The Audacity Firm
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My TEDxTalk, “What Trauma Taught Me About Resilience”:
https://youtu.be/3qELiw_1Ddg?si=T_8IdPn-8B5yGEJp
http://www.audacityfirm.com
My TEDxTalk, “What Trauma Taught Me About Resilience”:
https://youtu.be/3qELiw_1Ddg?si=T_8IdPn-8B5yGEJp
http://www.audacityfirm.com
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Love to folks who’ve dealt/deal with childhood abandonment.
It’s not and wasn’t ever about you AT ALL.
Don’t abandon yourself today despite what others showed you, and know that you’re dope as hell!❤️
It’s not and wasn’t ever about you AT ALL.
Don’t abandon yourself today despite what others showed you, and know that you’re dope as hell!❤️
May 30, 2025 at 7:37 PM
Love to folks who’ve dealt/deal with childhood abandonment.
It’s not and wasn’t ever about you AT ALL.
Don’t abandon yourself today despite what others showed you, and know that you’re dope as hell!❤️
It’s not and wasn’t ever about you AT ALL.
Don’t abandon yourself today despite what others showed you, and know that you’re dope as hell!❤️
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“When our parents mistreat or abuse us, we don’t stop loving them.
We stop loving ourselves.”
We stop loving ourselves.”
August 28, 2025 at 3:34 PM
“When our parents mistreat or abuse us, we don’t stop loving them.
We stop loving ourselves.”
We stop loving ourselves.”
Give yourself credit today!
That achievement, progress, milestone, that survival…it IS A BIG DEAL!
Because YOU did it.
We don’t give ourselves enough credit for the dope, hard, talented, & courageous work we do.
Recognize how amazingly dope you are and celebrate what you’ve done and are doing.
That achievement, progress, milestone, that survival…it IS A BIG DEAL!
Because YOU did it.
We don’t give ourselves enough credit for the dope, hard, talented, & courageous work we do.
Recognize how amazingly dope you are and celebrate what you’ve done and are doing.
June 2, 2025 at 5:31 PM
Give yourself credit today!
That achievement, progress, milestone, that survival…it IS A BIG DEAL!
Because YOU did it.
We don’t give ourselves enough credit for the dope, hard, talented, & courageous work we do.
Recognize how amazingly dope you are and celebrate what you’ve done and are doing.
That achievement, progress, milestone, that survival…it IS A BIG DEAL!
Because YOU did it.
We don’t give ourselves enough credit for the dope, hard, talented, & courageous work we do.
Recognize how amazingly dope you are and celebrate what you’ve done and are doing.
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You don’t have to achieve or prove anything to be worthy of positive visibility, dignity, or care.
May 13, 2025 at 2:29 PM
You don’t have to achieve or prove anything to be worthy of positive visibility, dignity, or care.
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You are worthy of respect, support, & safety, regardless of what you have or have't accomplished, either today or in your life.
Stubbornly refuse to buy into cultural metrics of personal "worth" that only exist to hijack your self-esteem & keep you rat racing harder.
Stubbornly refuse to buy into cultural metrics of personal "worth" that only exist to hijack your self-esteem & keep you rat racing harder.
May 12, 2025 at 7:13 PM
You are worthy of respect, support, & safety, regardless of what you have or have't accomplished, either today or in your life.
Stubbornly refuse to buy into cultural metrics of personal "worth" that only exist to hijack your self-esteem & keep you rat racing harder.
Stubbornly refuse to buy into cultural metrics of personal "worth" that only exist to hijack your self-esteem & keep you rat racing harder.
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Remember that self-esteem is our relationship w/ ourselves-- & we can choose, with practice & effort, to exclude from that relationship our parents, the church we grew up in, our peer group, or anybody else who distorts & damages it.
May 12, 2025 at 11:05 PM
Remember that self-esteem is our relationship w/ ourselves-- & we can choose, with practice & effort, to exclude from that relationship our parents, the church we grew up in, our peer group, or anybody else who distorts & damages it.
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“But, it made you who you are.”
Who they are, are people who’ve spent years, decades even, restoring damage that other people did. To suggest it’s worth it to be traumatized is dismissive of the cost, the loss, & the pain of hearing projections like this.
Who they are, are people who’ve spent years, decades even, restoring damage that other people did. To suggest it’s worth it to be traumatized is dismissive of the cost, the loss, & the pain of hearing projections like this.
May 13, 2025 at 1:40 AM
“But, it made you who you are.”
Who they are, are people who’ve spent years, decades even, restoring damage that other people did. To suggest it’s worth it to be traumatized is dismissive of the cost, the loss, & the pain of hearing projections like this.
Who they are, are people who’ve spent years, decades even, restoring damage that other people did. To suggest it’s worth it to be traumatized is dismissive of the cost, the loss, & the pain of hearing projections like this.
