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Mid-recovery - stealing my humanity back one mistake at a time.
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#Dissociatives #Therapists
Those who dissociate: Do you even have a 'flight' response? Or under stress do you default to 'fight' or 'freeze'?
Those who dissociate: Do you even have a 'flight' response? Or under stress do you default to 'fight' or 'freeze'?
April 10, 2025 at 8:27 AM
#Dissociatives #Therapists
Those who dissociate: Do you even have a 'flight' response? Or under stress do you default to 'fight' or 'freeze'?
Those who dissociate: Do you even have a 'flight' response? Or under stress do you default to 'fight' or 'freeze'?
#Dissociatives #Therapists
Ever find yourselves / clients stuck shifting between three power modes: Overload, Shutdown and Standby.
Ever find yourselves / clients stuck shifting between three power modes: Overload, Shutdown and Standby.
February 24, 2025 at 5:30 AM
#Dissociatives #Therapists
Ever find yourselves / clients stuck shifting between three power modes: Overload, Shutdown and Standby.
Ever find yourselves / clients stuck shifting between three power modes: Overload, Shutdown and Standby.
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#Dissociation #Therapy
Long term, Dissociation disorders can feel like being robbed of your life, living a hollow life, a changeling, an imitation, a room behind a closed door. Dissociatives need to stop hiding & get diagnosed: be seen & be validated: we are real, we do matter, we do exist x
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Long term, Dissociation disorders can feel like being robbed of your life, living a hollow life, a changeling, an imitation, a room behind a closed door. Dissociatives need to stop hiding & get diagnosed: be seen & be validated: we are real, we do matter, we do exist x
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February 16, 2025 at 10:42 AM
#Dissociation #Therapy
Long term, Dissociation disorders can feel like being robbed of your life, living a hollow life, a changeling, an imitation, a room behind a closed door. Dissociatives need to stop hiding & get diagnosed: be seen & be validated: we are real, we do matter, we do exist x
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Long term, Dissociation disorders can feel like being robbed of your life, living a hollow life, a changeling, an imitation, a room behind a closed door. Dissociatives need to stop hiding & get diagnosed: be seen & be validated: we are real, we do matter, we do exist x
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You lock yourself in a safe room as a child & throw away the key to try to keep some small fragment of you involatile... only when attempting to get out you realise it wasn't a safe room but a prison cell, you're locked in. AND you've become institutionalised.
February 15, 2025 at 7:57 AM
You lock yourself in a safe room as a child & throw away the key to try to keep some small fragment of you involatile... only when attempting to get out you realise it wasn't a safe room but a prison cell, you're locked in. AND you've become institutionalised.
'If that's how I feel to myself darling, I really don't envy you. If you love me despite of it I'm forever yours: you are my love, my soul and my healer'.
Happy Valentines Day!
Happy Valentines Day!
February 14, 2025 at 9:30 AM
'If that's how I feel to myself darling, I really don't envy you. If you love me despite of it I'm forever yours: you are my love, my soul and my healer'.
Happy Valentines Day!
Happy Valentines Day!
#dissociatives #therapists Ever noticed being disconnected from your own thoughts as they occur, like they are being plucked from a well? What do you think or even do about that? If not, do you notice it now I've said it?
February 14, 2025 at 9:13 AM
#dissociatives #therapists Ever noticed being disconnected from your own thoughts as they occur, like they are being plucked from a well? What do you think or even do about that? If not, do you notice it now I've said it?
(paraphrasing) A querent asked Fritz Perls what they would do when they left, he wasn't their psychiatrist - he replied 'take me with you' referring his 'empty chair' technique (gestalt therapy).
DiD I end up inviting in my own therapist?
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DiD I end up inviting in my own therapist?
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February 13, 2025 at 12:12 PM
(paraphrasing) A querent asked Fritz Perls what they would do when they left, he wasn't their psychiatrist - he replied 'take me with you' referring his 'empty chair' technique (gestalt therapy).
