Brian G. Murphy
@thisisbgm.bsky.social
Activist, author, queer theologian, relationship coach
🏳️🌈 ✡️
queertheology.com
thisisbgm.com
🔵 Connect with your deepest values and live them out
🔵 Build relationships on your own terms
🔵 Sex & queerness are already holy
🔵 Community is key
🏳️🌈 ✡️
queertheology.com
thisisbgm.com
🔵 Connect with your deepest values and live them out
🔵 Build relationships on your own terms
🔵 Sex & queerness are already holy
🔵 Community is key
what if love is bigger, wider, deeper than we ever imagined?
let's find out together.
let's find out together.
August 9, 2025 at 4:00 PM
what if love is bigger, wider, deeper than we ever imagined?
let's find out together.
let's find out together.
What if all the ways we love—and lay 😉—were special?
What if your relationships were expressions of your values?
What if you could honor all the people & experiences that shaped you?
What if believing in something bigger than yourself mattered?
What if friends could be family?
What if your relationships were expressions of your values?
What if you could honor all the people & experiences that shaped you?
What if believing in something bigger than yourself mattered?
What if friends could be family?
August 6, 2025 at 11:10 PM
What if all the ways we love—and lay 😉—were special?
What if your relationships were expressions of your values?
What if you could honor all the people & experiences that shaped you?
What if believing in something bigger than yourself mattered?
What if friends could be family?
What if your relationships were expressions of your values?
What if you could honor all the people & experiences that shaped you?
What if believing in something bigger than yourself mattered?
What if friends could be family?
yesterday was National Underwear Day (I know because we talked about it on the Poly Possibilities call last night 🤪)
Since I find out about it until too late, here's a belated undie pic. Happy Day After National Underwear Day
Since I find out about it until too late, here's a belated undie pic. Happy Day After National Underwear Day
August 6, 2025 at 6:54 PM
yesterday was National Underwear Day (I know because we talked about it on the Poly Possibilities call last night 🤪)
Since I find out about it until too late, here's a belated undie pic. Happy Day After National Underwear Day
Since I find out about it until too late, here's a belated undie pic. Happy Day After National Underwear Day
Just found out that the cover of my book got sent to the printer today! Ahhhh! it's happening!
August 6, 2025 at 3:30 PM
Just found out that the cover of my book got sent to the printer today! Ahhhh! it's happening!
Happy Hump Day to all,
and especially to everyone who is both an ethical slut AND a hopeless romantic
💙😈
and especially to everyone who is both an ethical slut AND a hopeless romantic
💙😈
July 30, 2025 at 6:54 PM
Happy Hump Day to all,
and especially to everyone who is both an ethical slut AND a hopeless romantic
💙😈
and especially to everyone who is both an ethical slut AND a hopeless romantic
💙😈
If the citizens of Sodom had acted more like LGBTQ & polyam people, the city might have been spared.
The sin of Sodom is explicitly named as neglect of the poor and inhospitality to the stranger.
LGBTQ ppl fund each others transitions and some of us regularly welcome strangers into our homes 😉😈
The sin of Sodom is explicitly named as neglect of the poor and inhospitality to the stranger.
LGBTQ ppl fund each others transitions and some of us regularly welcome strangers into our homes 😉😈
July 16, 2025 at 8:56 PM
If the citizens of Sodom had acted more like LGBTQ & polyam people, the city might have been spared.
The sin of Sodom is explicitly named as neglect of the poor and inhospitality to the stranger.
LGBTQ ppl fund each others transitions and some of us regularly welcome strangers into our homes 😉😈
The sin of Sodom is explicitly named as neglect of the poor and inhospitality to the stranger.
LGBTQ ppl fund each others transitions and some of us regularly welcome strangers into our homes 😉😈
Through their work, Andrea helped me see the world with new eyes. Though they never knew me, they inspired me to pay attention to the small details of the people I cherish, to find beauty even in the hard times, and to make meaning with my words.
May we all know loves like Andrea knew.
May we all know loves like Andrea knew.
