Katy Higgins Lee
tendingpaths.bsky.social
Katy Higgins Lee
@tendingpaths.bsky.social
Katy Higgins Lee, MFT (she/her)
Multiply Neurodivergent therapist and unschooling parent
Neuroqueering
Practicing anti-racism

https://linktr.ee/tendingpaths
No, they are not. (I’m not clear on where you are going with your questions. I can’t tell if you are asking out of genuine curiosity or if you are trying to start an argument.)
March 13, 2025 at 12:03 AM
No. I am referring to the fact that trans people are more likely to be neurodivergent and neurodivergent people are more likely to be trans.
March 12, 2025 at 10:34 PM
Recommended Reading

Menakem, R. (2017). My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies. Central Recovery Press

Johnson, R. (2023). Embodied Activism: Engaging the Body to Cultivate Liberation, Justice, and Authentic Connection. Penguin Random House

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March 10, 2025 at 7:51 PM
It is a continual process and practice, as opposed to a fixed destination. (10)
March 10, 2025 at 7:50 PM
When we cultivate our somatic bandwidth, we can learn to be with diverse experiences, including those who subvert normativity.

Even those of us who think we are progressive and liberal need to work toward unraveling the ways we continue to have unconscious attachments to normativity. (9)
March 10, 2025 at 7:49 PM
Somatic bandwidth is a term that was coined by Rae Johnson and refers to the ability to be comfortable with feeling and witnessing a range of sensations and embodied emotions. (8)
March 10, 2025 at 7:49 PM
In order to shift this, we all need to learn to cultivate our somatic bandwidth so that we can tolerate the feelings that arise when we witness ambiguity and complexity. (7)
March 10, 2025 at 7:49 PM
Their nervous system perceives that there is a threat where there is no threat, and their nervous system automatically reacts, usually with a fight response of anger, judgment, mistrust, and attempts to control the other. (6)
March 10, 2025 at 7:48 PM
When they witness people who are living their life without adhering to these standards of normativity, they feel threatened. (5)
March 10, 2025 at 7:48 PM
Many people have a fear of ambiguity and complexity, and therefore live their life according to these standards of normativity, so that they don’t have to feel those feelings of fear. (4)
March 10, 2025 at 7:48 PM
This is an all-or-nothing way of thinking, which of course is usually not the reality of actual experience, but many people hold tightly to this perspective. (3)
March 10, 2025 at 7:47 PM
This can apply to gender, sexuality, race, culture, and disability, including neurodivergence.

This often manifests in the idea that white, cis, straight, and able-bodied is the norm and everyone else is an other. (2)
March 10, 2025 at 7:46 PM