The Lavender Gaze
@the-lavender-gaze.bsky.social
The possibility to look, to be looked it. A space for connection, vulnerability, and presence. This is a space for expression, in words and images. Not everything is about sexuality. But as a gay man, I have a lavender outlook. Gaze with me.
THE BODY SPEAKS
thelavendergaze.com/2017/03/the-...
During the last three months I underwent three surgeries in my pubic area: fixing an inguinal hernia …
#Body #Essay #QueerWriters #Sex #Writing #WritingCommunity
thelavendergaze.com/2017/03/the-...
During the last three months I underwent three surgeries in my pubic area: fixing an inguinal hernia …
#Body #Essay #QueerWriters #Sex #Writing #WritingCommunity
January 15, 2026 at 8:00 PM
THE BODY SPEAKS
thelavendergaze.com/2017/03/the-...
During the last three months I underwent three surgeries in my pubic area: fixing an inguinal hernia …
#Body #Essay #QueerWriters #Sex #Writing #WritingCommunity
thelavendergaze.com/2017/03/the-...
During the last three months I underwent three surgeries in my pubic area: fixing an inguinal hernia …
#Body #Essay #QueerWriters #Sex #Writing #WritingCommunity
FEARING WHAT I WANT; WANTING WHAT I FEAR
thelavendergaze.com/2017/03/fear...
For years I’ve lived my life guided by the reins of safety. Security served as the north star …
#Essay #Fear #Life #Writing #WritingCommunity
thelavendergaze.com/2017/03/fear...
For years I’ve lived my life guided by the reins of safety. Security served as the north star …
#Essay #Fear #Life #Writing #WritingCommunity
January 13, 2026 at 10:18 PM
FEARING WHAT I WANT; WANTING WHAT I FEAR
thelavendergaze.com/2017/03/fear...
For years I’ve lived my life guided by the reins of safety. Security served as the north star …
#Essay #Fear #Life #Writing #WritingCommunity
thelavendergaze.com/2017/03/fear...
For years I’ve lived my life guided by the reins of safety. Security served as the north star …
#Essay #Fear #Life #Writing #WritingCommunity
I AM GAY
thelavendergaze.com/2017/04/i-am...
I recently had a discussion with someone who told me that he doesn’t like using the word ‘gay’ because sexuality is fluid …
#Gay #Homophobia #LGBTQ #Queer #ComingOut
thelavendergaze.com/2017/04/i-am...
I recently had a discussion with someone who told me that he doesn’t like using the word ‘gay’ because sexuality is fluid …
#Gay #Homophobia #LGBTQ #Queer #ComingOut
December 22, 2025 at 10:39 PM
I AM GAY
thelavendergaze.com/2017/04/i-am...
I recently had a discussion with someone who told me that he doesn’t like using the word ‘gay’ because sexuality is fluid …
#Gay #Homophobia #LGBTQ #Queer #ComingOut
thelavendergaze.com/2017/04/i-am...
I recently had a discussion with someone who told me that he doesn’t like using the word ‘gay’ because sexuality is fluid …
#Gay #Homophobia #LGBTQ #Queer #ComingOut
VALAR MORGHULIS
thelavendergaze.com/2017/01/vala...
All men must die.
Such a fact of life,
we fervently neglect.
Out of sight,
out of mind ...
#DarkPoetry #Death #GayWriter #Life #Poems #Poetry #PoetryCommunity #ReflectionsOnLife #Existential #ExistentialQuestions
thelavendergaze.com/2017/01/vala...
All men must die.
Such a fact of life,
we fervently neglect.
Out of sight,
out of mind ...
#DarkPoetry #Death #GayWriter #Life #Poems #Poetry #PoetryCommunity #ReflectionsOnLife #Existential #ExistentialQuestions
December 22, 2025 at 9:22 PM
VALAR MORGHULIS
thelavendergaze.com/2017/01/vala...
All men must die.
Such a fact of life,
we fervently neglect.
Out of sight,
out of mind ...
#DarkPoetry #Death #GayWriter #Life #Poems #Poetry #PoetryCommunity #ReflectionsOnLife #Existential #ExistentialQuestions
thelavendergaze.com/2017/01/vala...
All men must die.
Such a fact of life,
we fervently neglect.
Out of sight,
out of mind ...
#DarkPoetry #Death #GayWriter #Life #Poems #Poetry #PoetryCommunity #ReflectionsOnLife #Existential #ExistentialQuestions
DO YOU LIKE S&M?
thelavendergaze.com/2017/01/do-y...
S&M: sadism and masochism – two words that elicit a range of reactions from disgust and judgement to curiosity and ...
