Victor
@theappleawaits.bsky.social
(he/him/they) strangely sapphic twink
Probably gonna yap abt feminism since I'm scared to do that on insta
also who is on here bc idk who to follow
Probably gonna yap abt feminism since I'm scared to do that on insta
also who is on here bc idk who to follow
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Victor
@theappleawaits.bsky.social
· Jan 27
Ngl I feel like we need to take a more collectivist approach to feminism, women's lib, and trans lib at this point. The ultimate feminist choices should be class solidarity between women and other marginalized genders, building empathy for one another, and building fronts for collective action
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"I'm sorry if this message bothered you."
I’m Mahmod from Gaza,
a Software Engineer and father of 3.
We lost so much but not our hope. My Family still dream of school and safety.
Help me make that dream real again PLZ don@te 💔
✅ #Molly_Shah
🔗 gofund.me/4a1deff15
I’m Mahmod from Gaza,
a Software Engineer and father of 3.
We lost so much but not our hope. My Family still dream of school and safety.
Help me make that dream real again PLZ don@te 💔
✅ #Molly_Shah
🔗 gofund.me/4a1deff15
November 25, 2025 at 11:33 PM
"I'm sorry if this message bothered you."
I’m Mahmod from Gaza,
a Software Engineer and father of 3.
We lost so much but not our hope. My Family still dream of school and safety.
Help me make that dream real again PLZ don@te 💔
✅ #Molly_Shah
🔗 gofund.me/4a1deff15
I’m Mahmod from Gaza,
a Software Engineer and father of 3.
We lost so much but not our hope. My Family still dream of school and safety.
Help me make that dream real again PLZ don@te 💔
✅ #Molly_Shah
🔗 gofund.me/4a1deff15
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System and communities that don’t hold perpetrators of sexual harassment, assault, and abuse accountable will not start holding perpetrators accountable because they’re using AI to do it
December 6, 2025 at 3:29 AM
System and communities that don’t hold perpetrators of sexual harassment, assault, and abuse accountable will not start holding perpetrators accountable because they’re using AI to do it
Pls show me people who are normal about all oppressed people so I can follow them instead 😭
Genuinely starting to feel concerned that everyone on here has at least one extremely harmful take, whether that's "transmascs deserve to be disbelieved about their abuse because they're gender traitors" or "I intellectualize my discomfort with pro-Palestinian content to seem right". Save me
December 2, 2025 at 7:03 AM
Pls show me people who are normal about all oppressed people so I can follow them instead 😭
Genuinely starting to feel concerned that everyone on here has at least one extremely harmful take, whether that's "transmascs deserve to be disbelieved about their abuse because they're gender traitors" or "I intellectualize my discomfort with pro-Palestinian content to seem right". Save me
December 2, 2025 at 7:01 AM
Genuinely starting to feel concerned that everyone on here has at least one extremely harmful take, whether that's "transmascs deserve to be disbelieved about their abuse because they're gender traitors" or "I intellectualize my discomfort with pro-Palestinian content to seem right". Save me
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This is one of the reasons why I balk at the idea that men are afraid to be perceived as abusive. In many cases, that perception is actually key to their success, because other people strive to make excuses for their behavior, deny it, redeem them, and elevate them in the process.
November 29, 2025 at 9:22 PM
This is one of the reasons why I balk at the idea that men are afraid to be perceived as abusive. In many cases, that perception is actually key to their success, because other people strive to make excuses for their behavior, deny it, redeem them, and elevate them in the process.
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Years ago, my colleagues at Business Insider and I tracked YouTuber “cancellation” arcs. What we found is that for many entertainers, “cancellation” actually sets the stage for a redemption arc, one that can raise their profile higher than ever. It wasn’t career-ending. It was fuel.
November 29, 2025 at 9:21 PM
Years ago, my colleagues at Business Insider and I tracked YouTuber “cancellation” arcs. What we found is that for many entertainers, “cancellation” actually sets the stage for a redemption arc, one that can raise their profile higher than ever. It wasn’t career-ending. It was fuel.
