Cara Sutra
@carasutra.bsky.social
UK-based, 40+ woman navigating midlife, perimenopause, chronic illness, trauma therapy & healing. Sharing personal & sex blog updates, BDSM/FemDom/male chastity interests. Spoonie. deaf 🦻 She/her. LGBTQIA+ 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Blog & links https://carasutra.com/start-page/
Blog & links https://carasutra.com/start-page/
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Cara Sutra
@carasutra.bsky.social
· Jan 6
Cara Sutra Blog And Adult Product Reviews
Strictly 18+ blog by Cara Sutra. Discover educational and entertaining articles on the subject of sex & sexuality, plus adult product reviews.
carasutra.com
Hi! 👋 I'm a UK-based, 40+ woman navigating midlife, perimenopause, chronic illness, trauma therapy & healing.
Sharing personal updates plus my sex blog posts, BDSM/FemDom/male chastity interests.
Spoonie. She/her. LGBTQIA+ 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
All my links 👉 carasutra.com/start-page/
Blog 👉 carasutra.com
Sharing personal updates plus my sex blog posts, BDSM/FemDom/male chastity interests.
Spoonie. She/her. LGBTQIA+ 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
All my links 👉 carasutra.com/start-page/
Blog 👉 carasutra.com
There's no grit or shock in AI 'writing'. It is so intent on being inoffensive that it engenders no real feeling or emotion at all.
It's empty, lifeless.
A drained, flaccid penis of writing, if you will, as opposed to a surging, lust-driven phallus.
It's empty, lifeless.
A drained, flaccid penis of writing, if you will, as opposed to a surging, lust-driven phallus.
Jacked off so much, I started writing erotica to at least engage my mind while I beat it. Ended up finding a groove, and made actual money from commissions. Sadly, the AI boom smothered my dream in its cradle.
February 11, 2026 at 3:11 PM
There's no grit or shock in AI 'writing'. It is so intent on being inoffensive that it engenders no real feeling or emotion at all.
It's empty, lifeless.
A drained, flaccid penis of writing, if you will, as opposed to a surging, lust-driven phallus.
It's empty, lifeless.
A drained, flaccid penis of writing, if you will, as opposed to a surging, lust-driven phallus.
Writing with a Spine: Imposter syndrome, identity shifts, courage, worth.
Writing With a Spine: Impostor Syndrome and the Unpublished Writer
A personal essay on writing, imposter syndrome and finding legitimacy, boundaries and backbone in a world that values books over lived truth.
carasutra.com
February 11, 2026 at 12:41 PM
Writing with a Spine: Imposter syndrome, identity shifts, courage, worth.
On living with low libido. Perhaps the 'fix' is not trying to fix it.
No advice, just where I'm at right now.
This was a difficult one to write.
carasutra.com/2026/01/livi...
No advice, just where I'm at right now.
This was a difficult one to write.
carasutra.com/2026/01/livi...
Living with Low Libido in Midlife: Where I Am Right Now
It’s time to tell you all the things I haven’t been saying. A quiet, honest look at low libido, midlife, and where I am right now.
carasutra.com
February 11, 2026 at 9:36 AM
On living with low libido. Perhaps the 'fix' is not trying to fix it.
No advice, just where I'm at right now.
This was a difficult one to write.
carasutra.com/2026/01/livi...
No advice, just where I'm at right now.
This was a difficult one to write.
carasutra.com/2026/01/livi...
Watched the first couple of episodes of Star Trek: Starfleet Academy last night, and really enjoyed them.
Fun series so far, with laugh out loud moments as well as usual ST drama! 🌠😊
PS. Where's Tilly?! 🤔
#StarTrek #StarfleetAcademy #WhatImWatching #Trekkie #SciFi
Fun series so far, with laugh out loud moments as well as usual ST drama! 🌠😊
PS. Where's Tilly?! 🤔
#StarTrek #StarfleetAcademy #WhatImWatching #Trekkie #SciFi
February 11, 2026 at 8:52 AM
Watched the first couple of episodes of Star Trek: Starfleet Academy last night, and really enjoyed them.
