I can’t stop listening. It feels important to stay up with him and listen in real time.

Thank you so much!!

We did that as well and the ‘couples’ therapist participated in excusing his aggression. She was worse than useless. I’m so glad your marriage counselor picked it up.

This aptly describes the type of person I was dealing with…

Intimate partner abuse can happen to you and you may not recognize it. I recommend reading “Why Does He Do That?” By Lundy Bancroft. It has been so helpful to understand what happened to me. 6/

In the last few months of our relationship I devolved emotionally, for the first time in my life I felt I could not go on. I’d never experienced suicidal ideation in my life, I was 54 yrs old. I didn’t even live with this man. He was doing all this while my father was dying. 5/

His narrative was that every time I had an issue with his behavior I was having a bipolar episode. I was convinced, I went through years of psych drug treatment that never helped and often made me very ill. None of my mental health care providers noticed that this was being caused by his abuse. 4/

How was this someone who ‘loved’ me? After the end of the relationship I experienced delayed realization about how abusive he was. The biggest thing I learned about abuse is that it isn’t easily recognized. I did not know I was being abused. In fact he had convinced me I was abusive and psycho.3/

For misunderstanding a word he was saying during a conversation at a noisy restaurant he punched a wall. During the yelling and vitriol I stood silent, there was nothing for me to say. I didn’t do anything wrong, the confusion had been discovered. Why the rage? I felt dissociated. 2/

Sounds kind of familiar. It has a really interesting randomness of interaction with aliens and the use of language especially as rebellion. Found it B&N so it might be in one near you. Though I found it on sale at the Feminist Press CUNY on sale. #feministdystopiannovel

@feministpress.bsky.social reissued it in 2019. I highly recommend it. The premise is that the 19th amendment has been repealed. Women are considered juveniles and can no longer vote, hold public office or hold assets or work outside the home. 2/

Whenever I feel down, I’m going to look at this picture and feel better. 🦄🏳️‍🌈

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