Part of that is just because like, she feels like she's burdening others with the image of her engaged in romantic/sexual activity. Which is silly, yes, but hard to get over. Astarion makes sure to keep her feeling treasured - and he's the only person allowed to touch her.

🍄‍🟫: This does come in handy when Tandrii and Astarion burn down Cazador's palace - they steal everything that can be hawked for a price first!

🍄‍🟫: Astarion kind of enables this behavior because he shares it - neither of them have really had possessions of their own before BG3. They still try to prune things out every so often.

🍄‍🟫: I think her time with Astarion and her other companions has smoothed this out a bit. Socializing can still feel a little performative, but she genuinely enjoys being with her friends and partner, so long as she has time to decompress later.

🍄‍🟫 I think Astarion and Tandrii might spar, either with magic or daggers as they teach one another their skills, but this usually devolves into some kind of weird date lmao