Many allies demand us to smile and give them comfort while they unintentionally calls us names we didn't choose.

Your intent is not more important than harm

Unitentional harm is still harm.

This is why white Christian nationalism is so dangerous.

It emboldens people like this, and they indoctrinate children and create more white supremacists.

This will barely be covered by the mainstream media, and it deserves to be a much bigger story.

I've attempted 2 times to start my own business. It requires, a certain type of energy and stamina to maintain it past that 3 year mark.

I'll look into doing my own thing again, cause its beating my sanity to keep getting jobs and be berated for not Socially Fitting in.

-my shoulders or back without my consent. I say no to being called it/she/whatever you are

I get anxious for remote jobs, their unplanned video calls, and the fast paced vague speech

All those things aspects of how I roll makes me "not a good fit" in their eyes

Start your own business >>

Socially doesnt fit in =

A quiet introvert who happens to be Black

I dont laugh at ethnic and gender based jokes

I speak in a calm manner instead of shouting at customers

I apologize and fix my work mistakes, do better, and dont make excuses

I say no to co-workers grabbing my hair, massaging

Instead of leaving me in peace to work in my corner with ear plugs and stress ball they choose to be upset that my presence makes THEM feel called out. They want everybody who is near them to be the SAME

Thank you, now I know to proceed with being myself in an environment that appreciates calm.

We can bash chaotic, loud, impulsive people who communicate by inferring and assuming - yet that will not change the fact that those personality types will forever be with us

Im a Highly sensitive empathetic person who does not engage with bullies, and I happen to be BlackQT

Corner is best for me

Hospital Job, library job, community spaces, church, spiritual retreats, relatives, school, and even past business clients were ALL spaces that have issues with my "calming voice".

Many were haters, envious, puzzled, agitated, or felt uncomfortable that Im still, warm, friendly and organized.

Its a practice to not yell, scream or holler at work, I put in that practice-yet thats not what the bosses want.
They need a person who's ears can tolerate the noise with zero complaints *except for jokes about needing aspirin, wine, or a nap.
That is acceptable while wearing a an calmer is not