#Abuse #BDSM #GayWriter #Guilt #Power #QueerMastodon #QueerWriters #ReflectionsOnLife #Religion #Writing #WritingCommunity
thelavendergaze.com/2017/01/do-y...
S&M: sadism and masochism – two words that elicit a range of reactions from disgust and judgement to curiosity and ...
#Abuse #BDSM #GayWriter #Guilt #Power #QueerMastodon #QueerWriters #ReflectionsOnLife #Religion #Writing #WritingCommunity
December 15, 2025 at 10:39 PM
DO YOU LIKE S&M?
thelavendergaze.com/2017/01/do-y...
S&M: sadism and masochism – two words that elicit a range of reactions from disgust and judgement to curiosity and ...
#Abuse #BDSM #GayWriter #Guilt #Power #QueerMastodon #QueerWriters #ReflectionsOnLife #Religion #Writing #WritingCommunity
thelavendergaze.com/2017/01/do-y...
S&M: sadism and masochism – two words that elicit a range of reactions from disgust and judgement to curiosity and ...
#Abuse #BDSM #GayWriter #Guilt #Power #QueerMastodon #QueerWriters #ReflectionsOnLife #Religion #Writing #WritingCommunity
PAIN MUST AND WILL COME
thelavendergaze.com/2016/11/pain...
We try to avoid pain. We surround ourselves with comfort. We invest in our future ...
#Existential #ExistentialQuestions #GayWriter #Life #Pain #Philosophy #QueerMastodon #QueerWriters #ReflectionsOnLife #WritingCommunity #Writing
thelavendergaze.com/2016/11/pain...
We try to avoid pain. We surround ourselves with comfort. We invest in our future ...
#Existential #ExistentialQuestions #GayWriter #Life #Pain #Philosophy #QueerMastodon #QueerWriters #ReflectionsOnLife #WritingCommunity #Writing
December 14, 2025 at 10:17 PM
PAIN MUST AND WILL COME
thelavendergaze.com/2016/11/pain...
We try to avoid pain. We surround ourselves with comfort. We invest in our future ...
#Existential #ExistentialQuestions #GayWriter #Life #Pain #Philosophy #QueerMastodon #QueerWriters #ReflectionsOnLife #WritingCommunity #Writing
thelavendergaze.com/2016/11/pain...
We try to avoid pain. We surround ourselves with comfort. We invest in our future ...
#Existential #ExistentialQuestions #GayWriter #Life #Pain #Philosophy #QueerMastodon #QueerWriters #ReflectionsOnLife #WritingCommunity #Writing
SMILE AT A STRANGER
thelavendergaze.com/2017/01/smil...
We crave connection. Yet, we live in a world that is so scared of it ...
#Connect #GayWriter #Life #QueerMastodon #QueerWriters #ReflectionsOnLife #VulnerableWriting #WritingCommunity
thelavendergaze.com/2017/01/smil...
We crave connection. Yet, we live in a world that is so scared of it ...
#Connect #GayWriter #Life #QueerMastodon #QueerWriters #ReflectionsOnLife #VulnerableWriting #WritingCommunity
December 14, 2025 at 5:07 PM
SMILE AT A STRANGER
thelavendergaze.com/2017/01/smil...
We crave connection. Yet, we live in a world that is so scared of it ...
#Connect #GayWriter #Life #QueerMastodon #QueerWriters #ReflectionsOnLife #VulnerableWriting #WritingCommunity
thelavendergaze.com/2017/01/smil...
We crave connection. Yet, we live in a world that is so scared of it ...
#Connect #GayWriter #Life #QueerMastodon #QueerWriters #ReflectionsOnLife #VulnerableWriting #WritingCommunity
FACING THE HURRICANE
thelavendergaze.com/2016/11/faci...
We are afraid of the unknown – a force so much bigger than we are and over which we have no control. We are afraid it will crush us, destroy us …
#QueerWriter #GayWriter #Death #ReflectionsOnLife #Existential #TheUnknown #Fear #Life
thelavendergaze.com/2016/11/faci...
We are afraid of the unknown – a force so much bigger than we are and over which we have no control. We are afraid it will crush us, destroy us …
#QueerWriter #GayWriter #Death #ReflectionsOnLife #Existential #TheUnknown #Fear #Life
December 8, 2025 at 10:49 PM
FACING THE HURRICANE
thelavendergaze.com/2016/11/faci...
We are afraid of the unknown – a force so much bigger than we are and over which we have no control. We are afraid it will crush us, destroy us …
#QueerWriter #GayWriter #Death #ReflectionsOnLife #Existential #TheUnknown #Fear #Life
thelavendergaze.com/2016/11/faci...
