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Taking care of my elderly mother and playing video games is all I do.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Fixed pasta salad for supper tonight. Mom loved it so much h she wanted the recipe for when the girls came over. There are no girls, no for a very long time.
Fixed pasta salad for supper tonight. Mom loved it so much h she wanted the recipe for when the girls came over. There are no girls, no for a very long time.
April 18, 2025 at 12:56 AM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Fixed pasta salad for supper tonight. Mom loved it so much h she wanted the recipe for when the girls came over. There are no girls, no for a very long time.
Fixed pasta salad for supper tonight. Mom loved it so much h she wanted the recipe for when the girls came over. There are no girls, no for a very long time.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I have a new alarm clock. I'm waking up to mom hitting the coffee maker. She can't remember how to make coffee any longer and gets upset. So now on my days off I'm getting up at 6
I have a new alarm clock. I'm waking up to mom hitting the coffee maker. She can't remember how to make coffee any longer and gets upset. So now on my days off I'm getting up at 6
April 14, 2025 at 2:17 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I have a new alarm clock. I'm waking up to mom hitting the coffee maker. She can't remember how to make coffee any longer and gets upset. So now on my days off I'm getting up at 6
I have a new alarm clock. I'm waking up to mom hitting the coffee maker. She can't remember how to make coffee any longer and gets upset. So now on my days off I'm getting up at 6
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
There's a lady that comes over to visit mom. She has no idea how to deal with mom. Always making jobs, being sarcastic to the point where mom has no idea what is going on. A simple, honest conversation is all she needs to do
There's a lady that comes over to visit mom. She has no idea how to deal with mom. Always making jobs, being sarcastic to the point where mom has no idea what is going on. A simple, honest conversation is all she needs to do
April 2, 2025 at 4:19 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
There's a lady that comes over to visit mom. She has no idea how to deal with mom. Always making jobs, being sarcastic to the point where mom has no idea what is going on. A simple, honest conversation is all she needs to do
There's a lady that comes over to visit mom. She has no idea how to deal with mom. Always making jobs, being sarcastic to the point where mom has no idea what is going on. A simple, honest conversation is all she needs to do
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Mom loves having blooming plants in the house. The problem is that she waters them several times a day. The plants die, and I buy her more.
Mom loves having blooming plants in the house. The problem is that she waters them several times a day. The plants die, and I buy her more.
April 1, 2025 at 10:16 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Mom loves having blooming plants in the house. The problem is that she waters them several times a day. The plants die, and I buy her more.
Mom loves having blooming plants in the house. The problem is that she waters them several times a day. The plants die, and I buy her more.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Conversations seem impossible now. Mom's memory is gone, and her stories are a mixture of truth and imagination. My depression feels like a rock in my chest. The sadness drags me down and saps all of my energy
Conversations seem impossible now. Mom's memory is gone, and her stories are a mixture of truth and imagination. My depression feels like a rock in my chest. The sadness drags me down and saps all of my energy
April 1, 2025 at 3:09 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Conversations seem impossible now. Mom's memory is gone, and her stories are a mixture of truth and imagination. My depression feels like a rock in my chest. The sadness drags me down and saps all of my energy
Conversations seem impossible now. Mom's memory is gone, and her stories are a mixture of truth and imagination. My depression feels like a rock in my chest. The sadness drags me down and saps all of my energy
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I've had a migraine all day and night. Mom makes it so hard, she gets so mad as if I'm doing this on purpose
I've had a migraine all day and night. Mom makes it so hard, she gets so mad as if I'm doing this on purpose
March 28, 2025 at 7:59 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I've had a migraine all day and night. Mom makes it so hard, she gets so mad as if I'm doing this on purpose
I've had a migraine all day and night. Mom makes it so hard, she gets so mad as if I'm doing this on purpose
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Night ritual; get mom her medicine, have her go to the bathroom while I put away her hearing aid. Walk her to her bedroom because she doesn't remember where it is anymore. Wait outside until she turns out the lights.
