Also, differences between typical feminine and masculine dance style? I want to look less femme and it irks me that I can only learn "girlie style" in most studios

My biggest problem is having no grip/ strength so I can't learn certain moves (chair spin! Ugh!). My legs are strong from ballet, but my teacher assumes strong arms/ weak legs so I struggle a lot in class with moves everyone else can do but me 🫤 but can do standing crucifix for ten minutes np