Fun series so far, with laugh out loud moments as well as usual ST drama! 🌠😊
PS. Where's Tilly?! 🤔
#StarTrek #StarfleetAcademy #WhatImWatching #Trekkie #SciFi
Fun series so far, with laugh out loud moments as well as usual ST drama! 🌠😊
PS. Where's Tilly?! 🤔
#StarTrek #StarfleetAcademy #WhatImWatching #Trekkie #SciFi
On loving winter: the slower pace, and permission to rest
Reasons to Love Winter: Deeper than Snowflake Aesthetics
Why I love winter as a season of rest, slowness, and survival, beyond cosy aesthetics and seasonal performance.
carasutra.com
February 10, 2026 at 9:35 PM
On loving winter: the slower pace, and permission to rest
This is how I plan to protect my energy this year. Not always succeeding, but at least I'm trying, I guess.
How I’m Protecting My Energy In 2026
How I’m protecting my energy in 2026 by learning to listen to myself, respect my limits, and rest. My priorities and what I’m letting go.
carasutra.com
February 10, 2026 at 7:21 PM
This is how I plan to protect my energy this year. Not always succeeding, but at least I'm trying, I guess.
Reposted by Cara Sutra
I've written a companion piece to the above, offering some practical tips when it comes to post-sex clean-up:
carasutra.com/2026/02/clea...
carasutra.com/2026/02/clea...
Turning Post-Sex Clean-Up Into Intimate Reconnection
What happens after sex matters. From bed to bathroom, this explores how clean-up can become part of intimacy, not the end of it.
carasutra.com
February 10, 2026 at 1:42 PM
I've written a companion piece to the above, offering some practical tips when it comes to post-sex clean-up:
carasutra.com/2026/02/clea...
carasutra.com/2026/02/clea...
Fuck diet culture 🤷♀️
New Year Weight Loss Plans? Why I’m Choosing Nourishment Over Diets This January
A rallying cry against January diet culture and new year weight loss plans. Choosing nourishment, self-trust, and kindness over punishment.
carasutra.com
February 10, 2026 at 12:34 PM
Fuck diet culture 🤷♀️
Felt dizzy all yesterday and was so upset about my ongoing illnesses. Feel so betrayed by my own body tbh. Upsetting.
Anyway, slept well last night for a change, and feel more positive today.
#ChronicIllness #Disability #Spoonie
Anyway, slept well last night for a change, and feel more positive today.
#ChronicIllness #Disability #Spoonie
February 10, 2026 at 9:57 AM
Felt dizzy all yesterday and was so upset about my ongoing illnesses. Feel so betrayed by my own body tbh. Upsetting.
Anyway, slept well last night for a change, and feel more positive today.
#ChronicIllness #Disability #Spoonie
Anyway, slept well last night for a change, and feel more positive today.
#ChronicIllness #Disability #Spoonie
Why I decided to go sober for the rest of my life
My Sobriety: Choosing the Sober Life When You’re Not an Alcoholic
My sobriety & choosing the sober life when you’re not an alcoholic. I’ve been sober almost 2 years, find out WHY & what I’ve learned so far!
carasutra.com
February 9, 2026 at 9:28 PM
Why I decided to go sober for the rest of my life
Letting myself feel sadness without guilt
Allowing Sadness Without Guilt: Why I Let Myself Feel Sad
Exploring sadness: Why I let myself feel sad, and the mental & physical benefits of allowing sadness in your life without any guilt.
carasutra.com
February 9, 2026 at 7:21 PM
Letting myself feel sadness without guilt
All these chatGPT caricatures have me feeling all kinds of 😬
February 9, 2026 at 12:57 PM
All these chatGPT caricatures have me feeling all kinds of 😬
On being deaf: living with bilateral progressive hearing loss
Being deaf: High-Frequency Hearing Loss & Me
In this personal post, I write about being deaf, my high-frequency hearing loss & my deafness experiences in the UK. Plus, my shiny new hearing aids!
