how insulting is it to be offered up as some involuntary mammy? sending anger and pure, dark malice towards their abode.

unfortunately I have problems with ever being helpful to a white person again in the context of a relationship bc after breaking up with one, I checked his twt and he said "saw my ex on the apps,shout out to her she'll take care of you" like no way I just disposable black girlfriended myself🫠