Anna Seabourne
@annaseabo.bsky.social
Social scientist | Friction fighter | Calm mechanic
Circumnavigated the 🌍 without a credit card or phone so you don’t have to.
Helping non-extroverts live friction-free lives.
https://quietadvantage.com/calm
If you want to test if someone is talking BS, just ask them what they mean or to give an example, like Joe Rogan does here. Completely disarms Musk.
The look on Joe Rogan's face sat it all. Watch Elon Musk struggle to tell Rogan what makes Zohran Mamdani a "swindler." 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣👇
February 5, 2026 at 10:29 PM
If you want to test if someone is talking BS, just ask them what they mean or to give an example, like Joe Rogan does here. Completely disarms Musk.
Doubt is a self-preservation technique.
Your brain prefers you stay safe than try out new ventures. So it triggers doubt to make you slow down & test your motives & plans.
So long as your strategy & rationale are robust, you shouldn't see doubt as a signal to quit.
youtube.com/shorts/H1y6F...
Your brain prefers you stay safe than try out new ventures. So it triggers doubt to make you slow down & test your motives & plans.
So long as your strategy & rationale are robust, you shouldn't see doubt as a signal to quit.
youtube.com/shorts/H1y6F...
Doubt is a self-preservation mechanism
YouTube video by Anna Seabourne
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February 5, 2026 at 8:28 PM
Doubt is a self-preservation technique.
Your brain prefers you stay safe than try out new ventures. So it triggers doubt to make you slow down & test your motives & plans.
So long as your strategy & rationale are robust, you shouldn't see doubt as a signal to quit.
youtube.com/shorts/H1y6F...
Your brain prefers you stay safe than try out new ventures. So it triggers doubt to make you slow down & test your motives & plans.
So long as your strategy & rationale are robust, you shouldn't see doubt as a signal to quit.
youtube.com/shorts/H1y6F...
Day 3 / A-Z of Calm Mechanics
C is the CAVEMAN in your brain who’s kept your ancestors alive long enough to pass on their genes but finds modern life more confusing.
C is the CAVEMAN in your brain who’s kept your ancestors alive long enough to pass on their genes but finds modern life more confusing.
February 4, 2026 at 8:53 PM
Day 3 / A-Z of Calm Mechanics
C is the CAVEMAN in your brain who’s kept your ancestors alive long enough to pass on their genes but finds modern life more confusing.
C is the CAVEMAN in your brain who’s kept your ancestors alive long enough to pass on their genes but finds modern life more confusing.
Day 2 of the A-Z of Calm Mechanics is for BREATHING into the BELLY not to just deliver oxygen to your vital organs but to ensure you sound confident. youtube.com/shorts/Ej6Wz...
Day 2 of the A-Z of Calm Mechanics
YouTube video by Anna Seabourne
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February 3, 2026 at 7:06 PM
Day 2 of the A-Z of Calm Mechanics is for BREATHING into the BELLY not to just deliver oxygen to your vital organs but to ensure you sound confident. youtube.com/shorts/Ej6Wz...
A-Z of Calm Mechanics: helping you stay present under pressure
A is for ALERT / AMYGDALA / ALARM
A is for ALERT / AMYGDALA / ALARM
February 2, 2026 at 5:10 PM
A-Z of Calm Mechanics: helping you stay present under pressure
A is for ALERT / AMYGDALA / ALARM
A is for ALERT / AMYGDALA / ALARM
I’ve been working in the self-awareness field for over 20 years and I’m coming round to the idea that it’s better to describe myself as “I’m introverted” rather than “I’m an introvert”.
The former expresses some fluidity whereas the latter pigeonholes me.
What say you?
The former expresses some fluidity whereas the latter pigeonholes me.
What say you?
February 2, 2026 at 1:37 PM
I’ve been working in the self-awareness field for over 20 years and I’m coming round to the idea that it’s better to describe myself as “I’m introverted” rather than “I’m an introvert”.
The former expresses some fluidity whereas the latter pigeonholes me.
What say you?
The former expresses some fluidity whereas the latter pigeonholes me.
What say you?
Keep this in mind:
People perceive speaking first as being authoritative.
