Also can I just say I ran into an ex this week while he was wearing his police uniform and I was looking like a kept husband. I always look like I have a man paying my bills, but let it be clear, it is all me. He looked shocked at my flourishment.

Anyway. He looked on duty and dehydrated.

There is something to be said about the parent-child bond which is forever in need of healing:

Parents can be medicine for their children if they chose to. There's no reason a child should bear the brunt of generational baggage alone because their ancestors found them strong to heal the bloodline.

I'm realizing something:

It's not that I thought cuddles were a waste of time, on the contrary; I say you're more likely to love cuddles with someone whose presence you actually enjoy. And my sense is that I didn't enjoy some of the men from my past. And now I know why.