I've honestly never met someone who has BPD that's not also on the spectrum or has like ADHD or dyslexia or some other kind of neurodivergentcy. I'm pretty sure it's just a combo of cptsd and a neurodivergentcy like that, not something wrong with your personality

BPD just shifts blame from your neurodivergence to your personality that's why they call it bad person disorder lol

I'm in the same country as New York