Mandy Lee
@therubyrep.bsky.social
Writer + marketer for tech startups, open source, and weirdos with good ideas. I do content, social, podcasts, and making shit make sense.
A man turned a potential job lead into harassment.
Then strangers blamed me for it.
So I wrote it all down.
This one’s for every woman who’s been told to stay quiet.
I won’t.
Read the full story here:
exhotmess.net?p=271
#MeToo #LinkedIn #Harassment #Boundaries
Then strangers blamed me for it.
So I wrote it all down.
This one’s for every woman who’s been told to stay quiet.
I won’t.
Read the full story here:
exhotmess.net?p=271
#MeToo #LinkedIn #Harassment #Boundaries
August 1, 2025 at 4:33 PM
A man turned a potential job lead into harassment.
Then strangers blamed me for it.
So I wrote it all down.
This one’s for every woman who’s been told to stay quiet.
I won’t.
Read the full story here:
exhotmess.net?p=271
#MeToo #LinkedIn #Harassment #Boundaries
Then strangers blamed me for it.
So I wrote it all down.
This one’s for every woman who’s been told to stay quiet.
I won’t.
Read the full story here:
exhotmess.net?p=271
#MeToo #LinkedIn #Harassment #Boundaries
Burned out? Stuck? Tired of pretending to care about sh*t that doesn’t light you up?
My chart says: Welcome to your Uranus opposition. Please lose your mind responsibly.
I wrote about it. It’s raw, witchy, and might just hit where it hurts: exhotmess.net?p=256
My chart says: Welcome to your Uranus opposition. Please lose your mind responsibly.
I wrote about it. It’s raw, witchy, and might just hit where it hurts: exhotmess.net?p=256
June 23, 2025 at 11:56 AM
Burned out? Stuck? Tired of pretending to care about sh*t that doesn’t light you up?
My chart says: Welcome to your Uranus opposition. Please lose your mind responsibly.
I wrote about it. It’s raw, witchy, and might just hit where it hurts: exhotmess.net?p=256
My chart says: Welcome to your Uranus opposition. Please lose your mind responsibly.
I wrote about it. It’s raw, witchy, and might just hit where it hurts: exhotmess.net?p=256
I’m finally writing about my family’s estrangement.
The gaslighting. The rewriting of history. The silence that hit harder than the yelling ever did.
They called me “crazy” when I stopped performing. I call it waking up. exhotmess.net?p=252
The gaslighting. The rewriting of history. The silence that hit harder than the yelling ever did.
They called me “crazy” when I stopped performing. I call it waking up. exhotmess.net?p=252
June 10, 2025 at 8:22 PM
I’m finally writing about my family’s estrangement.
The gaslighting. The rewriting of history. The silence that hit harder than the yelling ever did.
They called me “crazy” when I stopped performing. I call it waking up. exhotmess.net?p=252
The gaslighting. The rewriting of history. The silence that hit harder than the yelling ever did.
They called me “crazy” when I stopped performing. I call it waking up. exhotmess.net?p=252
We almost danced to Ed Sheeran.
But then remembered:
We’re the cat-in-the-sawdust type of couple.
New blog post: On love, weird songs, & wanting every freckle... exhotmess.net?p=244
📸 Featuring: a very relevant cat.
But then remembered:
We’re the cat-in-the-sawdust type of couple.
New blog post: On love, weird songs, & wanting every freckle... exhotmess.net?p=244
📸 Featuring: a very relevant cat.
June 3, 2025 at 4:45 PM
We almost danced to Ed Sheeran.
But then remembered:
We’re the cat-in-the-sawdust type of couple.
New blog post: On love, weird songs, & wanting every freckle... exhotmess.net?p=244
📸 Featuring: a very relevant cat.
But then remembered:
We’re the cat-in-the-sawdust type of couple.
New blog post: On love, weird songs, & wanting every freckle... exhotmess.net?p=244
📸 Featuring: a very relevant cat.
I wrote a new blog post about what happens when the crisis ends, but your nervous system never got the memo.
I keep scrolling, refreshing, trying to “stay ahead”
But it’s not ambition. It’s survival mode.
This is about anxiety after the anxiety: exhotmess.net?p=238
I keep scrolling, refreshing, trying to “stay ahead”
But it’s not ambition. It’s survival mode.
This is about anxiety after the anxiety: exhotmess.net?p=238
May 29, 2025 at 5:10 PM
I wrote a new blog post about what happens when the crisis ends, but your nervous system never got the memo.
I keep scrolling, refreshing, trying to “stay ahead”
But it’s not ambition. It’s survival mode.
This is about anxiety after the anxiety: exhotmess.net?p=238
I keep scrolling, refreshing, trying to “stay ahead”
But it’s not ambition. It’s survival mode.
This is about anxiety after the anxiety: exhotmess.net?p=238
When you try using AI to make something cute for your wedding and it turns into an existential crisis wrapped in a coloring book.
New post: exhotmess.net?p=204
New post: exhotmess.net?p=204
May 16, 2025 at 1:52 PM
When you try using AI to make something cute for your wedding and it turns into an existential crisis wrapped in a coloring book.
New post: exhotmess.net?p=204
New post: exhotmess.net?p=204
A lot of people talk about playing small.
But not enough people talk about why.
Enmeshed families teach you that your choices don’t belong to you.
That love = control.
That shrinking keeps you safe.
I wrote about the plane I never boarded—and the permission I thought I needed. exhotmess.net?p=193
But not enough people talk about why.
Enmeshed families teach you that your choices don’t belong to you.
That love = control.
That shrinking keeps you safe.
I wrote about the plane I never boarded—and the permission I thought I needed. exhotmess.net?p=193
May 14, 2025 at 5:08 PM
A lot of people talk about playing small.
But not enough people talk about why.
Enmeshed families teach you that your choices don’t belong to you.
That love = control.
That shrinking keeps you safe.
I wrote about the plane I never boarded—and the permission I thought I needed. exhotmess.net?p=193
But not enough people talk about why.
Enmeshed families teach you that your choices don’t belong to you.
That love = control.
That shrinking keeps you safe.
I wrote about the plane I never boarded—and the permission I thought I needed. exhotmess.net?p=193
Freelancing from a hospital room.
Smiling through Zoom calls with 37 tabs open and a partner fighting to get well.
I’m tired. I need steady work. I wrote about it.
exhotmess.net?p=167
Smiling through Zoom calls with 37 tabs open and a partner fighting to get well.
I’m tired. I need steady work. I wrote about it.
exhotmess.net?p=167
May 8, 2025 at 6:57 PM
Freelancing from a hospital room.
Smiling through Zoom calls with 37 tabs open and a partner fighting to get well.
I’m tired. I need steady work. I wrote about it.
exhotmess.net?p=167
Smiling through Zoom calls with 37 tabs open and a partner fighting to get well.
I’m tired. I need steady work. I wrote about it.
exhotmess.net?p=167
Check out some personal essays I’ve been writing on the side at Exhotmess.net!
April 13, 2025 at 6:01 PM
Check out some personal essays I’ve been writing on the side at Exhotmess.net!
I absolutely love that this is what ChatGPT thinks my home looks like.
November 21, 2024 at 4:36 PM
I absolutely love that this is what ChatGPT thinks my home looks like.
Friendly reminder: I've got you covered from audio editing to complete show management. Whether you’re just starting or looking to streamline your process, I’ll make sure your podcast shines. 🌟
November 21, 2024 at 1:24 PM
Friendly reminder: I've got you covered from audio editing to complete show management. Whether you’re just starting or looking to streamline your process, I’ll make sure your podcast shines. 🌟