Extroverts speak without thinking. They do their thinking out loud. Their first thoughts don’t necessarily make sense.
Introverted souls prefer to think first to get their thoughts in order before speaking.
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People perceive speaking first as being authoritative.
Extroverts speak without thinking. They do their thinking out loud. Their first thoughts don’t necessarily make sense.
Introverted souls prefer to think first to get their thoughts in order before speaking.
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February 1, 2026 at 10:53 AM
Keep this in mind:
People perceive speaking first as being authoritative.
Extroverts speak without thinking. They do their thinking out loud. Their first thoughts don’t necessarily make sense.
Introverted souls prefer to think first to get their thoughts in order before speaking.
1/2
People perceive speaking first as being authoritative.
Extroverts speak without thinking. They do their thinking out loud. Their first thoughts don’t necessarily make sense.
Introverted souls prefer to think first to get their thoughts in order before speaking.
1/2
Ever wondered why you can feel both motivated yet overwhelmed to take action at the same time?
From Monday, I'll explain why.
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From Monday, I'll explain why.
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January 30, 2026 at 7:42 PM
Ever wondered why you can feel both motivated yet overwhelmed to take action at the same time?
From Monday, I'll explain why.
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From Monday, I'll explain why.
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Doubt is a self-preservation mechanism your brain 🧠 uses to make sure you tread carefully rather than being rash & putting yourself in danger.
January 28, 2026 at 9:57 PM
Doubt is a self-preservation mechanism your brain 🧠 uses to make sure you tread carefully rather than being rash & putting yourself in danger.
Panic is a reflex.
Calm is a choice.
Calm is a choice.
January 26, 2026 at 7:13 PM
Panic is a reflex.
Calm is a choice.
Calm is a choice.
People who proclaim “it’s the best thing ever” tend to be extroverted.
January 25, 2026 at 8:45 PM
People who proclaim “it’s the best thing ever” tend to be extroverted.
Reposted by Anna Seabourne
I ask one thing: do not confuse the intensity of your emotions...the ones we are all having right now...as being an accurate indication of what the best response to this would be. There are many times when those two...have little...to no connection in reality. I believe this is one of those times.
January 24, 2026 at 9:28 PM
I ask one thing: do not confuse the intensity of your emotions...the ones we are all having right now...as being an accurate indication of what the best response to this would be. There are many times when those two...have little...to no connection in reality. I believe this is one of those times.
Reliable small talk question (because everyone has an opinion) -
>>> Does pineapple belong on a pizza?
>>> Does pineapple belong on a pizza?
January 22, 2026 at 11:21 AM
Reliable small talk question (because everyone has an opinion) -
>>> Does pineapple belong on a pizza?
>>> Does pineapple belong on a pizza?
They may not admit it, but extroverts envy introverts’ self composure.
January 20, 2026 at 8:53 PM
They may not admit it, but extroverts envy introverts’ self composure.
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One reason social situations feel awkward is that we often don’t know why we’re really there.
We treat every event as the same.
They’re not.
Before any interaction, I ask myself a simple question: What’s the scenario?
One reason social situations feel awkward is that we often don’t know why we’re really there.
We treat every event as the same.
They’re not.
Before any interaction, I ask myself a simple question: What’s the scenario?
January 14, 2026 at 7:46 PM
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One reason social situations feel awkward is that we often don’t know why we’re really there.
We treat every event as the same.
They’re not.
Before any interaction, I ask myself a simple question: What’s the scenario?
One reason social situations feel awkward is that we often don’t know why we’re really there.
We treat every event as the same.
They’re not.
Before any interaction, I ask myself a simple question: What’s the scenario?
What do you wish people got right about you?
January 14, 2026 at 1:30 PM
What do you wish people got right about you?
🧵1/4 Introverts don’t dislike small talk because they have nothing to say.
On the contrary, introverts are often some of the most interesting people you’ll ever meet.
They simply loathe small talk because it forces them to speak spontaneously.
They actually prefer to think before they speak.
On the contrary, introverts are often some of the most interesting people you’ll ever meet.
They simply loathe small talk because it forces them to speak spontaneously.
