Karoline Kowalczyk, LCSW
@therapywkaroline.bsky.social
Let’s cling. A therapist who works with attachment in this dating and socio-political landscape. I have a few things to say.
‘Tis the season to ruminate about exes. Both those with a more dismissive avoidant attachment as well as those with a fearful avoidant attachment may be particularly bogged down by internal ruminations during the holiday season.
December 11, 2025 at 9:27 PM
‘Tis the season to ruminate about exes. Both those with a more dismissive avoidant attachment as well as those with a fearful avoidant attachment may be particularly bogged down by internal ruminations during the holiday season.
I can help you discern whether the dating apps are worth a try for you but with things to watch out for or whether you’ll have a more fruitful experience meeting people organically, or both.
December 11, 2025 at 8:42 PM
I can help you discern whether the dating apps are worth a try for you but with things to watch out for or whether you’ll have a more fruitful experience meeting people organically, or both.
Supportive adult relationships can buffer the effects of early complex trauma.
September 23, 2025 at 12:24 AM
Supportive adult relationships can buffer the effects of early complex trauma.
Instead of recovering from trauma and learning how to experience joy and happiness, a lot of us will be pushed back into survival mode due to the detestable actions of a few psychopaths who are running this planet.
September 10, 2025 at 8:44 PM
Instead of recovering from trauma and learning how to experience joy and happiness, a lot of us will be pushed back into survival mode due to the detestable actions of a few psychopaths who are running this planet.
It is completely valid and often healthy to not “actively” date. What is this even? Who created this phenomenon of being on an almost constant search for your next partner? It’s important to question this social framework as it leads to a lot of misery.
August 26, 2025 at 12:25 AM
It is completely valid and often healthy to not “actively” date. What is this even? Who created this phenomenon of being on an almost constant search for your next partner? It’s important to question this social framework as it leads to a lot of misery.
Just because everyone at work seems to be in a relationship doesn’t say anything about the quality of those relationships and doesn’t mean they won’t end. A lot of them will.
August 25, 2025 at 10:51 PM
Just because everyone at work seems to be in a relationship doesn’t say anything about the quality of those relationships and doesn’t mean they won’t end. A lot of them will.
Yes, the dating apps help you meet people you would not otherwise, and that’s not always a good thing.
August 25, 2025 at 10:34 PM
Yes, the dating apps help you meet people you would not otherwise, and that’s not always a good thing.
Every time I turn on or read the news, I feel like I’m being gaslit by an abusive boyfriend. Everything is absurd and yes it’s very sick and yes your feelings are valid.
August 25, 2025 at 10:30 PM
Every time I turn on or read the news, I feel like I’m being gaslit by an abusive boyfriend. Everything is absurd and yes it’s very sick and yes your feelings are valid.
I know this has been said many times before, but living in a sick society doesn’t exactly make healthy people.
August 25, 2025 at 10:25 PM
I know this has been said many times before, but living in a sick society doesn’t exactly make healthy people.
The concept of reparenting means learning how to meet the needs of your inner child with the agency and resources you have as an adult.
June 27, 2025 at 3:10 AM
The concept of reparenting means learning how to meet the needs of your inner child with the agency and resources you have as an adult.
Let’s prioritize mental and relational well-being as much as physical.
May 26, 2025 at 4:26 PM
Let’s prioritize mental and relational well-being as much as physical.
The working class in the States is already stretched too thin right now to be dealing with the corporate gamification of the dating apps.
March 3, 2025 at 10:45 PM
The working class in the States is already stretched too thin right now to be dealing with the corporate gamification of the dating apps.
The fact that the dating apps are shady af is nothing new, but this article from The Guardian illuminates just how concerning they are. A lot of trigger warnings in this one. www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025...
Rape under wraps: how Tinder, Hinge and their corporate owner chose profits over safety
Match Group has known for years about abusive users on its dozen dating apps, but leaves millions of people in the dark
www.theguardian.com
February 21, 2025 at 4:53 PM
The fact that the dating apps are shady af is nothing new, but this article from The Guardian illuminates just how concerning they are. A lot of trigger warnings in this one. www.theguardian.com/us-news/2025...
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will control your life and you will call it fate.”—Carl Jung
January 29, 2025 at 3:18 PM
“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will control your life and you will call it fate.”—Carl Jung
80% of us dissociate after a traumatic event.
January 29, 2025 at 3:15 PM
80% of us dissociate after a traumatic event.
Reposted by Karoline Kowalczyk, LCSW
Time to post this again
January 28, 2025 at 2:28 PM
Time to post this again
Let’s normalize that modern dating is traumatic.
January 29, 2025 at 4:45 AM
Let’s normalize that modern dating is traumatic.
If your last relationship was chaotic and your new one is calm, this is breeding ground for some depression, anxiety, avoidance, and even self-sabotage while you adjust. Your brain needs some time. Sometimes grounding skills can help you separate past from present.
January 29, 2025 at 4:35 AM
If your last relationship was chaotic and your new one is calm, this is breeding ground for some depression, anxiety, avoidance, and even self-sabotage while you adjust. Your brain needs some time. Sometimes grounding skills can help you separate past from present.
In a society that lacks adequate social safety nets, we are forced to depend on our employers and other people to meet our basic needs. This doesn’t make us “more free.” And this affects our romantic relationships.
January 24, 2025 at 3:26 AM
In a society that lacks adequate social safety nets, we are forced to depend on our employers and other people to meet our basic needs. This doesn’t make us “more free.” And this affects our romantic relationships.
Past relationship trauma can trigger anxiety and a tendency to pull away. Take a few breaths, go to sleep, and see how you feel tomorrow.
January 24, 2025 at 3:22 AM
Past relationship trauma can trigger anxiety and a tendency to pull away. Take a few breaths, go to sleep, and see how you feel tomorrow.