If you got this far, the ending won’t disappoint!

You can read it here: open.substack.com/pub/scarlete...

Movements like de-centering men and going ‘boy sober’ tend to place the blame squarely on men’s shoulders, and with that we’re able to absolve ourselves of being active participants.

I'd become an observer of my own sex life, so I tried to unpick that in this essay.

After sleeping with a no headboard sort of man, I started to analyse why I did it. Was it for the anecdote? So I could share in heterosexual despair? Or something more sinister?

So thankful to the young women who trusted me with their stories, @zoegrunewald.bsky.social for being a wonderful editor, and the expertise of @familyrightsgp.bsky.social and @nuffieldfoundation.org

There is great work being done, (like Pause,
@agenda-alliance.bsky.social and PAC-UK) but support services are few and far between - particularly in the North of England, which also has the highest % of children in care (no coincidence!)