July 15, 2025 at 5:54 PM
Through their work, Andrea helped me see the world with new eyes. Though they never knew me, they inspired me to pay attention to the small details of the people I cherish, to find beauty even in the hard times, and to make meaning with my words.
May we all know loves like Andrea knew.
May we all know loves like Andrea knew.
smiles by day
smoulders by night
smoulders by night
June 13, 2025 at 12:15 AM
smiles by day
smoulders by night
smoulders by night
My publisher, JKP, sent me a copy of @readyforpolyamory.bsky.social’s book “Monogamy? In this economy?” as part of their #ReadingIsResistance campaign and I’m SO EXCITED to read it.
Grab a copy here: us.jkp.com/products/mon...
Learn about the campaign here: us.jkp.com/pages/readin...
Grab a copy here: us.jkp.com/products/mon...
Learn about the campaign here: us.jkp.com/pages/readin...
June 6, 2025 at 6:12 PM
My publisher, JKP, sent me a copy of @readyforpolyamory.bsky.social’s book “Monogamy? In this economy?” as part of their #ReadingIsResistance campaign and I’m SO EXCITED to read it.
Grab a copy here: us.jkp.com/products/mon...
Learn about the campaign here: us.jkp.com/pages/readin...
Grab a copy here: us.jkp.com/products/mon...
Learn about the campaign here: us.jkp.com/pages/readin...
I’m right there with you!
From Love Beyond Monogamy 👇
From Love Beyond Monogamy 👇
June 2, 2025 at 1:07 PM
I’m right there with you!
From Love Beyond Monogamy 👇
From Love Beyond Monogamy 👇
New profile pic just dropped!
My first-ever professional photoshoot to get a photo for the book 😮 Feeling more and more real every day!
My first-ever professional photoshoot to get a photo for the book 😮 Feeling more and more real every day!
May 22, 2025 at 5:35 PM
New profile pic just dropped!
My first-ever professional photoshoot to get a photo for the book 😮 Feeling more and more real every day!
My first-ever professional photoshoot to get a photo for the book 😮 Feeling more and more real every day!
OMG OMG OMG my book has a cover! and a release date! and is available for pre-order!
4 more months until it comes out but this is a huge milestone! 💙
Pre-orders help new author A LOT. You can get it anywhere, here are links if that's helpful: briangerald.com/book/
4 more months until it comes out but this is a huge milestone! 💙
Pre-orders help new author A LOT. You can get it anywhere, here are links if that's helpful: briangerald.com/book/
May 13, 2025 at 10:01 PM
OMG OMG OMG my book has a cover! and a release date! and is available for pre-order!
4 more months until it comes out but this is a huge milestone! 💙
Pre-orders help new author A LOT. You can get it anywhere, here are links if that's helpful: briangerald.com/book/
4 more months until it comes out but this is a huge milestone! 💙
Pre-orders help new author A LOT. You can get it anywhere, here are links if that's helpful: briangerald.com/book/
Last week I had to carry a refrigerator up 3 flights of stairs with just one other person and it was... easy... 😮
I thought to myself "Hell yeah, this is deadlifting in real life!"
I thought to myself "Hell yeah, this is deadlifting in real life!"
April 21, 2025 at 10:07 PM
Last week I had to carry a refrigerator up 3 flights of stairs with just one other person and it was... easy... 😮
I thought to myself "Hell yeah, this is deadlifting in real life!"
I thought to myself "Hell yeah, this is deadlifting in real life!"
"But that’s all bad first dates are: short stories. Good first dates are more than short stories. They are first chapters." - David Levithan, Two Boys Kissing
April 20, 2025 at 11:10 PM
"But that’s all bad first dates are: short stories. Good first dates are more than short stories. They are first chapters." - David Levithan, Two Boys Kissing
Feeling your oats with your friends can be fun! Make sure you do so respectfully and consensually.
April 18, 2025 at 9:33 PM
Feeling your oats with your friends can be fun! Make sure you do so respectfully and consensually.
Reskeet the spectacles, nerds.
April 16, 2025 at 3:00 PM
Reskeet the spectacles, nerds.