Night ritual; get mom her medicine, have her go to the bathroom while I put away her hearing aid. Walk her to her bedroom because she doesn't remember where it is anymore. Wait outside until she turns out the lights.
March 28, 2025 at 1:14 AM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Night ritual; get mom her medicine, have her go to the bathroom while I put away her hearing aid. Walk her to her bedroom because she doesn't remember where it is anymore. Wait outside until she turns out the lights.
Night ritual; get mom her medicine, have her go to the bathroom while I put away her hearing aid. Walk her to her bedroom because she doesn't remember where it is anymore. Wait outside until she turns out the lights.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Conversations are getting harder for mom. I've started bringing up the same story over and over again to help. But I miss the casual talks. I miss talking in general. I no longer have someone to talk to
Conversations are getting harder for mom. I've started bringing up the same story over and over again to help. But I miss the casual talks. I miss talking in general. I no longer have someone to talk to
March 27, 2025 at 7:28 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Conversations are getting harder for mom. I've started bringing up the same story over and over again to help. But I miss the casual talks. I miss talking in general. I no longer have someone to talk to
Conversations are getting harder for mom. I've started bringing up the same story over and over again to help. But I miss the casual talks. I miss talking in general. I no longer have someone to talk to
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
The worst part of dementia is when I'm sick, mom gets mad or jealous, never sure which, and refuses to eat or talk to me. So, not only do I feel horrible, I have to deal with that
The worst part of dementia is when I'm sick, mom gets mad or jealous, never sure which, and refuses to eat or talk to me. So, not only do I feel horrible, I have to deal with that
March 22, 2025 at 5:20 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
The worst part of dementia is when I'm sick, mom gets mad or jealous, never sure which, and refuses to eat or talk to me. So, not only do I feel horrible, I have to deal with that
The worst part of dementia is when I'm sick, mom gets mad or jealous, never sure which, and refuses to eat or talk to me. So, not only do I feel horrible, I have to deal with that
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I'm inexperienced in dealing with dementia, but it seems that everything is overblown with mom. When she is cold, it's unbearable. When she is hot, it's torture. A leg ache is life threatening.
I'm inexperienced in dealing with dementia, but it seems that everything is overblown with mom. When she is cold, it's unbearable. When she is hot, it's torture. A leg ache is life threatening.
March 21, 2025 at 1:13 AM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I'm inexperienced in dealing with dementia, but it seems that everything is overblown with mom. When she is cold, it's unbearable. When she is hot, it's torture. A leg ache is life threatening.
I'm inexperienced in dealing with dementia, but it seems that everything is overblown with mom. When she is cold, it's unbearable. When she is hot, it's torture. A leg ache is life threatening.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
It's been four years since I had to quit my full-time job and take a part-time job so I could take better care of mom. The struggle has been hard. My sister helps, but that just makes me feel worthless
It's been four years since I had to quit my full-time job and take a part-time job so I could take better care of mom. The struggle has been hard. My sister helps, but that just makes me feel worthless
March 19, 2025 at 11:26 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
It's been four years since I had to quit my full-time job and take a part-time job so I could take better care of mom. The struggle has been hard. My sister helps, but that just makes me feel worthless
It's been four years since I had to quit my full-time job and take a part-time job so I could take better care of mom. The struggle has been hard. My sister helps, but that just makes me feel worthless
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
My depression has hit the bottom of the bucket. Too much to take in
My depression has hit the bottom of the bucket. Too much to take in
March 18, 2025 at 2:36 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
My depression has hit the bottom of the bucket. Too much to take in
My depression has hit the bottom of the bucket. Too much to take in
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I tried posting on Facebook. Too many family members there telling what to do, who have never once offered help. Mom is doing well, I think the walking has helped with the massive confusion, though confusion is apart of the dementia
I tried posting on Facebook. Too many family members there telling what to do, who have never once offered help. Mom is doing well, I think the walking has helped with the massive confusion, though confusion is apart of the dementia
March 17, 2025 at 11:28 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I tried posting on Facebook. Too many family members there telling what to do, who have never once offered help. Mom is doing well, I think the walking has helped with the massive confusion, though confusion is apart of the dementia
I tried posting on Facebook. Too many family members there telling what to do, who have never once offered help. Mom is doing well, I think the walking has helped with the massive confusion, though confusion is apart of the dementia
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
It's been a rough day. Mom told me I didn't need to watch over her, that I should be living my own life. I told her truthfully that it was too late for me and not worry about it
It's been a rough day. Mom told me I didn't need to watch over her, that I should be living my own life. I told her truthfully that it was too late for me and not worry about it
February 23, 2025 at 12:12 AM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
It's been a rough day. Mom told me I didn't need to watch over her, that I should be living my own life. I told her truthfully that it was too late for me and not worry about it
It's been a rough day. Mom told me I didn't need to watch over her, that I should be living my own life. I told her truthfully that it was too late for me and not worry about it
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
It's been a rough day. Never imagined I would have to remind my mother that her mom is dead. She passed at least twenty years ago. Some days are almost unbearable.
