Hi! Hello! 👋🏻

I may just be shouting into the void here, but I didn’t want folks who may only be on BlueSky to miss this update from me — it’s a pretty important one.

Which is that… we may have figured out why I’ve been so sick for all these years. 😭

Sharing this excellent post by @samdylanfinch.bsky.social around the questions to ask when you are looking for a new therapist or coach...a lot of us queer neurodivergent folx have experienced harm in lieu of help in therapeutic relationships.

letsqueerthingsup.com/2025/04/06/t...

It’s always important not to assume someone’s gender identity based on appearance or pronouns — and to be cautious around how “out” someone may be — but it’s worth repeating as there are a lot of folks feeling increasing pressure to amend their gender presentation for their safety right now.

The full thing is on the gram and the clock app, but I’m sharing this clip with the hopes that it reaches the folks who need it. ❤️‍🩹

What’s keeping me up tonight:

It’s difficult but unsurprising to watch public figures who have built their platforms around “uplifting survivors” enact harm be absolutely unwilling to reckon with their impact.

Unsurprising in ways that I think we (collectively) can learn from. 🔑

I need all of my autistic pals (and plush adoring adjacent peers) to tell me your favorite online stores that sell stuffed animals.

Prefer: Small businesses, unique characters, cute aesthetic.

🧸💛

Hey. It’s okay if you’re a yapper. 💌

The best way I can describe this blog post is a hug.

I hope you can feel it from wherever you are. ❤️

🧊 Mountain of tasks and deadlines leaving you frozen?

🧽 Cognitive load feeling too unmanageable, like your brain is a totally full sponge?

🧠 Or just overwhelmed as a neurodivergent person trying to keep up?

🔖 I created this for you: letsqueerthingsup.com/2017/07/22/a...

The overwhelm-shutdown cycle is a very real thing for ADHDers (and many other neurodivergent folks).

I created this resource to help folks design a system that supports them through it.

letsqueerthingsup.com/2017/07/22/a...

"Grief helps retrieve us from the past, where our younger selves are still living in the hope that this will secure the love we need, and shifts us away from the future, where our younger selves are still living in the fear that we’ll be abandoned in the end." 🍃

Hey, 2025. ♥️ We aren’t apologizing for who we became to survive anymore.