Sofie Couwenbergh
sofiecouwenbergh.com
Sofie Couwenbergh
@sofiecouwenbergh.com
Writer, thinker, and dance aficionada. Fueled by tea, passionate about interpersonal communication. She/her. Essays and poetry on https://sofiecouwenbergh.substack.com/
Different generations, sure. From different backgrounds, too.

Does that change that it was inappropriate? No.

I might take a detour to get to my car later, because there are only so many battles you can fight in a day.

To be continued.
May 17, 2025 at 9:48 AM
I saw him again yesterday, yet this time, my “boa tarde” gave him enough confidence to comment on my backpack, my clothes, and the tone of my skin. He also asked what time I’d pass by today so he could make sure to sit outside then.

That took an uncomfortable turn fast.
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May 17, 2025 at 9:48 AM
That last line sucked me right in.
May 15, 2025 at 11:02 AM
That is pretty cool! Congrats :)
May 10, 2025 at 12:22 AM
I rewatch this every time it passes by. Pure gold.
May 10, 2025 at 12:21 AM
Oh this is interesting. Thanks for sharing!
April 22, 2025 at 4:31 PM
More and more, I'd say. Although poetry, for example, still works best for me when it "arises". This suddenly made me think that writing for myself might be so hard because there is 0 constraint. No accountability (but to myself): no deadline, nobody's waiting for it, it can come out as anything...
April 18, 2025 at 2:09 PM
Absolutely. I've learned that while I usually crave to keep connection going, I need to take space whenever something triggering happens so I can sit with how I really feel about something (and thus what I really need to say) vs whatever my Protector wants to throw out in the moment.
April 18, 2025 at 2:07 PM
I'd say it's also exploring and deepening your thoughts, your processing, your perspective.
And this makes me think of the many letters to men I've rewritten dozens of times over until I reached a point where I knew where I was at with the situation :D
April 15, 2025 at 7:09 PM
Totally going to use the 👉 instead of my inefficient x/y system. Thanks for that :D
April 14, 2025 at 10:09 AM
I'm feeling torn between "That is so cool, I wish I could do that" and "That looks laborious. Do I really need to do that to get my point across?" And perhaps there lies the question of what matters most: sharing a message in a pleasant-enough-way, or creating art.
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April 14, 2025 at 10:09 AM
I'm noticing that writing within time constraints helps me write more uncensored, and I enjoy using prompts to unearth topics that may have been dormant, or to approach them from a different angle. When it comes to writing within the constraight of a given format (braided essay, list form, etc.) 👉
April 14, 2025 at 10:07 AM
I either go into over-explaining or deciding that the time for that piece hasn't come yet and leave it for later.

But maybe I'm not understanding what you meant?
April 11, 2025 at 6:45 PM
It seems reasonable that sometimes, experimenting with structure, syntax, etc. can help us phrase things we're struggling to formulate but that are still true. Not speaking from experience here, though. 3/4 (last one, promise :D)
April 11, 2025 at 6:45 PM
I'm truly wondering about that now as I'm taking a writing course after 15 years of just doing my thing (with a master's in Literature as the foundation, I will say) and we've been talking about structuring personal narrative, finding your voice, etc.
2/3 (Sorry keep having more thoughts).
April 11, 2025 at 6:41 PM
I'm thinking of experimenting with structure, for example, instead of just writing, checking for flow and typos, and hitting publish like I usually do. *enter shame*
Similarly, is something less truthful when we try to say it in a nicer or more interesting way than we would conversationally?1/2
April 11, 2025 at 6:40 PM
I should probably try to sound a bit more like a good writer, if I'm being honest with myself :D
April 11, 2025 at 3:47 PM