And my church choir director is grateful!

Zekher tzadik livrakha.

Nobody ever asks what a man is, though. They're all too hung up on the definition of woman.

I am in our church choir, and we sing at most funerals. I often find myself grieving not having known the deceased as well as I might have. I agree, it's important to be there for fellow parishioners and their families at the very end.