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In the first part of this blog post, I introduced some of the basics of kinky power play (if you’re looking to learn more about power play in a sports context, like hockey, you may be on the wrong website). I briefly reviewed some of the benefits beyond the play or sex itself, which was by no means

“Kink'' is a broad umbrella term used to describe “unconventional” sexual practices, concepts, or fantasies, such as BDSM (bondage, dominance, sadism, masochism), fetishism, voyeurism and/or exhibitionism, group play, erotic role play, power play, deriving pleasure from inanimate objects — the list

Sexologist Stefani Goerlich joins the “Sorry, I Missed This” podcast to discuss how BDSM supports ADHD brains through structure, and stimulation. It can be a real tool for regulation and connection.

There’s a myth I often hear when I tell people I’m a Trauma and Sex Counsellor who specialises in BDSM and Kink counselling. It goes something like this: “If you’re into pain, it must be because of trauma”.

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