when i first stepped outside in women’s athletic leggings, dashed for the stairs and prayed the neighbors didn’t see me

today i tossed on that same pair of leggings with a sports bra to head across town sans makeup for a dr appt and coffee

no-one batted an eye
February 13, 2026 at 9:24 PM
this is the real miracle of transition

a lifetime of these moments of abject terror, inflicting incalculable damage, crushing all will to live

gone

wiped away

replaced with simple everyday normality

boring is beautiful

there is an incredible joy when affirmation replaces omnipresent terror
i can recall that day 7y ago when i first stepped outside in women’s athletic leggings, dashed for the stairs and prayed the neighbors didn’t see me

today i tossed on that same pair of leggings with a sports bra to head across town sans makeup for a dr appt and coffee

no-one batted an eye
February 13, 2026 at 9:18 PM
i can recall that day 7y ago when i first stepped outside in women’s athletic leggings, dashed for the stairs and prayed the neighbors didn’t see me

today i tossed on that same pair of leggings with a sports bra to head across town sans makeup for a dr appt and coffee

no-one batted an eye
February 13, 2026 at 9:11 PM
i’m really enjoying seeing compersion supplant jealousy

rsd has done a huge mindfuck on me and i’m making real progress on undoing that damage
February 13, 2026 at 7:36 PM
should i have reported that “no men, no childish babies, no trans” profile on Her instead of just swiping left?
February 13, 2026 at 6:27 PM
on spiro for 2y and the one time i can’t pee is when filling a urine sample
February 13, 2026 at 5:37 PM