carasutra.com
February 9, 2026 at 12:32 PM
On being deaf: living with bilateral progressive hearing loss
How perimenopause started for me
Hello Perimenopause | The Struggle To Be Believed & Get HRT
I didn’t ‘reach’ perimenopause so much as it hunted me down & attacked me. My story: symptoms, struggle to be believed & get prescribed HRT.
carasutra.com
February 9, 2026 at 9:36 AM
How perimenopause started for me
Therapy again this morning.
I cried during, and I cried afterwards.
Perhaps it is progress
I cried during, and I cried afterwards.
Perhaps it is progress
February 7, 2026 at 3:00 PM
Therapy again this morning.
I cried during, and I cried afterwards.
Perhaps it is progress
I cried during, and I cried afterwards.
Perhaps it is progress
Erotic self-exploration doesn't have to have an O as the destination.
Sometimes, you-time is better when you focus purely on pleasure.
carasutra.com/2025/07/how-...
#SexBlog #SexBlogging #SexAdvice #SexEducation #SexPositive #Intimacy #Pleasure #Consent #SexualWellness #Sexuality
Sometimes, you-time is better when you focus purely on pleasure.
carasutra.com/2025/07/how-...
#SexBlog #SexBlogging #SexAdvice #SexEducation #SexPositive #Intimacy #Pleasure #Consent #SexualWellness #Sexuality
How to Have Sex with Yourself: Self-Pleasure Beyond Masturbation
Discover how to have sex with yourself in ways that go far beyond masturbation… Explore mindgasms, sensuality, erotic breath play & tantra!
carasutra.com
February 6, 2026 at 7:21 PM
Erotic self-exploration doesn't have to have an O as the destination.
Sometimes, you-time is better when you focus purely on pleasure.
carasutra.com/2025/07/how-...
#SexBlog #SexBlogging #SexAdvice #SexEducation #SexPositive #Intimacy #Pleasure #Consent #SexualWellness #Sexuality
Sometimes, you-time is better when you focus purely on pleasure.
carasutra.com/2025/07/how-...
#SexBlog #SexBlogging #SexAdvice #SexEducation #SexPositive #Intimacy #Pleasure #Consent #SexualWellness #Sexuality
Reposted by Cara Sutra
Needing lube doesn't mean you're broken.
carasutra.com/2025/12/need...
#SexBlog #SexBlogging #SexAdvice #SexEducation #SexPositive #Intimacy #Pleasure #Consent #SexualWellness #Sexuality
carasutra.com/2025/12/need...
#SexBlog #SexBlogging #SexAdvice #SexEducation #SexPositive #Intimacy #Pleasure #Consent #SexualWellness #Sexuality
Why Needing Lube Isn’t a Sign You’re Broken
Needing lube is normal. Learn why it has nothing to do with being broken and everything to do with comfort, confidence and better pleasure.
carasutra.com
February 6, 2026 at 5:48 PM
Needing lube doesn't mean you're broken.
carasutra.com/2025/12/need...
#SexBlog #SexBlogging #SexAdvice #SexEducation #SexPositive #Intimacy #Pleasure #Consent #SexualWellness #Sexuality
carasutra.com/2025/12/need...
#SexBlog #SexBlogging #SexAdvice #SexEducation #SexPositive #Intimacy #Pleasure #Consent #SexualWellness #Sexuality
What was supposed to happen this morning: writing, arranging my newsletter
What actually happened: sleep
What actually happened: sleep
February 6, 2026 at 10:14 AM
What was supposed to happen this morning: writing, arranging my newsletter
What actually happened: sleep
What actually happened: sleep
Reposted by Cara Sutra
For years, I’ve been writing about enhancing foreplay and sex. But what about afterwards?