It's been a rough day. Never imagined I would have to remind my mother that her mom is dead. She passed at least twenty years ago. Some days are almost unbearable.
February 22, 2025 at 9:03 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
It's been a rough day. Never imagined I would have to remind my mother that her mom is dead. She passed at least twenty years ago. Some days are almost unbearable.
It's been a rough day. Never imagined I would have to remind my mother that her mom is dead. She passed at least twenty years ago. Some days are almost unbearable.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Well, it finally happened. Mom and I were talking about the bad weather coming in, and she said she hoped her dad doesn't have to get out in it. My grandfather has been dead almost fifty years. It's all down hill from here.
Well, it finally happened. Mom and I were talking about the bad weather coming in, and she said she hoped her dad doesn't have to get out in it. My grandfather has been dead almost fifty years. It's all down hill from here.
February 17, 2025 at 11:50 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Well, it finally happened. Mom and I were talking about the bad weather coming in, and she said she hoped her dad doesn't have to get out in it. My grandfather has been dead almost fifty years. It's all down hill from here.
Well, it finally happened. Mom and I were talking about the bad weather coming in, and she said she hoped her dad doesn't have to get out in it. My grandfather has been dead almost fifty years. It's all down hill from here.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Today, we had a long talk about dementia. Mom keeps thinking there are more people living in the house than just her and I. It was a good talk, and I briefly thought it would help until a few hours later she asked where everyone was.
Today, we had a long talk about dementia. Mom keeps thinking there are more people living in the house than just her and I. It was a good talk, and I briefly thought it would help until a few hours later she asked where everyone was.
February 17, 2025 at 1:36 AM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Today, we had a long talk about dementia. Mom keeps thinking there are more people living in the house than just her and I. It was a good talk, and I briefly thought it would help until a few hours later she asked where everyone was.
Today, we had a long talk about dementia. Mom keeps thinking there are more people living in the house than just her and I. It was a good talk, and I briefly thought it would help until a few hours later she asked where everyone was.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I should explain my life to everyone. I'm taking care of my 94 year old mother who has dementia. I had to take a part-time job to do this, so times are hard, but keeping mom happy and healthy is my real job.
I should explain my life to everyone. I'm taking care of my 94 year old mother who has dementia. I had to take a part-time job to do this, so times are hard, but keeping mom happy and healthy is my real job.
February 16, 2025 at 9:59 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I should explain my life to everyone. I'm taking care of my 94 year old mother who has dementia. I had to take a part-time job to do this, so times are hard, but keeping mom happy and healthy is my real job.
