Val Delane
@valdelane.net
Autodidact, Capricious Optimist, Dork, Gender Mashup, Holist, N-Dimensional Queer, Neurospicy, Perpetual Experiment, Postmodern Humanist, Pragmatist, Reductionist, Self-Rescuing Princess, Sentinel, Social Synapse, Systems Engineer
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Yes, though I had the significant advantage of being nearly indispensable (literally last person on Earth able + willing to maintain and troubleshoot application-level operations of a profitable but obstreperous hosted product through EOL) and higher management knew that.
November 21, 2025 at 12:32 AM
Yes, though I had the significant advantage of being nearly indispensable (literally last person on Earth able + willing to maintain and troubleshoot application-level operations of a profitable but obstreperous hosted product through EOL) and higher management knew that.
(Actual quote from me)
November 20, 2025 at 11:35 PM
(Actual quote from me)
In light of my dwindling capacity for emotional labor at work and continuing struggle of adapting to your management style—I would like to streamline things if possible. Can there be less striving at Leadership and Relationship? May we simply focus on technical, logistical, and policy matters?
November 20, 2025 at 11:35 PM
In light of my dwindling capacity for emotional labor at work and continuing struggle of adapting to your management style—I would like to streamline things if possible. Can there be less striving at Leadership and Relationship? May we simply focus on technical, logistical, and policy matters?
The very short story you sent me yesterday is so beautiful I got a shiver and goosebumps at the end, followed by tears. I don't know if that's what you're referring to, but a gift anyway.
November 16, 2025 at 5:52 PM
The very short story you sent me yesterday is so beautiful I got a shiver and goosebumps at the end, followed by tears. I don't know if that's what you're referring to, but a gift anyway.
It's not a bad space; it's even somewhat comfortable. But the fact is this is a cage, one that I built for myself. Long-term circumstances must play out before I can begin to disassemble it.
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November 10, 2025 at 11:43 PM
It's not a bad space; it's even somewhat comfortable. But the fact is this is a cage, one that I built for myself. Long-term circumstances must play out before I can begin to disassemble it.
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…the big question is how to define and find trusted groups. It's like trying to decide who to invite to different parties, what level of intimacy feels appropriate. This fracturing leads to some people feeling more isolated as they are less connected and have lower visibility into cozy spaces. 2/2
November 6, 2025 at 10:46 PM
…the big question is how to define and find trusted groups. It's like trying to decide who to invite to different parties, what level of intimacy feels appropriate. This fracturing leads to some people feeling more isolated as they are less connected and have lower visibility into cozy spaces. 2/2
While public social networks are still popular to share/forward non-personal content, it seems like personal content has been moving to the "cozy web" (private groups) over the last decade. Obvs for actual privacy one has to use E2EE apps for the group chats. Besides platform choice, 1/2
November 6, 2025 at 10:46 PM
While public social networks are still popular to share/forward non-personal content, it seems like personal content has been moving to the "cozy web" (private groups) over the last decade. Obvs for actual privacy one has to use E2EE apps for the group chats. Besides platform choice, 1/2
Love the writing updates. Can't wait to read your new Los Angeles story!
November 1, 2025 at 11:27 PM
Love the writing updates. Can't wait to read your new Los Angeles story!
This is more true than I like.
October 29, 2025 at 10:25 PM
This is more true than I like.
Yes, the diving reflex is great! I hold breath & dunk entire face into bowl of ice and water for >= 30 seconds, catch breath, repeat 5 times. Helps me & nearly everyone I know who's tried it. Effect might last only an hour or 2, but that's long enough to for kind & rational self-talk to take over.
October 24, 2025 at 11:31 PM
Yes, the diving reflex is great! I hold breath & dunk entire face into bowl of ice and water for >= 30 seconds, catch breath, repeat 5 times. Helps me & nearly everyone I know who's tried it. Effect might last only an hour or 2, but that's long enough to for kind & rational self-talk to take over.