Shannon's book was on the shelf! @thepursuinglife.bsky.social got the only copy but they said they're going to restock so it should be back on the shelves soon. If you live in/near Astoria, go grab it!
April 16, 2025 at 2:58 PM
Shannon's book was on the shelf! @thepursuinglife.bsky.social got the only copy but they said they're going to restock so it should be back on the shelves soon. If you live in/near Astoria, go grab it!
I am, apparently, this type of bisexual
April 11, 2025 at 4:54 PM
I am, apparently, this type of bisexual
Book 2 is due in 3 days so I spent the morning filling in a few missing pieces. Off to a lunch break, then on to another round of revisions.
March 28, 2025 at 7:56 PM
Book 2 is due in 3 days so I spent the morning filling in a few missing pieces. Off to a lunch break, then on to another round of revisions.
i thought i was done with shame.
but after leading our first sex+spirituality cohort at QueerTheology.com—and going through the exercises myself—I uncovered a bit more.
There's a type of underwear I've thought, since I was a teenager, was so sexy. But I could never bring myself to get a pair [1/6]
but after leading our first sex+spirituality cohort at QueerTheology.com—and going through the exercises myself—I uncovered a bit more.
There's a type of underwear I've thought, since I was a teenager, was so sexy. But I could never bring myself to get a pair [1/6]
February 18, 2025 at 8:56 PM
i thought i was done with shame.
but after leading our first sex+spirituality cohort at QueerTheology.com—and going through the exercises myself—I uncovered a bit more.
There's a type of underwear I've thought, since I was a teenager, was so sexy. But I could never bring myself to get a pair [1/6]
but after leading our first sex+spirituality cohort at QueerTheology.com—and going through the exercises myself—I uncovered a bit more.
There's a type of underwear I've thought, since I was a teenager, was so sexy. But I could never bring myself to get a pair [1/6]
If you can establish limits with your Dom, you should be able to establish limits with God, too.
If your submission in kink is freely given and revokable with a safe word if it gets to be too much, surely God would even more understanding?
If your submission in kink is freely given and revokable with a safe word if it gets to be too much, surely God would even more understanding?
February 12, 2025 at 9:56 PM
If you can establish limits with your Dom, you should be able to establish limits with God, too.
If your submission in kink is freely given and revokable with a safe word if it gets to be too much, surely God would even more understanding?
If your submission in kink is freely given and revokable with a safe word if it gets to be too much, surely God would even more understanding?
POV: I'm trying to entice you out of bed with a silly little good morning dance ☀️
February 10, 2025 at 2:27 PM
POV: I'm trying to entice you out of bed with a silly little good morning dance ☀️
I just feel like if I get shown more compassion from the guy who ties me up and spanks me then I get from your version of God…
… that’s a problem with your version of God.
… that’s a problem with your version of God.
February 7, 2025 at 9:24 PM
I just feel like if I get shown more compassion from the guy who ties me up and spanks me then I get from your version of God…
… that’s a problem with your version of God.
… that’s a problem with your version of God.
When I’m having a bad mental health day like today, I try to get myself outside at least once, to look around, and to remember how absolutely incredible it is that any of us are here on this pale blue dot, a speck of rock hurling through space.
How lucky am I to be alive?
How lucky am I to be alive?
January 27, 2025 at 9:38 PM
When I’m having a bad mental health day like today, I try to get myself outside at least once, to look around, and to remember how absolutely incredible it is that any of us are here on this pale blue dot, a speck of rock hurling through space.
How lucky am I to be alive?
How lucky am I to be alive?
re: my nerdiness: I jumped on the smart lighting train like 10 years ago and I’m absolutely geeking out setting everything back up in our new place.
Here’s a peak at the corner of the living room my desk is in
Here’s a peak at the corner of the living room my desk is in
January 7, 2025 at 3:29 PM
re: my nerdiness: I jumped on the smart lighting train like 10 years ago and I’m absolutely geeking out setting everything back up in our new place.
Here’s a peak at the corner of the living room my desk is in
Here’s a peak at the corner of the living room my desk is in