DiD I end up inviting in my own therapist?
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DiD I end up inviting in my own therapist?
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(cont) but how can you be vigilant to self-sabotage yet not focus on trauma???
Answer? People need to know. Isolating yourself by hiding it or 'high-functioning' is avoidance. Understanding people knowing what to watch for can gently and safely help you recognise the signs & 'course correct'.
Answer? People need to know. Isolating yourself by hiding it or 'high-functioning' is avoidance. Understanding people knowing what to watch for can gently and safely help you recognise the signs & 'course correct'.
February 13, 2025 at 12:01 PM
(cont) but how can you be vigilant to self-sabotage yet not focus on trauma???
Answer? People need to know. Isolating yourself by hiding it or 'high-functioning' is avoidance. Understanding people knowing what to watch for can gently and safely help you recognise the signs & 'course correct'.
Answer? People need to know. Isolating yourself by hiding it or 'high-functioning' is avoidance. Understanding people knowing what to watch for can gently and safely help you recognise the signs & 'course correct'.
(Cont)
'how does that make you feel' should not be a question restricted to understanding feelings of trauma but to feelings of anti-trauma; 'joy'. What brings you joy hides what you lack and suffer for?
'how does that make you feel' should not be a question restricted to understanding feelings of trauma but to feelings of anti-trauma; 'joy'. What brings you joy hides what you lack and suffer for?
February 13, 2025 at 11:55 AM
(Cont)
'how does that make you feel' should not be a question restricted to understanding feelings of trauma but to feelings of anti-trauma; 'joy'. What brings you joy hides what you lack and suffer for?
'how does that make you feel' should not be a question restricted to understanding feelings of trauma but to feelings of anti-trauma; 'joy'. What brings you joy hides what you lack and suffer for?
Triggers. They send you down, so you focus on them & teach yourself to recognise to avoid them. Yet? 🤔 Perhaps we need to shift the focus away from the trauma and discover those other 'triggers', those that send us up? Reorientate our focus to recognise & pursue the life-affirming?
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February 13, 2025 at 11:46 AM
Triggers. They send you down, so you focus on them & teach yourself to recognise to avoid them. Yet? 🤔 Perhaps we need to shift the focus away from the trauma and discover those other 'triggers', those that send us up? Reorientate our focus to recognise & pursue the life-affirming?
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Being 'forced to lie' to maintain an camoflage of normality is stressful & exausting. Defense mechanisms work to avoid percieved consequences like punishment, rejection, or harm, stemming from fear, low self-esteem, leading to feelings of guilt & anxiety.
?This is high-functioning?
?This is high-functioning?
February 13, 2025 at 2:00 AM
Being 'forced to lie' to maintain an camoflage of normality is stressful & exausting. Defense mechanisms work to avoid percieved consequences like punishment, rejection, or harm, stemming from fear, low self-esteem, leading to feelings of guilt & anxiety.
?This is high-functioning?
?This is high-functioning?
I'm beginning to wonder how deeply automatic writing is connected to dissociation?
February 13, 2025 at 12:19 AM
I'm beginning to wonder how deeply automatic writing is connected to dissociation?
So imagine creatively visualising the encounter of going to therapy over & over in your head before actually going to therapy & in the process talking yourself out of it.
Wellll... I've done it, who needs it now?!?
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Wellll... I've done it, who needs it now?!?
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February 12, 2025 at 11:08 AM
So imagine creatively visualising the encounter of going to therapy over & over in your head before actually going to therapy & in the process talking yourself out of it.
Wellll... I've done it, who needs it now?!?
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Wellll... I've done it, who needs it now?!?
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Nobody can stand truth if it is told to them. Truth can be tolerated only if you discover it yourself because then, the pride of discovery makes the truth palatable.