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Love when victims are punished for doing the very thing we as a society demand of them: providing evidence. As always the victim is the one who is punished for being a victim. This shit is infuriating
www.newsweek.com/olivia-hende...
www.newsweek.com/olivia-hende...
Ex-DoorDash worker arrested after naked customer ‘sexual assault’ video
Olivia Henderson was arrested on November 10, following the incident which occurred on October 12. She is facing two charges.
www.newsweek.com
November 16, 2025 at 8:00 PM
Love when victims are punished for doing the very thing we as a society demand of them: providing evidence. As always the victim is the one who is punished for being a victim. This shit is infuriating
www.newsweek.com/olivia-hende...
www.newsweek.com/olivia-hende...
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Donate to Help a mother and her children from Gaza who lost everything, organized by Samar Islam
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August 29, 2025 at 3:43 AM
Hello Im Ekhlas mother of 3 children I lost my home because the war and now we are living in extremely harsh conditions My children need you , you are our only hope Please dont let us down please donate and share 🔗
I kindly ask you to talk just a minutes to read my story on link 🙏
gofund.me/2d632a06
I kindly ask you to talk just a minutes to read my story on link 🙏
gofund.me/2d632a06
After some time away from Ellis's Palestine video, it definitely has some major flaws, but I am wondering, is it better late and flawed than not at all? As a non-Palestinian, I don't think I'm in a position to make that decision for others but I am curious what people think more generally.
October 7, 2025 at 2:26 PM
After some time away from Ellis's Palestine video, it definitely has some major flaws, but I am wondering, is it better late and flawed than not at all? As a non-Palestinian, I don't think I'm in a position to make that decision for others but I am curious what people think more generally.
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““They dragged little Greta [Thunberg] by her hair before our eyes, beat her, and forced her to kiss the Israeli flag. They did everything imaginable to her, as a warning to others,” the Turkish activist ErsinÇelik, a participant in the Sumud flotilla, told Anadolu news agency.”+
Israel accused of detaining Greta Thunberg in infested cell and making her hold flags
Activist tells Swedish officials she has been subjected to harsh treatment, including insufficient food and water
www.theguardian.com
October 4, 2025 at 6:21 PM
““They dragged little Greta [Thunberg] by her hair before our eyes, beat her, and forced her to kiss the Israeli flag. They did everything imaginable to her, as a warning to others,” the Turkish activist ErsinÇelik, a participant in the Sumud flotilla, told Anadolu news agency.”+
Sometimes I think about what some of the people I've left behind think about me being in a "het passing" relationship now (neither of us are cis or het), but then I remember that if they don't support me finally being with someone who treats me with empathy, they can go fuck themselves lol
June 13, 2025 at 12:34 PM
Sometimes I think about what some of the people I've left behind think about me being in a "het passing" relationship now (neither of us are cis or het), but then I remember that if they don't support me finally being with someone who treats me with empathy, they can go fuck themselves lol
Like something tells me that perhaps we as a culture don't actually respect victims of sexual violence beyond their purpose as rhetorical devices bc what is wrong with some of you
"Slave labor is bad? Well what if your rapists were doing the slave labor (ignore everyone incarcerated for nonviolent crimes)" "Oh, critical of the government? Well without laws I'd rape you specifically" and "Transvestigate your roommate bc they might rape you. If you don't, you're cheating"
Something I've noticed over the years as a survivor of rape and sexual assault and abuse is how willing so many people are to weaponize your trauma to further their agenda. Double if you have Opinions™. Examples of things people have said to me as follows:
February 20, 2025 at 3:54 AM
Like something tells me that perhaps we as a culture don't actually respect victims of sexual violence beyond their purpose as rhetorical devices bc what is wrong with some of you
