I believe it 😎

Yeah, The sex aspect was definitely the thing my ex focused on. So when I started dating a lesbian who definitely had absolutely no interest in him, it caused problems 😅

Hell, my kinks even make a few "bedroom only" kinksters clutch their pearls. When I tell you I'm kinky, I need you to know that I'm talking about more than bare handed spanking, light degradation, and hair pulling.

So yeah, you're gonna find satisfaction and fulfillment if you're ACTUALLY a non monogamous person, but if it's just a "spice up the bedroom" kinda thing...you gotta fix what's wrong FIRST before you proceed.

And I think people have a tendency to look at those cases where people have found more happiness and fulfillment in a non-monogamous relationship and they think it's going to fix the issues in their own relationship. But like, having the freedom to go out and fuck other people won't fix anything.

But those were issues that were present before we opened our relationship. I think that sometimes when people find that their relationship gets better when they open it, it's probably because neither of them really wanted to be monogamous and they didn't really have any other issues.

Part of my dissatisfaction in my last monogamous relationship came from the fact that I'm not monogamous. So when we decided to open our relationship, my overall satisfaction increased, but our relationship deteriorated because he wanted to be in control and I wanted freedom and autonomy.

beautiful bond we have because of it, because I know I'm safe in my mess and my darkness with them and they're not going to make me feel the way that literally everyone else I've ever confided in ever has.

"I'll meet you here, and we'll work through this together" is something I don't have words to describe. My partner is the first person I've been involved with who hasn't responded to my trauma and the way it shaped me in a way that didn't pile more shame on top of me, and I'm so thankful for the

Some people may experience re-traumatization, but some people don't. For me, it's helped me find release and healing. It's helped me gain a sense of autonomy over my experiences, not to mention the level of validation I've gotten from being seen in my shame by someone who was willing to say