Tohirako
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An empowered apology liberates the speaker—
Constriction relaxes
Stories drop away
Fear dissipates
Clarity emerges
Habits resolve
Connection deepens
Constriction relaxes
Stories drop away
Fear dissipates
Clarity emerges
Habits resolve
Connection deepens
July 26, 2025 at 3:26 AM
An empowered apology liberates the speaker—
Constriction relaxes
Stories drop away
Fear dissipates
Clarity emerges
Habits resolve
Connection deepens
Constriction relaxes
Stories drop away
Fear dissipates
Clarity emerges
Habits resolve
Connection deepens
“…that is happiness; to be dissolved into something complete and great.” (Willa Cather)
June 5, 2025 at 1:38 AM
“…that is happiness; to be dissolved into something complete and great.” (Willa Cather)
The voice in my head that says “this is me” is no different from the toddler who thinks that their thoughts control the weather.
May 21, 2025 at 3:44 AM
The voice in my head that says “this is me” is no different from the toddler who thinks that their thoughts control the weather.
“Your body is not a machine, but rather a wonderfully intricate interaction with everything around you, which is why it ‘knows’ so much just in being.”
-Eugene T. Gendlin (Focusing)
-Eugene T. Gendlin (Focusing)
May 20, 2025 at 3:01 AM
“Your body is not a machine, but rather a wonderfully intricate interaction with everything around you, which is why it ‘knows’ so much just in being.”
-Eugene T. Gendlin (Focusing)
-Eugene T. Gendlin (Focusing)
“[The] goal-directed way is fully absorbed by the intention to possess.”
Byung-Chul Han
Byung-Chul Han
April 16, 2025 at 3:18 AM
“[The] goal-directed way is fully absorbed by the intention to possess.”
Byung-Chul Han
Byung-Chul Han
Trying to engineer a life without pain is the surest way to guarantee you encounter it
April 15, 2025 at 1:35 AM
Trying to engineer a life without pain is the surest way to guarantee you encounter it
No reason to shame yourself for grasping
All of how you are is deeply human and natural
All that’s needed is to welcome—and love—those parts of you that are ashamed of themselves
All of how you are is deeply human and natural
All that’s needed is to welcome—and love—those parts of you that are ashamed of themselves
April 14, 2025 at 2:29 AM
No reason to shame yourself for grasping
All of how you are is deeply human and natural
All that’s needed is to welcome—and love—those parts of you that are ashamed of themselves
All of how you are is deeply human and natural
All that’s needed is to welcome—and love—those parts of you that are ashamed of themselves
“When things fall apart and we’re on the verge of we know not what, the test for each of us is to stay on the brink and not concretize.”
- Pema Chodron
- Pema Chodron
April 13, 2025 at 5:29 AM
“When things fall apart and we’re on the verge of we know not what, the test for each of us is to stay on the brink and not concretize.”
- Pema Chodron
- Pema Chodron
Forcing yourself to do the scary thing is actually just another way to not trust yourself
April 11, 2025 at 11:02 PM
Forcing yourself to do the scary thing is actually just another way to not trust yourself
Alignment is a process, not a state
April 10, 2025 at 5:35 PM
Alignment is a process, not a state
Sometimes the best way to still the pond is to first stir it into an absolute frenzy. At the very least, everything will settle into a new configuration.
April 9, 2025 at 10:21 PM
Sometimes the best way to still the pond is to first stir it into an absolute frenzy. At the very least, everything will settle into a new configuration.
Fear has a definite object which can be faced, analyzed, attacked, endured. One can act upon it, and in acting upon it participate in it. Courage can take the fear produced by a definite object into itself, because this object has a side with which it participates in us and we in it.
- Paul Tillich
- Paul Tillich
April 8, 2025 at 2:37 PM
Fear has a definite object which can be faced, analyzed, attacked, endured. One can act upon it, and in acting upon it participate in it. Courage can take the fear produced by a definite object into itself, because this object has a side with which it participates in us and we in it.
- Paul Tillich
- Paul Tillich
How much are you willing to risk for a shot at uncompromised joy?
April 8, 2025 at 1:17 AM
How much are you willing to risk for a shot at uncompromised joy?