"Slave labor is bad? Well what if your rapists were doing the slave labor (ignore everyone incarcerated for nonviolent crimes)" "Oh, critical of the government? Well without laws I'd rape you specifically" and "Transvestigate your roommate bc they might rape you. If you don't, you're cheating"
Something I've noticed over the years as a survivor of rape and sexual assault and abuse is how willing so many people are to weaponize your trauma to further their agenda. Double if you have Opinions™. Examples of things people have said to me as follows:
February 20, 2025 at 3:51 AM
"Slave labor is bad? Well what if your rapists were doing the slave labor (ignore everyone incarcerated for nonviolent crimes)" "Oh, critical of the government? Well without laws I'd rape you specifically" and "Transvestigate your roommate bc they might rape you. If you don't, you're cheating"
Something I've noticed over the years as a survivor of rape and sexual assault and abuse is how willing so many people are to weaponize your trauma to further their agenda. Double if you have Opinions™. Examples of things people have said to me as follows:
February 20, 2025 at 3:44 AM
Something I've noticed over the years as a survivor of rape and sexual assault and abuse is how willing so many people are to weaponize your trauma to further their agenda. Double if you have Opinions™. Examples of things people have said to me as follows:
Still wild to me how people are sticking their necks out for... a creepy podcaster? Maybe I'm just not immersed enough in pop culture, but I'm skeptical how many of you are fans of him vs how many of you just saw an opportunity to disbelieve a woman who's made unrelated mistakes.
February 20, 2025 at 2:01 AM
Still wild to me how people are sticking their necks out for... a creepy podcaster? Maybe I'm just not immersed enough in pop culture, but I'm skeptical how many of you are fans of him vs how many of you just saw an opportunity to disbelieve a woman who's made unrelated mistakes.
Half a year on from my most recent abusive relationship (and hopefully last!) and from the start of DBT, I'm for once actually content with putting on some weight and becoming healthier. I finally feel like I'm pulling myself out of this pit I've been stuck in for as long as I can remember
February 11, 2025 at 2:38 AM
Half a year on from my most recent abusive relationship (and hopefully last!) and from the start of DBT, I'm for once actually content with putting on some weight and becoming healthier. I finally feel like I'm pulling myself out of this pit I've been stuck in for as long as I can remember
smaller things first and then work our way from there to start helping people understand accountability and changing for larger things isn't dangerous either. Idk I'm open to critique for this, however
I do, however, think that hierarchy first and foremost is the tools these abusers use and I don't think it actually helps us in the long run (in fact it might put victims in more danger!) to use it to our advantage. Which is why I think it's a good idea to try and destigmatize accountability for 5/?
this to perpetrators of more extreme harm. I don't think I'm quite ready or educated enough yet to understand how to address accountability with abusers, and I do think we should still prioritize the safety of victims first and foremost bc society protects abusers enough already. 4/?
January 27, 2025 at 8:02 PM
smaller things first and then work our way from there to start helping people understand accountability and changing for larger things isn't dangerous either. Idk I'm open to critique for this, however
I do, however, think that hierarchy first and foremost is the tools these abusers use and I don't think it actually helps us in the long run (in fact it might put victims in more danger!) to use it to our advantage. Which is why I think it's a good idea to try and destigmatize accountability for 5/?
this to perpetrators of more extreme harm. I don't think I'm quite ready or educated enough yet to understand how to address accountability with abusers, and I do think we should still prioritize the safety of victims first and foremost bc society protects abusers enough already. 4/?
doing so anymore. Idk I think when I started realizing it shouldn't be up to a government to decide whether people should be tortured or kept in a cage, I ended up realizing I could own up to much smaller mistakes I've made in comparison. I'm not gonna pretend that I know how exactly to apply 3/?