- 'Fritz' Perls
- 'Fritz' Perls
February 12, 2025 at 10:06 AM
Nobody can stand truth if it is told to them. Truth can be tolerated only if you discover it yourself because then, the pride of discovery makes the truth palatable.
- 'Fritz' Perls
- 'Fritz' Perls
Did the pop test. Wow. Wow. Just wow and ... wow. And thought I was doing well - it appears my feel may disagree 🙃.
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February 12, 2025 at 9:11 AM
Did the pop test. Wow. Wow. Just wow and ... wow. And thought I was doing well - it appears my feel may disagree 🙃.
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The fact bluesky doesn't seem to let you post-edit is probably a blessing, I would be doing it all day 😏 as my defensive mind plays it over... and over... and over...
February 12, 2025 at 8:32 AM
The fact bluesky doesn't seem to let you post-edit is probably a blessing, I would be doing it all day 😏 as my defensive mind plays it over... and over... and over...
One misspell / autocorrection on a post (an in instead of is) and I felt driven to post edit it to delete my mistake. P-a-i-n-f-u-l perfectionism.
I'm leaving both up, stupid brain... 🙁 [strikethrough] silly. [recognising self-criticism].
Do you soothe yourselves in constructive ways?
I'm leaving both up, stupid brain... 🙁 [strikethrough] silly. [recognising self-criticism].
Do you soothe yourselves in constructive ways?
February 12, 2025 at 8:28 AM
One misspell / autocorrection on a post (an in instead of is) and I felt driven to post edit it to delete my mistake. P-a-i-n-f-u-l perfectionism.
I'm leaving both up, stupid brain... 🙁 [strikethrough] silly. [recognising self-criticism].
Do you soothe yourselves in constructive ways?
I'm leaving both up, stupid brain... 🙁 [strikethrough] silly. [recognising self-criticism].
Do you soothe yourselves in constructive ways?
When I catch myself 'not feeling' I've begun to realise I'm suffering. Started deliberately using it as a spur to be friendly / loving / thoughtful in the hope 'projecting' is a two way street.
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Heart ❤️ 4 / 🧠 6
February 12, 2025 at 8:20 AM
When I catch myself 'not feeling' I've begun to realise I'm suffering. Started deliberately using it as a spur to be friendly / loving / thoughtful in the hope 'projecting' is a two way street.
Heart ❤️ 4 / 🧠 6
Heart ❤️ 4 / 🧠 6
When I catch myself 'not feeling' I've begun to realise I'm suffering. Started deliberately using it as a spur to be friendly / loving / thoughtful in the hope 'projecting' in a two way street.
Heart ❤️ 4 / 🧠 6
Heart ❤️ 4 / 🧠 6
February 12, 2025 at 8:18 AM
When I catch myself 'not feeling' I've begun to realise I'm suffering. Started deliberately using it as a spur to be friendly / loving / thoughtful in the hope 'projecting' in a two way street.
Heart ❤️ 4 / 🧠 6
Heart ❤️ 4 / 🧠 6
Ah, overexplaining is Intellectualization. It's a defence mechanism / trauma response. To avoid
being misunderstood or seek internal validation.
Thinking avoids feeling?
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being misunderstood or seek internal validation.
Thinking avoids feeling?
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February 12, 2025 at 8:16 AM
Ah, overexplaining is Intellectualization. It's a defence mechanism / trauma response. To avoid
being misunderstood or seek internal validation.
Thinking avoids feeling?
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being misunderstood or seek internal validation.
Thinking avoids feeling?
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Suffer from (what I call) 'painful perfectionism'? I do mean suffer. I think it's linked to the need to 'explain' everything through fear of being misunderstood (caregivers punished & didn't listen). Perhaps a marker for low self-esteem?
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February 12, 2025 at 7:56 AM
Suffer from (what I call) 'painful perfectionism'? I do mean suffer. I think it's linked to the need to 'explain' everything through fear of being misunderstood (caregivers punished & didn't listen). Perhaps a marker for low self-esteem?
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