When I fail to live up to love
it's because I think I need to defend myself.
- Pir Elias Amidon
it's because I think I need to defend myself.
- Pir Elias Amidon
April 7, 2025 at 12:51 AM
When I fail to live up to love
it's because I think I need to defend myself.
- Pir Elias Amidon
it's because I think I need to defend myself.
- Pir Elias Amidon
My 9yo daughter was nervous but resolute in her desire to go to her first protest today. She spent hours making rainbow pride bracelets and then summoned up her courage over and over to ask strangers if they wanted each one.
She explodes my heart every single day.
She explodes my heart every single day.
April 6, 2025 at 2:20 AM
My 9yo daughter was nervous but resolute in her desire to go to her first protest today. She spent hours making rainbow pride bracelets and then summoned up her courage over and over to ask strangers if they wanted each one.
She explodes my heart every single day.
She explodes my heart every single day.
anger
and joy
and grief
and love
I feel more whole when I don’t resist all of these happening at the same time
and joy
and grief
and love
I feel more whole when I don’t resist all of these happening at the same time
April 5, 2025 at 1:14 AM
anger
and joy
and grief
and love
I feel more whole when I don’t resist all of these happening at the same time
and joy
and grief
and love
I feel more whole when I don’t resist all of these happening at the same time
Any time you’re waiting for the “right moment”, you’re listening to the fear.
April 2, 2025 at 4:37 AM
Any time you’re waiting for the “right moment”, you’re listening to the fear.
The versions of people you carry around in your head can often bear little resemblance to the real thing.
April 1, 2025 at 5:04 AM
The versions of people you carry around in your head can often bear little resemblance to the real thing.
It's painful and overwhelming when everything that you are is yelling loudly and painfully to get your attention
You can be still and watch it gentle as it learns to trust
Or you can keep ignoring it until it screams itself hoarse
You won't hear it anymore, but it will be a desolate quiet
You can be still and watch it gentle as it learns to trust
Or you can keep ignoring it until it screams itself hoarse
You won't hear it anymore, but it will be a desolate quiet
March 30, 2025 at 10:20 PM
It's painful and overwhelming when everything that you are is yelling loudly and painfully to get your attention
You can be still and watch it gentle as it learns to trust
Or you can keep ignoring it until it screams itself hoarse
You won't hear it anymore, but it will be a desolate quiet
You can be still and watch it gentle as it learns to trust
Or you can keep ignoring it until it screams itself hoarse
You won't hear it anymore, but it will be a desolate quiet
Stop trying to figure out the endgame. What’s the next thing that feels right?
March 30, 2025 at 3:36 AM
Stop trying to figure out the endgame. What’s the next thing that feels right?
It’s funny how thinking I have to solve my problems keeps me trapped.
Showing up authentically dissolves them.
Sometimes slowly, sometimes painfully, but always inevitably.
Showing up authentically dissolves them.
Sometimes slowly, sometimes painfully, but always inevitably.
March 29, 2025 at 1:33 AM
It’s funny how thinking I have to solve my problems keeps me trapped.
Showing up authentically dissolves them.
Sometimes slowly, sometimes painfully, but always inevitably.
Showing up authentically dissolves them.
Sometimes slowly, sometimes painfully, but always inevitably.
How have you flattened or contorted or warped parts of yourself to make them legible to others?
March 28, 2025 at 12:34 AM
How have you flattened or contorted or warped parts of yourself to make them legible to others?
Some answers are only found relationally.
If you’re not sure, try saying it to someone and listen for what the echo tells you.
If you’re not sure, try saying it to someone and listen for what the echo tells you.
March 26, 2025 at 7:09 AM
Some answers are only found relationally.
If you’re not sure, try saying it to someone and listen for what the echo tells you.
If you’re not sure, try saying it to someone and listen for what the echo tells you.
How is thinking it has to be *or* keeping you small?
What would
*both*
*and*
*all*
open up in your life?
What would
*both*
*and*
*all*
open up in your life?
March 24, 2025 at 5:15 PM
How is thinking it has to be *or* keeping you small?
What would
*both*
*and*
*all*
open up in your life?
What would
*both*
*and*
*all*
open up in your life?