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@xphtherapy.com
UK counsellor with ADHD, autism, physical & invisible disabilities. Member of the LGBTQIA+ community.
Samaritans is a charity offering 24/7 confidential emotional support for anyone distressed, struggling to cope, or having thoughts of harming themselves. They listen, don’t judge, don’t give advice or tell you what to do. Their free UK helpline number is 116 123. #counselling #therapy #reflections
November 25, 2025 at 10:31 AM
Samaritans is a charity offering 24/7 confidential emotional support for anyone distressed, struggling to cope, or having thoughts of harming themselves. They listen, don’t judge, don’t give advice or tell you what to do. Their free UK helpline number is 116 123. #counselling #therapy #reflections
#Humour can show up in #therapy - sometimes from clients, sometimes (carefully, respectfully) from me. It’s never about making light of someone’s pain, and it’s not something that fits every moment or person. But it can loosen tension and help to open up space for honesty. That can be #therapeutic.
November 25, 2025 at 10:20 AM
#Humour can show up in #therapy - sometimes from clients, sometimes (carefully, respectfully) from me. It’s never about making light of someone’s pain, and it’s not something that fits every moment or person. But it can loosen tension and help to open up space for honesty. That can be #therapeutic.
A no filler guide to #attachmentstyles. Do any of them sound like you? There's no bad to gaining better understanding of ourselves and if there are any issues in life around your #attachment style, a #counsellor can help as these styles are not forever fixed. #counselling #therapy
November 25, 2025 at 10:04 AM
A no filler guide to #attachmentstyles. Do any of them sound like you? There's no bad to gaining better understanding of ourselves and if there are any issues in life around your #attachment style, a #counsellor can help as these styles are not forever fixed. #counselling #therapy
#Boundaries shouldn't be difficult to understand and actually, they aren't. It can be hard to keep yours maintained but it's important that you do if you're not comfortable. #counselling #therapy
November 25, 2025 at 9:55 AM
#Boundaries shouldn't be difficult to understand and actually, they aren't. It can be hard to keep yours maintained but it's important that you do if you're not comfortable. #counselling #therapy
November 25, 2025 at 9:52 AM
If you have ❤️ and care for someone in mental distress with bad thoughts, like they're not worth anything or hate who they are, share this picture with them as a gentle way of introducing a different perspective.
#selfimage #love #support #kindness #compassion
#selfimage #love #support #kindness #compassion
November 4, 2025 at 12:15 AM
If you have ❤️ and care for someone in mental distress with bad thoughts, like they're not worth anything or hate who they are, share this picture with them as a gentle way of introducing a different perspective.
#selfimage #love #support #kindness #compassion
#selfimage #love #support #kindness #compassion
The mysterious ability of #intuition to assess people and situations seemingly without involving active thoughts and emotions can sometimes provide us with clarity in signalling something isn't right. #poetry #poems #counselling #therapy
October 25, 2025 at 7:35 AM
The mysterious ability of #intuition to assess people and situations seemingly without involving active thoughts and emotions can sometimes provide us with clarity in signalling something isn't right. #poetry #poems #counselling #therapy
When we are stretched too thin by life's demands, it can feel as if everything is dissatisfying, difficult, and upsetting. #Therapy can help us get more out of living and find joy. If you're in the #UK looking for a #counsellor, do please consider getting in touch - link on my profile page.
October 20, 2025 at 8:17 AM
When we are stretched too thin by life's demands, it can feel as if everything is dissatisfying, difficult, and upsetting. #Therapy can help us get more out of living and find joy. If you're in the #UK looking for a #counsellor, do please consider getting in touch - link on my profile page.
In #counselling, we may explore parts of ourselves we believe to be #broken. Yet it is in those very cracks that #love & #compassion can enter. #Healing does not mean erasing #grief or #longing. Even in brokenness, you are worthy of being seen, heard, & supported.