We are afraid of the unknown – a force so much bigger than we are and over which we have no control. We are afraid it will crush us, destroy us …
#QueerWriter #GayWriter #Death #ReflectionsOnLife #Existential #TheUnknown #Fear #Life
FOR NOW
thelavendergaze.com/2009/04/for-...
You chose to sail through stormy weather,
unchartered waters and raging seas.
You could run away
live life as many do:
as “normal” guys ...
#ComingOut #Gay #GayLove #GayWriter #LGBTQ #LGBTQLove #LGBTQPoetry #Poetry #Pride #Queer #QueerLove #QueerPoetry
thelavendergaze.com/2009/04/for-...
You chose to sail through stormy weather,
unchartered waters and raging seas.
You could run away
live life as many do:
as “normal” guys ...
#ComingOut #Gay #GayLove #GayWriter #LGBTQ #LGBTQLove #LGBTQPoetry #Poetry #Pride #Queer #QueerLove #QueerPoetry
December 8, 2025 at 9:32 PM
FOR NOW
thelavendergaze.com/2009/04/for-...
You chose to sail through stormy weather,
unchartered waters and raging seas.
You could run away
live life as many do:
as “normal” guys ...
#ComingOut #Gay #GayLove #GayWriter #LGBTQ #LGBTQLove #LGBTQPoetry #Poetry #Pride #Queer #QueerLove #QueerPoetry
thelavendergaze.com/2009/04/for-...
You chose to sail through stormy weather,
unchartered waters and raging seas.
You could run away
live life as many do:
as “normal” guys ...
#ComingOut #Gay #GayLove #GayWriter #LGBTQ #LGBTQLove #LGBTQPoetry #Poetry #Pride #Queer #QueerLove #QueerPoetry
INTENSE RELEASE
Touch me –
bring me to the edge.
Moaning I withhold
that which you let me retain
waiting for that cry of release ...
Read more: thelavendergaze.com/2009/02/inte...
#Gay #GayLove #GayWriter #LGBTQ #LGBTQLove #LGBTQPoetry #Poetry #Queer #QueerLove #QueerPoetry #QueerWriters #Sex
Touch me –
bring me to the edge.
Moaning I withhold
that which you let me retain
waiting for that cry of release ...
Read more: thelavendergaze.com/2009/02/inte...
#Gay #GayLove #GayWriter #LGBTQ #LGBTQLove #LGBTQPoetry #Poetry #Queer #QueerLove #QueerPoetry #QueerWriters #Sex
December 8, 2025 at 9:16 PM
INTENSE RELEASE
Touch me –
bring me to the edge.
Moaning I withhold
that which you let me retain
waiting for that cry of release ...
Read more: thelavendergaze.com/2009/02/inte...
#Gay #GayLove #GayWriter #LGBTQ #LGBTQLove #LGBTQPoetry #Poetry #Queer #QueerLove #QueerPoetry #QueerWriters #Sex
Touch me –
bring me to the edge.
Moaning I withhold
that which you let me retain
waiting for that cry of release ...
Read more: thelavendergaze.com/2009/02/inte...
#Gay #GayLove #GayWriter #LGBTQ #LGBTQLove #LGBTQPoetry #Poetry #Queer #QueerLove #QueerPoetry #QueerWriters #Sex
NOWHERE
Always seeking
never finding.
Always nowhere
never arriving ...
More: thelavendergaze.com/2025/07/nowh...
#Poetry #GayWriter #Existential #QueerPoetry #VulnerableWriting #Poems #GayPoem #ExistentialPoem #DarkPoetry
Always seeking
never finding.
Always nowhere
never arriving ...
More: thelavendergaze.com/2025/07/nowh...
#Poetry #GayWriter #Existential #QueerPoetry #VulnerableWriting #Poems #GayPoem #ExistentialPoem #DarkPoetry
December 8, 2025 at 8:50 PM
NOWHERE
Always seeking
never finding.
Always nowhere
never arriving ...
More: thelavendergaze.com/2025/07/nowh...
#Poetry #GayWriter #Existential #QueerPoetry #VulnerableWriting #Poems #GayPoem #ExistentialPoem #DarkPoetry
Always seeking
never finding.
Always nowhere
never arriving ...
More: thelavendergaze.com/2025/07/nowh...
#Poetry #GayWriter #Existential #QueerPoetry #VulnerableWriting #Poems #GayPoem #ExistentialPoem #DarkPoetry
UNDRESS ME
Undress me.
Let me lie naked before you
as I am
without protection or masks.
Look at me.
I won’t cover myself
as my eyes meet yours
without fear or shame.
And then …
Read more at: thelavendergaze.com/2009/02/undr...
#GayLove #GayWriter #LGBTQ #Poetry #Pride #Queer #QueerPoetry
Undress me.
