Simon Nixon
simnixon.bsky.social
Simon Nixon
@simnixon.bsky.social
Counsellor and group facilitator focussed on domestic violence and healthy masculinities.
Love your neighbour/there’s no fear in love kind of Christian
Pop culture aficionado
Deconstructed or not it’s hard to find ways to recognise the space we take up because power and privilege is the water we’ve swum in.
January 27, 2025 at 12:33 PM
It’s not to say the topic hasn’t covered brilliantly. But i think it’s telling that it’s not often covered by the men who benefited from it.
Can anyone point me in the direction where tis is being covered?
January 27, 2025 at 12:29 PM
They’ve a message of love into a message of fear. They won’t relinquish power until they overcome that fear.
January 22, 2025 at 5:29 AM
Masculinity is so many things, Zuckerberg, Rogan and Piper and others mentioned here have such a narrow understanding of it. I guess at least he’s being honest that he values aggression over accountability for what others feel. So we know who we’re dealing with.
January 17, 2025 at 5:57 AM
I’ve making this analogy for a while now, and I’m worried it’s going to get worse in the next little while, when abusers escape accountability they become emboldened.
January 14, 2025 at 11:57 PM
If it’s ok to ask, what for you are some of the signs of a coercive community? I ask because I’ve been training to identify men who have been coercive over last 6 months and often work with them in a counselling setting. I’m interested in what you see in the community/system space.
January 14, 2025 at 6:14 AM
I’ve “checked out” Fortnite a few times. The best I got was 4th. A win is impressive.
January 13, 2025 at 9:48 PM
You won a Fortnite battle on your first day?
January 13, 2025 at 11:37 AM
These moments are a mirror. If you’re seeing the fires as judgment you’re probably seeing yourself and a god you created in your image.
January 9, 2025 at 9:51 PM
Glad you weren’t a jerk or a cry baby and you’ve remained friends.
January 3, 2025 at 12:15 PM
Sounds polite
January 3, 2025 at 12:13 PM
Sometimes I wonder if the difference is, in the recovery space I’m accountable for my behaviour in the church space I’m accountable for your behaviour.
January 3, 2025 at 12:11 PM
I think in my experience (admining multiple Facebook decon groups) I’d say most people use it as a catch all for any negative experiences they’ve had in a church. I’m interested though reading through the comments as to how we clearly define different experiences, particularly in regards to abuse
December 30, 2024 at 5:20 AM
This shows how far from the experience of not just his average congregants but is volunteer leaders he is. I know for a long time when I was a pastor I didn’t get it, but what a relief it must be for people who just did Christmas services not to have to back up again 4 days later.
December 29, 2024 at 1:33 PM
I’m not sure if I can agree after Civil War
December 25, 2024 at 8:21 AM
Coercive control perpetrated against whole communities, and churches that are like an abusive husband that holds no accountability.
December 24, 2024 at 1:27 PM
Tell me it’s not perfect though. Almost 20 years later and I can still hear that music.
December 24, 2024 at 1:17 PM