The Gentle Haven creates supportive resources for moms and caregivers who are carrying a heavy mental and emotional load—often quietly. Founded by Alexis Souza, a life coach and home management support professional, The Gentle Haven is rooted in lived experience, caregiving work, and the belief that meaningful change happens through gentleness, not pressure. The resources here are designed for those who look capable on the outside but feel overwhelmed, burned out, or disconnected on the inside.

Disappointment has always felt like enemy number one. For as long as I can remember, I’ve worked hard to avoid disappointing anyone. It felt like the worst thing I could do to another person — a kind of emotional harm that couldn’t be undone. At the same time, I was just as afraid of allowing myself to be disappointed by others.

For years, I thought I was just being responsible, driven, and capable. I didn’t realize that what I called “high standards” was actually perfectionism — and that it was slowly turning into resentment, exhaustion, and disconnection from myself. My perfectionism eventually turned into resentment — not because anyone around me was doing something wrong, but because I wouldn’t allow myself to rest.

I was the perfect mom on paper. I did the research. I followed the recommendations. I showed up to appointments prepared, asked the right questions, and advocated when I needed to. I kept the schedules, filled out the forms, remembered the details, and carried the mental load quietly. From the outside, it looked like I had it together. And in many ways, I did.

Creating peace at home, one gentle step at a time.