#therapy #BrokenButHealing
#therapy #BrokenButHealing
September 17, 2025 at 12:20 AM
In #counselling, we may explore parts of ourselves we believe to be #broken. Yet it is in those very cracks that #love & #compassion can enter. #Healing does not mean erasing #grief or #longing. Even in brokenness, you are worthy of being seen, heard, & supported.
#therapy #BrokenButHealing
#therapy #BrokenButHealing
Without taking risks, there are times when the story can’t move forward - it stays stuck on the same page. Why are you still with him when you don't love him? Why do you stay in a job that is impacting on your health?
#counselling #therapy #risktaking #opportunities #love #career
#counselling #therapy #risktaking #opportunities #love #career
September 15, 2025 at 5:22 AM
Without taking risks, there are times when the story can’t move forward - it stays stuck on the same page. Why are you still with him when you don't love him? Why do you stay in a job that is impacting on your health?
#counselling #therapy #risktaking #opportunities #love #career
#counselling #therapy #risktaking #opportunities #love #career
When life feels overwhelming, people who truly love you will understand your need for #space. Your #counsellor will also get it, providing you with a #nonjudgmental #safespace where you can pause, breathe, and find your way back to yourself, rediscovering your strength at your own pace.
September 3, 2025 at 5:10 PM
When life feels overwhelming, people who truly love you will understand your need for #space. Your #counsellor will also get it, providing you with a #nonjudgmental #safespace where you can pause, breathe, and find your way back to yourself, rediscovering your strength at your own pace.
#Relationship #breakups can feel like devastation, but they also create the space for something new to grow. In #counselling, we explore the #grief, the #loss & the #rebuilding - at your pace, in your way.
Together in #therapy, we can help you make sense of the past & start shaping your future.
Together in #therapy, we can help you make sense of the past & start shaping your future.
August 28, 2025 at 8:51 PM
#Relationship #breakups can feel like devastation, but they also create the space for something new to grow. In #counselling, we explore the #grief, the #loss & the #rebuilding - at your pace, in your way.
Together in #therapy, we can help you make sense of the past & start shaping your future.
Together in #therapy, we can help you make sense of the past & start shaping your future.
The destructive #behaviour of a #malicious #gossip is an inappropriate and ineffective response to unaddressed #trauma, where they experienced people and situations as #abusive or #painful in other ways. #Healing is possible. #therapy #counselling
August 20, 2025 at 9:48 PM
The destructive #behaviour of a #malicious #gossip is an inappropriate and ineffective response to unaddressed #trauma, where they experienced people and situations as #abusive or #painful in other ways. #Healing is possible. #therapy #counselling
Adults, through a supported & safe #therapeutic journey of #self-discovery, may find their difficulties originate in the way their minds & bodies responded to #neglect experienced in #childhood.
Although you didn't get love & care as a child, it doesn't mean you're unworthy of it.
Although you didn't get love & care as a child, it doesn't mean you're unworthy of it.
August 13, 2025 at 2:50 AM
Adults, through a supported & safe #therapeutic journey of #self-discovery, may find their difficulties originate in the way their minds & bodies responded to #neglect experienced in #childhood.
Although you didn't get love & care as a child, it doesn't mean you're unworthy of it.
Although you didn't get love & care as a child, it doesn't mean you're unworthy of it.
We gain, grow, and ultimately become the person others turn to for #friendship and #love by holding strong to values that build and reinforce #confidence in our own selves and the decisions we make. #counselling #therapy #trust #love #safespace
August 4, 2025 at 7:59 AM
We gain, grow, and ultimately become the person others turn to for #friendship and #love by holding strong to values that build and reinforce #confidence in our own selves and the decisions we make. #counselling #therapy #trust #love #safespace
Children who get unconditional love from parents don't usually recognise it or know it's rare. They may come to appreciate how precious it is later in their lives when those who gave it to them are nearing or have reached the end of their journeys.