They actually prefer to think before they speak.
January 13, 2026 at 7:42 PM
🧵1/4 Introverts don’t dislike small talk because they have nothing to say.
On the contrary, introverts are often some of the most interesting people you’ll ever meet.
They simply loathe small talk because it forces them to speak spontaneously.
They actually prefer to think before they speak.
On the contrary, introverts are often some of the most interesting people you’ll ever meet.
They simply loathe small talk because it forces them to speak spontaneously.
They actually prefer to think before they speak.
Ever notice how uncomfortable a new social event can feel?
It’s not nerves.
Or a lack of confidence.
It’s missing information.
• No shared history.
• No common jargon.
• No in-jokes.
• No clear hierarchy.
• No obvious safe topics.
That’s a lot for your brain to fill in on the fly.
It’s not nerves.
Or a lack of confidence.
It’s missing information.
• No shared history.
• No common jargon.
• No in-jokes.
• No clear hierarchy.
• No obvious safe topics.
That’s a lot for your brain to fill in on the fly.
January 12, 2026 at 7:26 PM
Ever notice how uncomfortable a new social event can feel?
It’s not nerves.
Or a lack of confidence.
It’s missing information.
• No shared history.
• No common jargon.
• No in-jokes.
• No clear hierarchy.
• No obvious safe topics.
That’s a lot for your brain to fill in on the fly.
It’s not nerves.
Or a lack of confidence.
It’s missing information.
• No shared history.
• No common jargon.
• No in-jokes.
• No clear hierarchy.
• No obvious safe topics.
That’s a lot for your brain to fill in on the fly.
Extroverts will have everyone believe that introverts are anti-social.
But we know we’re simply selective as to how we spend our free time: quality over quantity every time!
But we know we’re simply selective as to how we spend our free time: quality over quantity every time!
January 9, 2026 at 9:34 PM
Extroverts will have everyone believe that introverts are anti-social.
But we know we’re simply selective as to how we spend our free time: quality over quantity every time!
But we know we’re simply selective as to how we spend our free time: quality over quantity every time!
Winter: the season when you can historically open any conversation with “isn’t it cold?!”
Climate change however produces fewer cold 🥶 days.
Climate change however produces fewer cold 🥶 days.
January 7, 2026 at 9:47 PM
Winter: the season when you can historically open any conversation with “isn’t it cold?!”
Climate change however produces fewer cold 🥶 days.
Climate change however produces fewer cold 🥶 days.
Extroverts speak off the cuff. They literally think out loud.
Resist listening to every word but to the overall gist and then challenge them on that.
It will help them clarify their thoughts and allow you to lead the conversation.
Resist listening to every word but to the overall gist and then challenge them on that.
It will help them clarify their thoughts and allow you to lead the conversation.
January 6, 2026 at 11:06 AM
Extroverts speak off the cuff. They literally think out loud.
Resist listening to every word but to the overall gist and then challenge them on that.
It will help them clarify their thoughts and allow you to lead the conversation.
Resist listening to every word but to the overall gist and then challenge them on that.
It will help them clarify their thoughts and allow you to lead the conversation.
When introverts feel stressed, they retreat to their shell to gather themselves.
The last thing they want to do is talk about it, cos this is too draining when their energy reserves are low or depleted.
The last thing they want to do is talk about it, cos this is too draining when their energy reserves are low or depleted.
January 5, 2026 at 4:30 PM
When introverts feel stressed, they retreat to their shell to gather themselves.
The last thing they want to do is talk about it, cos this is too draining when their energy reserves are low or depleted.
The last thing they want to do is talk about it, cos this is too draining when their energy reserves are low or depleted.
Panic stems from fear. Fear of what only you will know. But take the time to pinpoint the cause to learn something about yourself, thus increasing your self-knowledge.
January 3, 2026 at 5:14 PM
Panic stems from fear. Fear of what only you will know. But take the time to pinpoint the cause to learn something about yourself, thus increasing your self-knowledge.
What behaviour or attitude transforms confidence into arrogance?
January 2, 2026 at 11:55 AM
What behaviour or attitude transforms confidence into arrogance?