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So much of sustainable trauma recovery is about literally getting to know ourselves after years of not being allowed to explore-- or even acknowledge-- what we like, what we want, what moves us, & what our ultimate purpose in life might be.
May 8, 2025 at 1:04 AM
So much of sustainable trauma recovery is about literally getting to know ourselves after years of not being allowed to explore-- or even acknowledge-- what we like, what we want, what moves us, & what our ultimate purpose in life might be.
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People don’t become loners because they don’t want people. They become loners because they want peace more than people who keep hurting them.
May 8, 2025 at 5:32 PM
People don’t become loners because they don’t want people. They become loners because they want peace more than people who keep hurting them.
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One of the best and most useful skills you can pick up in your adult life is learning to forgive.
Not because anyone else necessarily deserves it (in many cases they won’t).
But YOU absolutely deserve it.
No need to struggle carrying something we don’t have to.
Let it go, for you.
Not because anyone else necessarily deserves it (in many cases they won’t).
But YOU absolutely deserve it.
No need to struggle carrying something we don’t have to.
Let it go, for you.
May 8, 2025 at 10:11 PM
One of the best and most useful skills you can pick up in your adult life is learning to forgive.
Not because anyone else necessarily deserves it (in many cases they won’t).
But YOU absolutely deserve it.
No need to struggle carrying something we don’t have to.
Let it go, for you.
Not because anyone else necessarily deserves it (in many cases they won’t).
But YOU absolutely deserve it.
No need to struggle carrying something we don’t have to.
Let it go, for you.
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Our "parts" will only trust us to the extent that we prove to them, over & over, that we can hold their-- our-- pain & memories w/ respect & care, without judging or overreacting to them.
Compassion & patience aren't buzzwords. They're core parts work & trauma recovery tools.
Compassion & patience aren't buzzwords. They're core parts work & trauma recovery tools.
May 9, 2025 at 2:51 PM
Our "parts" will only trust us to the extent that we prove to them, over & over, that we can hold their-- our-- pain & memories w/ respect & care, without judging or overreacting to them.
Compassion & patience aren't buzzwords. They're core parts work & trauma recovery tools.
Compassion & patience aren't buzzwords. They're core parts work & trauma recovery tools.
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Today’s a great day to give yourself grace, compassion, and care for the traumas you’ve suffered and how you carried it.
You did the best you could and deserve commendation, not condemnation.
Here’s to a healthier and kinder you, to you.
You did the best you could and deserve commendation, not condemnation.
Here’s to a healthier and kinder you, to you.
May 9, 2025 at 2:54 PM
Today’s a great day to give yourself grace, compassion, and care for the traumas you’ve suffered and how you carried it.
You did the best you could and deserve commendation, not condemnation.
Here’s to a healthier and kinder you, to you.
You did the best you could and deserve commendation, not condemnation.
Here’s to a healthier and kinder you, to you.
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Forgive ourselves.
Less judgment of self, more acceptance and curiosity about why we feel/act what how we do.
Less judgment of self, more acceptance and curiosity about why we feel/act what how we do.
4. What is one habit every person should do to increase their overall happiness?
April 22, 2025 at 5:53 PM
Forgive ourselves.
Less judgment of self, more acceptance and curiosity about why we feel/act what how we do.
Less judgment of self, more acceptance and curiosity about why we feel/act what how we do.
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Those who can’t give apologies complete with:
-Expression of regret
-Explanation of what went wrong
-Acknowledgment of responsibility
-Declaration of repentance
-Offer of repair
-Request for forgiveness
-Expression of regret
-Explanation of what went wrong
-Acknowledgment of responsibility
-Declaration of repentance
-Offer of repair
-Request for forgiveness
11. What kind of people you cannot forgive?
April 22, 2025 at 5:57 PM
Those who can’t give apologies complete with:
-Expression of regret
-Explanation of what went wrong
-Acknowledgment of responsibility
-Declaration of repentance
-Offer of repair
-Request for forgiveness
-Expression of regret
-Explanation of what went wrong
-Acknowledgment of responsibility
-Declaration of repentance
-Offer of repair
-Request for forgiveness
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One of the hardest skills for many trauma survivors, including me, to learn in recovery is pacing. We've been trying to run a marathon in bursts of high intensity intervals, & it's been hell on our joints & adrenals.
"Slow & steady" is often a new, suspicious concept for us.
"Slow & steady" is often a new, suspicious concept for us.
April 22, 2025 at 6:50 PM
One of the hardest skills for many trauma survivors, including me, to learn in recovery is pacing. We've been trying to run a marathon in bursts of high intensity intervals, & it's been hell on our joints & adrenals.
"Slow & steady" is often a new, suspicious concept for us.
"Slow & steady" is often a new, suspicious concept for us.
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For complex trauma survivors, flashbacks are not visual, but bodily.
Emotional flashbacks flatten us like a mack truck, slapping us back into the emotional past w/o warning. We regress and re-experience pain in body & soul.
