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Cara Sutra
@carasutra.bsky.social
UK-based, 40+ woman navigating midlife, perimenopause, chronic illness, trauma therapy & healing. Sharing personal & sex blog updates, BDSM/FemDom/male chastity interests. Spoonie. deaf 🦻 She/her. LGBTQIA+ πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆπŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ
Blog & links https://carasutra.com/start-page/
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Hi! πŸ‘‹ I'm a UK-based, 40+ woman navigating midlife, perimenopause, chronic illness, trauma therapy & healing.

Sharing personal updates plus my sex blog posts, BDSM/FemDom/male chastity interests.

Spoonie. She/her. LGBTQIA+ πŸ³οΈβ€πŸŒˆπŸ³οΈβ€βš§οΈ

All my links πŸ‘‰ carasutra.com/start-page/

Blog πŸ‘‰ carasutra.com
Cara Sutra Blog And Adult Product Reviews
Strictly 18+ blog by Cara Sutra. Discover educational and entertaining articles on the subject of sex & sexuality, plus adult product reviews.
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Strange, I remember the series being hinted at with her as one of the main characters at the end of Discovery. Oh well!
February 11, 2026 at 10:06 AM
On living with low libido. Perhaps the 'fix' is not trying to fix it.
No advice, just where I'm at right now.

This was a difficult one to write.

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Living with Low Libido in Midlife: Where I Am Right Now
It’s time to tell you all the things I haven’t been saying. A quiet, honest look at low libido, midlife, and where I am right now.
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February 11, 2026 at 9:36 AM
I really hope so. It's all I'm clinging on to at the moment.
February 11, 2026 at 8:53 AM
Watched the first couple of episodes of Star Trek: Starfleet Academy last night, and really enjoyed them.

Fun series so far, with laugh out loud moments as well as usual ST drama! 🌠😊

PS. Where's Tilly?! πŸ€”

#StarTrek #StarfleetAcademy #WhatImWatching #Trekkie #SciFi
February 11, 2026 at 8:52 AM
On loving winter: the slower pace, and permission to rest
Reasons to Love Winter: Deeper than Snowflake Aesthetics
Why I love winter as a season of rest, slowness, and survival, beyond cosy aesthetics and seasonal performance.
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February 10, 2026 at 9:35 PM
This is how I plan to protect my energy this year. Not always succeeding, but at least I'm trying, I guess.
How I’m Protecting My Energy In 2026
How I’m protecting my energy in 2026 by learning to listen to myself, respect my limits, and rest. My priorities and what I’m letting go.
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February 10, 2026 at 7:21 PM
Reposted by Cara Sutra
I've written a companion piece to the above, offering some practical tips when it comes to post-sex clean-up:

carasutra.com/2026/02/clea...
Turning Post-Sex Clean-Up Into Intimate Reconnection
What happens after sex matters. From bed to bathroom, this explores how clean-up can become part of intimacy, not the end of it.
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February 10, 2026 at 1:42 PM
I've written a companion piece to the above, offering some practical tips when it comes to post-sex clean-up:

carasutra.com/2026/02/clea...
Turning Post-Sex Clean-Up Into Intimate Reconnection
What happens after sex matters. From bed to bathroom, this explores how clean-up can become part of intimacy, not the end of it.
carasutra.com
February 10, 2026 at 1:42 PM
Fuck diet culture πŸ€·β€β™€οΈ
New Year Weight Loss Plans? Why I’m Choosing Nourishment Over Diets This January
A rallying cry against January diet culture and new year weight loss plans. Choosing nourishment, self-trust, and kindness over punishment.
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February 10, 2026 at 12:34 PM
Felt dizzy all yesterday and was so upset about my ongoing illnesses. Feel so betrayed by my own body tbh. Upsetting.
Anyway, slept well last night for a change, and feel more positive today.

#ChronicIllness #Disability #Spoonie
February 10, 2026 at 9:57 AM
How 2025 sent my life in a new, difficult direction.

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2025 Reflections: A Change Of Pace
My 2025 reflections on beginning trauma therapy & developing M.E. in perimenopause. Living with chronic illness has forced a change of pace.
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February 10, 2026 at 9:36 AM
Why I decided to go sober for the rest of my life
My Sobriety: Choosing the Sober Life When You’re Not an Alcoholic
My sobriety & choosing the sober life when you’re not an alcoholic. I’ve been sober almost 2 years, find out WHY & what I’ve learned so far!
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February 9, 2026 at 9:28 PM
Letting myself feel sadness without guilt
Allowing Sadness Without Guilt: Why I Let Myself Feel Sad
Exploring sadness: Why I let myself feel sad, and the mental & physical benefits of allowing sadness in your life without any guilt.
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February 9, 2026 at 7:21 PM
All these chatGPT caricatures have me feeling all kinds of 😬
February 9, 2026 at 12:57 PM
On being deaf: living with bilateral progressive hearing loss
Being deaf: High-Frequency Hearing Loss & Me
In this personal post, I write about being deaf, my high-frequency hearing loss & my deafness experiences in the UK. Plus, my shiny new hearing aids!
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February 9, 2026 at 12:32 PM
How perimenopause started for me
Hello Perimenopause | The Struggle To Be Believed & Get HRT
I didn’t β€˜reach’ perimenopause so much as it hunted me down & attacked me. My story: symptoms, struggle to be believed & get prescribed HRT.
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February 9, 2026 at 9:36 AM
Therapy again this morning.
I cried during, and I cried afterwards.
Perhaps it is progress
February 7, 2026 at 3:00 PM
Erotic self-exploration doesn't have to have an O as the destination.

Sometimes, you-time is better when you focus purely on pleasure.

carasutra.com/2025/07/how-...


#SexBlog #SexBlogging #SexAdvice #SexEducation #SexPositive #Intimacy #Pleasure #Consent #SexualWellness #Sexuality
How to Have Sex with Yourself: Self-Pleasure Beyond Masturbation
Discover how to have sex with yourself in ways that go far beyond masturbation… Explore mindgasms, sensuality, erotic breath play & tantra!
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February 6, 2026 at 7:21 PM
Yeah, same conclusion πŸ˜₯
February 6, 2026 at 5:57 PM
Another vile excuse for a human.
And in the church (surprise) and a 'pillar of the community'. Makes you wonder if you can trust anyone!
February 6, 2026 at 5:50 PM
Yuk. Freelanced for the BBC...

I don't know if these types gravitate towards the BBC, or if they're just more likely to eventually come to light due to the BBC. Which has scary ramifications for the rest of society. I mean either way it isn't good, but... Yeah. 😐
Bastards.
February 6, 2026 at 5:46 PM
😊
February 6, 2026 at 2:36 PM
Not sure but I definitely needed it! πŸ˜„
February 6, 2026 at 1:28 PM