Let me lie naked before you
as I am
without protection or masks.
Look at me.
I won’t cover myself
as my eyes meet yours
without fear or shame.
And then …
Read more at: thelavendergaze.com/2009/02/undr...
#GayLove #GayWriter #LGBTQ #Poetry #Pride #Queer #QueerPoetry
December 3, 2025 at 11:23 PM
UNDRESS ME
Undress me.
Let me lie naked before you
as I am
without protection or masks.
Look at me.
I won’t cover myself
as my eyes meet yours
without fear or shame.
And then …
Read more at: thelavendergaze.com/2009/02/undr...
#GayLove #GayWriter #LGBTQ #Poetry #Pride #Queer #QueerPoetry
Undress me.
Let me lie naked before you
as I am
without protection or masks.
Look at me.
I won’t cover myself
as my eyes meet yours
without fear or shame.
And then …
Read more at: thelavendergaze.com/2009/02/undr...
#GayLove #GayWriter #LGBTQ #Poetry #Pride #Queer #QueerPoetry
SHACKLED
There was a boy
who became a man.
Almost – not entirely ...
Read: thelavendergaze.com/2022/06/shac...
#GrowingUp #Adolescence #GayWriter #QueerPoetry #GayPoetry #Guilt #Adolescence #Poetry #Poems
There was a boy
who became a man.
Almost – not entirely ...
Read: thelavendergaze.com/2022/06/shac...
#GrowingUp #Adolescence #GayWriter #QueerPoetry #GayPoetry #Guilt #Adolescence #Poetry #Poems
December 3, 2025 at 10:48 PM
SHACKLED
There was a boy
who became a man.
Almost – not entirely ...
Read: thelavendergaze.com/2022/06/shac...
#GrowingUp #Adolescence #GayWriter #QueerPoetry #GayPoetry #Guilt #Adolescence #Poetry #Poems
There was a boy
who became a man.
Almost – not entirely ...
Read: thelavendergaze.com/2022/06/shac...
#GrowingUp #Adolescence #GayWriter #QueerPoetry #GayPoetry #Guilt #Adolescence #Poetry #Poems
THE LIFE OF A CAFÉ LATTE
You look at the two tall transparent glasses in front of you. A shiny metal stirrer rests between them. Your gaze settles on the glass that stands on the left, two thirds full of ...
#QueerWriter #YinYang #Existential
Read more: thelavendergaze.com/2025/10/the-...
You look at the two tall transparent glasses in front of you. A shiny metal stirrer rests between them. Your gaze settles on the glass that stands on the left, two thirds full of ...
#QueerWriter #YinYang #Existential
Read more: thelavendergaze.com/2025/10/the-...
December 3, 2025 at 10:26 PM
THE LIFE OF A CAFÉ LATTE
You look at the two tall transparent glasses in front of you. A shiny metal stirrer rests between them. Your gaze settles on the glass that stands on the left, two thirds full of ...
#QueerWriter #YinYang #Existential
Read more: thelavendergaze.com/2025/10/the-...
You look at the two tall transparent glasses in front of you. A shiny metal stirrer rests between them. Your gaze settles on the glass that stands on the left, two thirds full of ...
#QueerWriter #YinYang #Existential
Read more: thelavendergaze.com/2025/10/the-...
OUR DAILY BREAD
Give us today our daily bread …
today and every day.
A bread called emptiness, void, loneliness,
confusion, frustration, and sadness …
Read more: thelavendergaze.com/2009/03/our-...
#GayPoetry #QueerPoetry #GayWriter #QueerWriter #Despair #DarkPoetry #Poetry #ReligiousTrauma
Give us today our daily bread …
today and every day.
A bread called emptiness, void, loneliness,
confusion, frustration, and sadness …
Read more: thelavendergaze.com/2009/03/our-...
#GayPoetry #QueerPoetry #GayWriter #QueerWriter #Despair #DarkPoetry #Poetry #ReligiousTrauma
December 3, 2025 at 10:20 PM
OUR DAILY BREAD
Give us today our daily bread …
today and every day.
A bread called emptiness, void, loneliness,
confusion, frustration, and sadness …
Read more: thelavendergaze.com/2009/03/our-...
#GayPoetry #QueerPoetry #GayWriter #QueerWriter #Despair #DarkPoetry #Poetry #ReligiousTrauma
Give us today our daily bread …
today and every day.
A bread called emptiness, void, loneliness,
confusion, frustration, and sadness …
Read more: thelavendergaze.com/2009/03/our-...
#GayPoetry #QueerPoetry #GayWriter #QueerWriter #Despair #DarkPoetry #Poetry #ReligiousTrauma