4/4
The problem is: most of us try to impose (on others) what we think is right for us without taking into account other people's points of view.

This is what happens whenever we shove our unsolicited advice into others' throats.

We forget that what's good for us, may not be so good for them.

3/4
Some prefer the routine and the simplicity of the daily grind.

They're not looking for challenges. They just want to coast—and that's perfectly okay!

Who am I to say that's not a "good" thing?!

2/4
The preference is to make things easier so ANYBODY can do the job. Fewer hiccups keep the processes going. It makes sense. But I was puzzled:

"Doesn't that make us work more like robots?"

A few days later, it hit me: I was naive!

4/4
Most people are willing to help you understand something you don't know—instead of giving you a hard time.

We all know that pretending wastes everyone’s time. It's less about you and more about the project. We're in it together.

So let's work together.

3/4
However, her next words reveal how she did not understand what I was saying.

I wonder if she's like me: pretending to understand something they don't...to avoid looking clueless. She is new to the team. I get it.

I wanted to make her realize that...

2/4
Experienced people can see through the BS.

Reminds me of that time when we had 3 meetings talking about the exact same thing. The person who set up the meeting had a habit of saying, "Yea yea I understand" to cut me off from explaining.

However, her next words reveal how she...

2/2
...drive like it was summer.

Now, you can prep for all those and STILL get into an accident!

Some things are just out of your control.

It's a healthy reminder that:

In life, all you can do is prep, but it won’t guarantee outcomes.

3/3
Everyone is different. You won't be treated the same way as everybody else.
Therefore, don't just "be yourself" and expect others to treat you the way you imagined it.

The world does NOT revolve around us—we revolve around it.

Act accordingly.

2/3
...look at something attractive, unusual or interesting. That said, I should expect others to notice that I'm cold.

But if I don't want the attention, then maybe I should've worn something warmer.

There's a hidden lesson here: How people react to us is BEYOND our control

3/3
More often than not, whenever I try to fill the silence (for the sake of filling in the silence), I end up saying something stupid.

Silence isn’t your enemy. It can save you from saying something dumb or worse, offending someone.

2/3
My brain: Are you kidding me? We’re in the fn bathroom!

But I responded calmly, "Uhh…it’s getting there. We should be ok..."

Looking back, my brain didn't need to react that way if my boss kept his mouth shut.

It's a reminder that I needed to zip it when I didn't have anything useful to say.

3/3
Confidence" is when you stop giving a shit about how you are perceived.

It is less about looking perfect, and more about owning who you are.

So I stopped giving a crap about my messy hair.

It's my way of practicing to stop caring too much about what doesn't really matter.🤷‍♂️

2/3
...an internal debate started:
Do I look unprepared?
What if someone comments on my hair?
How do I respond?

More importantly: Why do I even care so much about this?

Because I have a skewed understanding of "confidence".

The truth is...