Breathe. Affirm your safety now. Love & protect root to stem.
#cptsd
Emotional flashbacks flatten us like a mack truck, slapping us back into the emotional past w/o warning. We regress and re-experience pain in body & soul.
Breathe. Affirm your safety now. Love & protect root to stem.
#cptsd
April 22, 2025 at 3:43 PM
For complex trauma survivors, flashbacks are not visual, but bodily.
Emotional flashbacks flatten us like a mack truck, slapping us back into the emotional past w/o warning. We regress and re-experience pain in body & soul.
Breathe. Affirm your safety now. Love & protect root to stem.
#cptsd
Emotional flashbacks flatten us like a mack truck, slapping us back into the emotional past w/o warning. We regress and re-experience pain in body & soul.
Breathe. Affirm your safety now. Love & protect root to stem.
#cptsd
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You CANNOT out-success trauma.
No amount of accolades, achievements, accomplishments, or attainment can undo what that little boy/girl felt and experienced.
Only healing can repair it; learning to have grace, care, compassion, empathy, and love for that inner child.
Anything else is distraction.
No amount of accolades, achievements, accomplishments, or attainment can undo what that little boy/girl felt and experienced.
Only healing can repair it; learning to have grace, care, compassion, empathy, and love for that inner child.
Anything else is distraction.
April 22, 2025 at 8:31 PM
You CANNOT out-success trauma.
No amount of accolades, achievements, accomplishments, or attainment can undo what that little boy/girl felt and experienced.
Only healing can repair it; learning to have grace, care, compassion, empathy, and love for that inner child.
Anything else is distraction.
No amount of accolades, achievements, accomplishments, or attainment can undo what that little boy/girl felt and experienced.
Only healing can repair it; learning to have grace, care, compassion, empathy, and love for that inner child.
Anything else is distraction.
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The more bandwidth we invest in "convincing" someone that our trauma is "legitimate," the less we'll have for working our recovery.
We have to recover whether or not "they" think our trauma is "real." Don't burn resources trying to "prove" your experience is valid to anyone.
We have to recover whether or not "they" think our trauma is "real." Don't burn resources trying to "prove" your experience is valid to anyone.
April 6, 2025 at 7:07 PM
The more bandwidth we invest in "convincing" someone that our trauma is "legitimate," the less we'll have for working our recovery.
We have to recover whether or not "they" think our trauma is "real." Don't burn resources trying to "prove" your experience is valid to anyone.
We have to recover whether or not "they" think our trauma is "real." Don't burn resources trying to "prove" your experience is valid to anyone.
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No one else is carrying the aftermath of the trauma you have endured inside of their body. They are not paying the consequences. They are not managing the recovery. Therefore, their opinions are secondary to any and all things that help you heal.
April 6, 2025 at 7:36 PM
No one else is carrying the aftermath of the trauma you have endured inside of their body. They are not paying the consequences. They are not managing the recovery. Therefore, their opinions are secondary to any and all things that help you heal.
People, and the world, are going to do what they do.
May we all have the gall, the utter AUDACITY, to find peace and joy anyway.
May we all have the gall, the utter AUDACITY, to find peace and joy anyway.
April 4, 2025 at 6:15 PM
People, and the world, are going to do what they do.
May we all have the gall, the utter AUDACITY, to find peace and joy anyway.
May we all have the gall, the utter AUDACITY, to find peace and joy anyway.
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Trauma conditioning doesn't stop just because we discover it, that's just step one. It takes many continuous small choices to talk to ourselves with compassion, encouragement & realism - we gotta build new neural pathways.
Work your recovery, it's built one small choice at a time.
#cptsd #recovery
Work your recovery, it's built one small choice at a time.
#cptsd #recovery
March 29, 2025 at 5:09 PM
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Do not abandon yourself today.
March 28, 2025 at 10:48 AM
Do not abandon yourself today.
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Never underestimate a cycle breaker. Not only did they face years of generational trauma, but they stood in the face of that trauma and said “This ends with me.” This is brave. This is powerful. This comes at a significant cost. Never underestimate a cycle breaker.
March 28, 2025 at 7:54 PM
Never underestimate a cycle breaker. Not only did they face years of generational trauma, but they stood in the face of that trauma and said “This ends with me.” This is brave. This is powerful. This comes at a significant cost. Never underestimate a cycle breaker.
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Today is another good day to go on a walk if you’re able.
Get some fresh air, change your environment, a lil exercise, and hopefully an uplifted mood/spirit.
Get some fresh air, change your environment, a lil exercise, and hopefully an uplifted mood/spirit.
March 28, 2025 at 8:31 PM
Today is another good day to go on a walk if you’re able.
Get some fresh air, change your environment, a lil exercise, and hopefully an uplifted mood/spirit.
Get some fresh air, change your environment, a lil exercise, and hopefully an uplifted mood/spirit.