#counselling #therapy #unconditionallove
#counselling #therapy #unconditionallove
August 2, 2025 at 1:16 PM
Children who get unconditional love from parents don't usually recognise it or know it's rare. They may come to appreciate how precious it is later in their lives when those who gave it to them are nearing or have reached the end of their journeys.
#counselling #therapy #unconditionallove
#counselling #therapy #unconditionallove
When we quit masking the unpleasant tastes and odours of other people's bad behaviours and overcooked lies, we wake up to an awareness that the end of the meal for two or more is approaching.
#relationships #metaphors #freedom #emotionalindigestion #relationshipreflux
#relationships #metaphors #freedom #emotionalindigestion #relationshipreflux
August 1, 2025 at 9:43 PM
When we quit masking the unpleasant tastes and odours of other people's bad behaviours and overcooked lies, we wake up to an awareness that the end of the meal for two or more is approaching.
#relationships #metaphors #freedom #emotionalindigestion #relationshipreflux
#relationships #metaphors #freedom #emotionalindigestion #relationshipreflux
When you're focused on helping someone unwilling to help themself, it is emotionally and psychologically draining. It leads to burnout, frustration, and a sense of failure.
#counselling #therapy #helping #burnout #carers
#counselling #therapy #helping #burnout #carers
July 31, 2025 at 9:41 AM
When you're focused on helping someone unwilling to help themself, it is emotionally and psychologically draining. It leads to burnout, frustration, and a sense of failure.
#counselling #therapy #helping #burnout #carers
#counselling #therapy #helping #burnout #carers
Many of us have done awful things at times that appear senseless & foolish with hindsight, burning bridges, damaging others. It isn't possible to go back in time but we can make amends, learn from what we did, become the people we want to be. #friendships #relationships #therapy #counselling
July 31, 2025 at 8:11 AM
Many of us have done awful things at times that appear senseless & foolish with hindsight, burning bridges, damaging others. It isn't possible to go back in time but we can make amends, learn from what we did, become the people we want to be. #friendships #relationships #therapy #counselling
We become stronger when we acknowledge our #vulnerabilities because only then are we able to start the work of addressing them or find ways to work around them. #counselling #therapy #becoming #selfknowledge #awareness
July 29, 2025 at 10:33 AM
We become stronger when we acknowledge our #vulnerabilities because only then are we able to start the work of addressing them or find ways to work around them. #counselling #therapy #becoming #selfknowledge #awareness
#Gratitude can sustain us mentally and emotionally through both good times and hard times. It is genuine #appreciation and #honesty that can make another person's day or help you get through yours.
July 28, 2025 at 11:38 PM
#Gratitude can sustain us mentally and emotionally through both good times and hard times. It is genuine #appreciation and #honesty that can make another person's day or help you get through yours.
There are no fixed outcomes to what we go through. Everyone is different. Behavioural traits exist, though, that can sometimes be tracked back to childhood. As adults, we may find they get in the way of our happiness and connections to others. #counselling #therapy #abandonment #neglect
July 27, 2025 at 10:42 AM
There are no fixed outcomes to what we go through. Everyone is different. Behavioural traits exist, though, that can sometimes be tracked back to childhood. As adults, we may find they get in the way of our happiness and connections to others. #counselling #therapy #abandonment #neglect
Self-care is not about individualism, it is about the individual being kind to themself. You remain accountable to others; self-care as terminology is not a licence to justify selfish behaviour, or to ignore the needs of others. #counselling #therapy #selfcare
July 26, 2025 at 11:14 AM
Self-care is not about individualism, it is about the individual being kind to themself. You remain accountable to others; self-care as terminology is not a licence to justify selfish behaviour, or to ignore the needs of others. #counselling #therapy #selfcare
Resolution of many things comes through work that involves respectful listening as the foundation for change. #counselling #therapy #communication #difference
July 26, 2025 at 10:30 AM
Resolution of many things comes through work that involves respectful listening as the foundation for change. #counselling #therapy #communication #difference