If leaders are serious about ending war, women need a seat at the table.

Global data, 1989-2011: When women are involved in agreements, peace is 35% more likely to last 15+ years.

Men alone shouldn’t decide the fate of nations. Gender balance is especially vital with high stakes and hot tempers.

A sign of intellect is the ability to change your mind in the face of new facts.

A mark of wisdom is refusing to let the fear of admitting you were wrong stop you from getting it right.

The joy of learning something new eventually exceeds the pain of unlearning something old.

Impostor syndrome is a paradox:

-Others believe in you

-You don't believe in yourself

-Yet you believe yourself instead of them

If you doubt yourself, shouldn't you also doubt your judgment of yourself? When multiple people believe in you, it might be time to believe them.

In toxic relationships, you're forced to choose between honesty and loyalty. You bite your tongue to protect their ego.

In healthy relationships, honesty is an expression of loyalty. You speak your mind to help them grow.

When you have trust and respect, candor shows care.

How to be a critical thinker:

1. Be 10% more skeptical of people you agree with—and 10% more charitable to those you disagree with

2. Find flaws in ideas you like—and strengths in views you dislike

3. Discount sources that peddle one narrative—and learn from those that explore competing ideas

Productivity is overrated. What counts most is the quality of output, not the quantity.

People may be impressed by the volume you produce, but impact depends on the value you create.

Success is not about getting more things done. It's about doing more worthwhile things well.

The purpose of negative emotions is not to cause misery. It’s to prevent mistakes.

Outrage is a signal to speak up. Anxiety is a prompt to prepare. Guilt is a reminder to repair. Disappointment is a cue to persist.

Pain reveals principles. Where we hurt is a clue to what we value.

Politeness is not the same as kindness.

Being polite is saying what makes people feel good today. Being kind is doing what helps people get better tomorrow.

When the norm is politeness, people withhold disagreement and criticism. When the norm is kindness, people speak their minds respectfully.

Don't confuse being a fast talker with being a deep thinker. Speaking quickly signals confidence, not complexity.

Don't mistake volume for expertise. Speaking loudly reflects conviction, not credibility.

Sometimes the best ideas come from the least assertive voice in the room.

Impostor syndrome is not a disease. It's a normal response to internalizing impossibly high standards.

Doubting yourself doesn’t always mean you're going to fail. It often means you're facing a new challenge and you're going to learn.

Feeling uncertainty is a precursor to growth.

Changing your mind doesn't always mean you've abandoned your principles. It often means you've learned something.

It's better to contradict yourself and be accused of hypocrisy than to stick to your guns and sacrifice your values.

The hallmark of integrity is not consistency. It's honesty.

The most important quality in a mentor, teacher, or coach is not how much they know. It's how much they care.

Caring is more than taking pride in your success. It's feeling joy as you progress.

The people you want in your corner are the ones who celebrate your growth.