I should explain my life to everyone. I'm taking care of my 94 year old mother who has dementia. I had to take a part-time job to do this, so times are hard, but keeping mom happy and healthy is my real job.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
So mom's hearing aid has died. Add that to the list of things I need to replace
So mom's hearing aid has died. Add that to the list of things I need to replace
February 1, 2025 at 9:18 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
So mom's hearing aid has died. Add that to the list of things I need to replace
So mom's hearing aid has died. Add that to the list of things I need to replace
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I'm exhausted today. For four days, I haven't been able to sleep ex except for maybe a few hours each night. There is so much to do, so many things to fix. Just so tired.
I'm exhausted today. For four days, I haven't been able to sleep ex except for maybe a few hours each night. There is so much to do, so many things to fix. Just so tired.
February 1, 2025 at 6:20 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I'm exhausted today. For four days, I haven't been able to sleep ex except for maybe a few hours each night. There is so much to do, so many things to fix. Just so tired.
I'm exhausted today. For four days, I haven't been able to sleep ex except for maybe a few hours each night. There is so much to do, so many things to fix. Just so tired.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Part of having dementia is denying that she did it. The volume ob rhe TV was too loud, the water in the sink was left on... she didn't do it. I'm not upset over any of it. It is just how the dementia works.
Part of having dementia is denying that she did it. The volume ob rhe TV was too loud, the water in the sink was left on... she didn't do it. I'm not upset over any of it. It is just how the dementia works.
January 31, 2025 at 10:58 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Part of having dementia is denying that she did it. The volume ob rhe TV was too loud, the water in the sink was left on... she didn't do it. I'm not upset over any of it. It is just how the dementia works.
Part of having dementia is denying that she did it. The volume ob rhe TV was too loud, the water in the sink was left on... she didn't do it. I'm not upset over any of it. It is just how the dementia works.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
'Will you be here when I get up '
Mom asks me this as I get her into bed. It had been a good day, I couldn't have forgotten about the dementia, but it doesn't just go away. It's a deceitful trickster.
'Will you be here when I get up '
Mom asks me this as I get her into bed. It had been a good day, I couldn't have forgotten about the dementia, but it doesn't just go away. It's a deceitful trickster.
January 31, 2025 at 2:03 AM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
'Will you be here when I get up '
Mom asks me this as I get her into bed. It had been a good day, I couldn't have forgotten about the dementia, but it doesn't just go away. It's a deceitful trickster.
'Will you be here when I get up '
Mom asks me this as I get her into bed. It had been a good day, I couldn't have forgotten about the dementia, but it doesn't just go away. It's a deceitful trickster.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I live in the house my mother was born in, so when she asks where she is going to sleep, it's like a punch in the stomach.
I live in the house my mother was born in, so when she asks where she is going to sleep, it's like a punch in the stomach.
January 26, 2025 at 3:52 AM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I live in the house my mother was born in, so when she asks where she is going to sleep, it's like a punch in the stomach.
I live in the house my mother was born in, so when she asks where she is going to sleep, it's like a punch in the stomach.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I'm witness to mom's memories vanishing one by one. It's hard to watch, and it makes me angry that there is nothing I can do about it.
I'm witness to mom's memories vanishing one by one. It's hard to watch, and it makes me angry that there is nothing I can do about it.
January 23, 2025 at 11:58 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
I'm witness to mom's memories vanishing one by one. It's hard to watch, and it makes me angry that there is nothing I can do about it.
I'm witness to mom's memories vanishing one by one. It's hard to watch, and it makes me angry that there is nothing I can do about it.
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Every morning when I am leaving for work, mom stands at the window and waves. Despite the dementia it is some she insists on doing. I hope dementia doesn't take that away from us.
Every morning when I am leaving for work, mom stands at the window and waves. Despite the dementia it is some she insists on doing. I hope dementia doesn't take that away from us.
January 23, 2025 at 8:04 PM
A day in the life of raising an elderly parent...
Every morning when I am leaving for work, mom stands at the window and waves. Despite the dementia it is some she insists on doing. I hope dementia doesn't take that away from us.
Every morning when I am leaving for work, mom stands at the window and waves. Despite the dementia it is some she insists on doing. I hope dementia doesn't take that away from us.