I’ve gathered my thoughts on sexual aftercare. The physical reassurances of love, but also small things that hit deeper. And why it’s all so important to me, especially now.
carasutra.com/2026/02/afte...
I’ve gathered my thoughts on sexual aftercare. The physical reassurances of love, but also small things that hit deeper. And why it’s all so important to me, especially now.
carasutra.com/2026/02/afte...
Aftercare After Sex: How to Reconnect, Recover and Deepen Intimacy
What happens after sex matters. A personal reflection on aftercare, emotional safety and the intimacy that follows.
carasutra.com
February 5, 2026 at 1:12 PM
For years, I’ve been writing about enhancing foreplay and sex. But what about afterwards?
I’ve gathered my thoughts on sexual aftercare. The physical reassurances of love, but also small things that hit deeper. And why it’s all so important to me, especially now.
carasutra.com/2026/02/afte...
I’ve gathered my thoughts on sexual aftercare. The physical reassurances of love, but also small things that hit deeper. And why it’s all so important to me, especially now.
carasutra.com/2026/02/afte...
For years, I’ve been writing about enhancing foreplay and sex. But what about afterwards?
I’ve gathered my thoughts on sexual aftercare. The physical reassurances of love, but also small things that hit deeper. And why it’s all so important to me, especially now.
carasutra.com/2026/02/afte...
I’ve gathered my thoughts on sexual aftercare. The physical reassurances of love, but also small things that hit deeper. And why it’s all so important to me, especially now.
carasutra.com/2026/02/afte...
Aftercare After Sex: How to Reconnect, Recover and Deepen Intimacy
What happens after sex matters. A personal reflection on aftercare, emotional safety and the intimacy that follows.
carasutra.com
February 5, 2026 at 1:12 PM
For years, I’ve been writing about enhancing foreplay and sex. But what about afterwards?
I’ve gathered my thoughts on sexual aftercare. The physical reassurances of love, but also small things that hit deeper. And why it’s all so important to me, especially now.
carasutra.com/2026/02/afte...
I’ve gathered my thoughts on sexual aftercare. The physical reassurances of love, but also small things that hit deeper. And why it’s all so important to me, especially now.
carasutra.com/2026/02/afte...
Winter is cold, dark and can be a struggle. But this year I'm embracing the fact it meets me where I'm at right now. The slower pace and dark skies feels like Earth granting permission to rest.
Reasons to Love Winter: Deeper than Snowflake Aesthetics
Why I love winter as a season of rest, slowness, and survival, beyond cosy aesthetics and seasonal performance.
carasutra.com
February 4, 2026 at 9:28 PM
Winter is cold, dark and can be a struggle. But this year I'm embracing the fact it meets me where I'm at right now. The slower pace and dark skies feels like Earth granting permission to rest.
How and why I'm protecting my energy in 2026
How I’m Protecting My Energy In 2026
How I’m protecting my energy in 2026 by learning to listen to myself, respect my limits, and rest. My priorities and what I’m letting go.
carasutra.com
February 4, 2026 at 7:21 PM
How and why I'm protecting my energy in 2026
I had a fairly brutal 2025. In case you missed it, I wrote about what forced a change of pace for me last year.
carasutra.com/2025/12/2025...
#ChronicIllness #Therapy #Health #UKblogger #MECFS
carasutra.com/2025/12/2025...
#ChronicIllness #Therapy #Health #UKblogger #MECFS
2025 Reflections: A Change Of Pace
My 2025 reflections on beginning trauma therapy & developing M.E. in perimenopause. Living with chronic illness has forced a change of pace.
carasutra.com
February 4, 2026 at 12:33 PM
I had a fairly brutal 2025. In case you missed it, I wrote about what forced a change of pace for me last year.
carasutra.com/2025/12/2025...
#ChronicIllness #Therapy #Health #UKblogger #MECFS
carasutra.com/2025/12/2025...
#ChronicIllness #Therapy #Health #UKblogger #MECFS