January 27, 2025 at 8:01 PM
I do, however, think that hierarchy first and foremost is the tools these abusers use and I don't think it actually helps us in the long run (in fact it might put victims in more danger!) to use it to our advantage. Which is why I think it's a good idea to try and destigmatize accountability for 5/?
this to perpetrators of more extreme harm. I don't think I'm quite ready or educated enough yet to understand how to address accountability with abusers, and I do think we should still prioritize the safety of victims first and foremost bc society protects abusers enough already. 4/?
doing so anymore. Idk I think when I started realizing it shouldn't be up to a government to decide whether people should be tortured or kept in a cage, I ended up realizing I could own up to much smaller mistakes I've made in comparison. I'm not gonna pretend that I know how exactly to apply 3/?
Like once you try to break down the hierarchy of deservingness and understand that people more deserving of getting their basic needs met than others based on most things, it starts feeling a lot less "dangerous" to admit when you've made a mistake, because it doesn't feel like you're lesser for 2/?
January 27, 2025 at 7:59 PM
this to perpetrators of more extreme harm. I don't think I'm quite ready or educated enough yet to understand how to address accountability with abusers, and I do think we should still prioritize the safety of victims first and foremost bc society protects abusers enough already. 4/?
doing so anymore. Idk I think when I started realizing it shouldn't be up to a government to decide whether people should be tortured or kept in a cage, I ended up realizing I could own up to much smaller mistakes I've made in comparison. I'm not gonna pretend that I know how exactly to apply 3/?
Like once you try to break down the hierarchy of deservingness and understand that people more deserving of getting their basic needs met than others based on most things, it starts feeling a lot less "dangerous" to admit when you've made a mistake, because it doesn't feel like you're lesser for 2/?
As someone who has dealt with a lot of abuse, and seen a lot of people who don't claim full accountability for their actions, I do personally think embracing that accountability is one of the best tools of empowerment we have. 1/?
January 27, 2025 at 7:56 PM
doing so anymore. Idk I think when I started realizing it shouldn't be up to a government to decide whether people should be tortured or kept in a cage, I ended up realizing I could own up to much smaller mistakes I've made in comparison. I'm not gonna pretend that I know how exactly to apply 3/?
Like once you try to break down the hierarchy of deservingness and understand that people more deserving of getting their basic needs met than others based on most things, it starts feeling a lot less "dangerous" to admit when you've made a mistake, because it doesn't feel like you're lesser for 2/?
As someone who has dealt with a lot of abuse, and seen a lot of people who don't claim full accountability for their actions, I do personally think embracing that accountability is one of the best tools of empowerment we have. 1/?
January 27, 2025 at 7:52 PM
Like once you try to break down the hierarchy of deservingness and understand that people more deserving of getting their basic needs met than others based on most things, it starts feeling a lot less "dangerous" to admit when you've made a mistake, because it doesn't feel like you're lesser for 2/?
As someone who has dealt with a lot of abuse, and seen a lot of people who don't claim full accountability for their actions, I do personally think embracing that accountability is one of the best tools of empowerment we have. 1/?
January 27, 2025 at 7:50 PM
As someone who has dealt with a lot of abuse, and seen a lot of people who don't claim full accountability for their actions, I do personally think embracing that accountability is one of the best tools of empowerment we have. 1/?
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I dislike theories of feminism that overcomplicate consent into something Just Too Messy To Say and i struggle to understand what they even try to achieve. Okay, you convinced the world that sexual abusers don't know they sexually abused. How did that help their victims? Literally at all?
January 27, 2025 at 4:23 AM
I dislike theories of feminism that overcomplicate consent into something Just Too Messy To Say and i struggle to understand what they even try to achieve. Okay, you convinced the world that sexual abusers don't know they sexually abused. How did that help their victims? Literally at all?
Ngl I feel like we need to take a more collectivist approach to feminism, women's lib, and trans lib at this point. The ultimate feminist choices should be class solidarity between women and other marginalized genders, building empathy for one another, and building fronts for collective action
January 27, 2025 at 5:03 PM
Ngl I feel like we need to take a more collectivist approach to feminism, women's lib, and trans lib at this point. The ultimate feminist choices should be class solidarity between women and other marginalized genders, building empathy for one another, and building fronts for collective action