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The Imposter in the Mirror

The imposter in the mirror doesn’t whisper. It stares. On the days when momentum feels slow.When your work goes unseen.When the effort you’re putting in isn’t reflected back yet. And that voice says:“You’re not ready.”“You’re not good enough.”“Someone else deserves this…
The Imposter in the Mirror
The imposter in the mirror doesn’t whisper. It stares. On the days when momentum feels slow.When your work goes unseen.When the effort you’re putting in isn’t reflected back yet. And that voice says:“You’re not ready.”“You’re not good enough.”“Someone else deserves this more than you.” Here’s something grounding:Imposter Syndrome is described as “self-doubt of intellect, skills, or accomplishments among high-achieving individuals.”
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November 13, 2025 at 4:48 PM
American Asymmetry

There's something quietly jarring about the fact that some Americans cross state lines and lose fundamental rights while others don't. If you're a cisgender man, your body stays yours whether you're in California or Texas, New York or Florida. You can access the healthcare you…
American Asymmetry
There's something quietly jarring about the fact that some Americans cross state lines and lose fundamental rights while others don't. If you're a cisgender man, your body stays yours whether you're in California or Texas, New York or Florida. You can access the healthcare you need. Your legal identity remains recognized. Your right to make decisions about your own body doesn't evaporate at a state border.
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November 5, 2025 at 10:45 PM
When Affirmations Don’t Feel True

We’ve all heard the advice: Say your affirmations every day.I am confident.I love myself.I am enough. But what happens when those words don’t feel true yet? When you say them out loud but your inner voice quietly whispers, “I don’t believe that.” As life coaches,…
When Affirmations Don’t Feel True
We’ve all heard the advice: Say your affirmations every day.I am confident.I love myself.I am enough. But what happens when those words don’t feel true yet? When you say them out loud but your inner voice quietly whispers, “I don’t believe that.” As life coaches, we’ve seen this moment come up time and time again. The intention is good; you’re trying to shift your mindset.
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October 31, 2025 at 3:44 PM
Imposter Syndrome: The Universal Experience We Need to Talk About

I'm in the process of launching my own coaching business. With years of experience in business and leadership, plus my unique perspective as part of the LGBTQ+ community, I know I have valuable insights to offer. Yet there are…
Imposter Syndrome: The Universal Experience We Need to Talk About
I'm in the process of launching my own coaching business. With years of experience in business and leadership, plus my unique perspective as part of the LGBTQ+ community, I know I have valuable insights to offer. Yet there are moments when an inner voice I call BOB whispers: "I'll never be successful at this. Will people even take me serious?"
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October 24, 2025 at 3:41 PM
Turn Up the Volume: How Music Fuels Our Joy and Motivation

I still remember the moment music changed everything for me. My dad brought home a VHS tape filled with MTV music videos, and there it was—Roxette's "Dangerous." From the first electric guitar riff to Marie Fredriksson's powerful vocals, I…
Turn Up the Volume: How Music Fuels Our Joy and Motivation
I still remember the moment music changed everything for me. My dad brought home a VHS tape filled with MTV music videos, and there it was—Roxette's "Dangerous." From the first electric guitar riff to Marie Fredriksson's powerful vocals, I was completely hooked. That Swedish pop duo opened a door to a world where music wasn't just background noise—it was energy, emotion, and pure joy captured in melody.
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October 17, 2025 at 1:11 AM
The Courage to Be Seen: Embracing Vulnerability in Work and Life

Vulnerability isn't weakness. It’s the most accurate measure of courage. Yet for many of us, allowing ourselves to be truly seen feels like standing on the edge of a cliff, uncertain whether we'll fall or fly. I've learned that…
The Courage to Be Seen: Embracing Vulnerability in Work and Life
Vulnerability isn't weakness. It’s the most accurate measure of courage. Yet for many of us, allowing ourselves to be truly seen feels like standing on the edge of a cliff, uncertain whether we'll fall or fly. I've learned that vulnerability shows up differently in our professional and personal lives, but in both spaces, it asks the same thing of us: the willingness to be authentic even when it's uncomfortable.
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October 10, 2025 at 4:02 PM
The Shadow Is Not Empty

One of the greatest illusions we face is the inner shadow, that dark space that convinces us we are unprotected, unloved, and alone. When we find ourselves in the shadow, fear and sadness can make it feel endless, as though the force of good has disappeared. But here's the…
The Shadow Is Not Empty
One of the greatest illusions we face is the inner shadow, that dark space that convinces us we are unprotected, unloved, and alone. When we find ourselves in the shadow, fear and sadness can make it feel endless, as though the force of good has disappeared. But here's the truth: the shadow is not absence. It is an illusion. You are always loved, always guided, always connected.
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October 4, 2025 at 6:31 PM
Using Humor to Build Real Connections

In my previous role as a Territory Manager, I watched my store leaders carry weight that never seemed to lift. The stress was constant. Tight deadlines, impossible metrics, staffing challenges that never quite resolved. I could walk into a store and feel the…
Using Humor to Build Real Connections
In my previous role as a Territory Manager, I watched my store leaders carry weight that never seemed to lift. The stress was constant. Tight deadlines, impossible metrics, staffing challenges that never quite resolved. I could walk into a store and feel the tension in the air before anyone said a word. That's when I started leaning into something I'd learned from the FISH Philosophy: the concept of play.
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September 29, 2025 at 4:03 PM
The Beautiful Mess of Becoming a Butterfly

Finding Beauty in Life's Messiest Moments You know what’s crazy to me? Caterpillars have no clue they’re about to become butterflies. If someone told you, “Hey, in a few weeks, you’re going to basically turn to soup and then emerge with wings,” you’d…
The Beautiful Mess of Becoming a Butterfly
Finding Beauty in Life's Messiest Moments You know what’s crazy to me? Caterpillars have no clue they’re about to become butterflies. If someone told you, “Hey, in a few weeks, you’re going to basically turn to soup and then emerge with wings,” you’d probably back away slowly. It sounds like a horror movie, not a promotion. But I think I get it now.
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September 24, 2025 at 1:51 PM
Beautiful Sunday in Central New York! #Fall #AppleSeason
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