iirc they wore helmets like the daft punk guys

they were crowd surfing on big inflatable swan shaped pool tubes

i did an lot of coke at a strfkr show in college. pretty transcendent experience

sorry i meant (former)

this is why i sort of fell off from [redacted]

tryna sell a sense of profoundness. so dumb dude

insight pornographer?

ok yea so going back to the OP, the operative questions are:

1) who do i think i will be cocreating a life with in ~20 years? and how do i decide if a new friend has crossed that threshold?

2) how much energy should i be putting into those relationships v. pursuing and developing new ones?

ofc there are many other good ways to organize people socially, and i am talking about something really ambitious and unpragmatic (possibly unrealistic)

but this is basically what i’m trying to create

but afaict this is how you generate cohesive scenes. there needs to be socially enforced obligations to show up (opt-out vs. opt-in), and a clear sense of ingroup (who is really a part of it, and who is just adjacent)

eventually you need to enforce (both personally and as a group):

- a degree of exclusivity, and
- expectations of commitment

this is subversive to mainstream social culture and also can appear “cultish” from the outside

lots of ppl want to live in tight knit community w their best homies. and i think during covid this went mainstream. but it’s really really hard to implement as adults, esp w social and romantic relationships that are incompatible/external to the community

so the question that follows is: how do you populate your life with a network of people who represent those things, and [IMPORTANT] are committed to doing it with you and each other over a period of literally ~decades~

“community” and “belonging” are 👍 and for me it’s basically settled that life is about shared experience w people you love and trust (+ who can support/challenge/stimulate/care for you)