Jane,

You followed me on Twitter. I was following you here with my primary account, whataboutbob.bsky.social, but now Im blocked.

Did I do or say something to offend you?

Beautiful and painful at the same time.

17. Griff is back with another song off her latest album. Anything is about losing a love that meant more than anything else in the world. What would you do for that love?

I'm impressed by her talent for lyrics and her presence in these songs. 10/10

A+

Too often as relationships age, we take them for granted.

Don’t.

To love someone with your whole heart is rare. To live and express that love daily is rarer still.

This is the gift.

May you be blessed enough to experience a love like that.

7/7

50 First Dates

There will be days when she will once again have the same doubts. Don’t take it personally.

Don’t let her go to sleep wondering if she is loved & valued. Don’t let her start her day without hearing that you love her.

6/

You can’t “fix it”.

This isn't your job & you will fail if you try.

She doesn’t want you to “fix” her, she wants you to prove that you love her, and that your love is unconditional.

5/

Be patient.
Patience is one sign of selflessness.

Be honest.
Nothing destroys a relationship faster than a lack of honesty. Remember that white lies are still lies.

Be open.
Don’t hide your emotions. Not knowing how you feel fuels doubt & speculation. That won’t help.

4/

But how is this a gift, you ask?

It allows you to learn to love in a way that many don't.

It starts with communication & learning to listen without judgement. One can’t feel heard if no one is listening. Listen unselfishly; to hear, not to construct a response.

3/

The one with abandonment issues may have been deserted or rejected in the past. That trauma is real. It may have healed, but it isn’t forgotten. Do not dismiss or minimize it. Understand that it isn’t about you. It is a self defense mechanism to guard against future hurt.

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