Once upon a time…
#narcissist

Recently, it was brought to my attention that my ex is grandstanding on social media. Meaning, they are trying to appear to be someone they are not. They are trying to appear honest, compassionate, caring, God fearing & anything else their latest conquest would want. 👇 #narcissist

Growing up, my father had a bit of a temper. There are moments I wish I could forget. Including seeing my mother watching it happen and doing nothing to calm him.

It isnt surprising that I then married someone with anger issues.

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Ive lived a life where I was constantly lied too. There was always a secret being kept behind my back. Nothing was ever as it seemed. Worst of all, zero remorse for all the pain they put me through. In fact, I got BLAMED for the things they did to me.

But the Accountable Ones👇

Holidays W/A Narcissist…

-anxiety through the roof
-off/on panic attacks for 2 wks prior to thanksgiving/christmas
-they refuse to cooperate on anything
-pit of dread in your stomach as you pull up
-fake smiles/greetings like anyone actually cares
-locate the clock so you know when you can leave

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They say girls grow up & marry someone like their fathers. This is bc, as we grow up, we become conditioned to the behaviors of our parents.

Think about it, we seek out what we know. If you had a strong male role model in your life, one filled w/empathy, thats the standard you hold other men too.👇

When we think about domestic violence, we often think of the physical. My goal is to change that & help ppl realize the emotional & psychological component.

I didn’t realize I was being abused, friends. I thought it was a bad day, a bad patch. I thought he would improve if I helped him.

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#domesticviolence #narcissist #abuse #gaslighting #toxic #light #darkness #depression #anxiety #motivation

gas·light

verb
1. manipulate (someone) using psychological methods into questioning their own sanity or powers of reasoning.

Gaslighting leaves deep, deep scars. I have experienced this from family, as well as from a previous relationship. It leaves you questioning every move you make.

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No one will break you down like the narcissist. Those who have experienced it, know this all too well.

They start off charming your socks off, then one day, they turn into someone you don’t even recognize.

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Fight or Flight
the instinctive physiological response to a threatening situation, which readies one either to resist forcibly or to run away.

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Have you ever heard this phrase? Because it was on my ex’s playlist…on repeat😒

Let’s make something clear, your feelings are valid. Your feelings matter. You are allowed to express those feelings and you are allowed to expect your partner/friend/family member to give feedback.

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If you are here, you have probably experienced some form of trauma. I am sorry, friends. The one thing I can tell you, is that you are not alone and it will get better over time.

For me, my trauma scars are deep down inside.

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When I was with a Narcissist, I learned that their reality was very different from mine. I learned that they can take any situation (no matter how horrible) and turn it back on you. I was always to blame. Always.

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When a relationship/friendship starts, it always starts off good, my friends. They always show you the best of themselves. They know how to edit out the…not so great parts, am I right?😏

They charm you. They like all the same things as you. They are there when you need them.

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