In the end what I want you to take from this is that accountability is a lie made to hurt underprivileged members. When you can be shunned for fucking up and being shunned is something that will kill you, you live with a gun on your head. This is a bad thing. "Hurting abusers" (mob justice) is bad.

It will not be easy, it will not be painless. Nothing is. But it will be better, so much better. It will be a life worth living.