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Real Talk Fur All
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A Texas furry community that puts community first! We are furries who believe in solidarity, openness, honesty, radical acceptance, and mutual support.

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Close-ups of some of the pumpkins:
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October 28, 2025 at 7:51 PM
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Dare to Care! If you see someone who seems over intoxicated, check on them. *Help only as much as you are comfortable, and walk away if you feel uncomfortable or unsafe. Would they like your help? Can they find their friends? Do they need water or help getting back to their room? *Belongings can always be collected later, being safe and healthy comes first. Alcohol Poisoning. Alcohol poisoning happens when a large quantity of alcohol is consumed in a short period of time, and can even be deadly. Signs to watch out for include: Vomiting; Passed out, or going in and out of consciousness; Slow breathing; Confusion; Clammy skin; Seizures. When It’s an Emergency. In the event of alcohol poisoning, call 911 and get medical attention immediately. Do not leave the person alone, and make sure they are rolled onto their side or sitting up. Things that do NOT help include putting the person in a cold shower, giving them coffee, or letting them sleep it off. It’s never a bad time to take a break and re-evaluate your relationship with alcohol. Ask yourself: Is a situation you feel like you need alcohol to be in a situation you really want to be in?
October 3, 2025 at 12:58 AM
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Genuine Means Enthusiastic. Both parties should feel enthusiasm. Agreement does not equal enthusiasm. Mumbling, looking away, frowning, being distracted: Consent may not be genuine. If these signals are unrelated, state enthusiasm clearly: “I enthusiastically consent.” Genuine Means Explicit. Both parties should be as clear as possible about what they want. Check for understanding and recap if possible If consent is conditional, make sure the conditions are clear Yes > Sure, Uh-huh, I guess *Communication isn’t done when you deliver a message, it ends when you’re sure it’s understood. When Consent is Violated. Mistakes happen. Communication is imprecise and no-one is perfect. If someone tells you they feel you violated their consent: Focus on that person’s feelings. Seek support elsewhere. Thank them for the bravery and respect of sharing that with you. Ask what they need. Listen to their answer, and follow through. Ask Today: “If you felt like I violated your consent, what would you do?” Identify the signs and make a plan together. Assures you care and will respond with care when it happens. Helps your partner regonize their role in ensuring genuine consent on both sides.
September 24, 2025 at 7:36 PM
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So What’s the Issue? We tend to forget that everyone is instantly relating, categorizing, and responding to everyone else based upon many influences out of our control. Often, we are being categorized and responded to in ways that have nothing to do with us at all. Like most behaviors, validation-seeking exists on a spectrum. Interpersonal Difficulties > Antisocial > Sense of Entitlement Like most behaviors, validation-seeking exists on a spectrum. Need to Impress Others < Compromising to 'Keep the Peace' < Ignoring Rights < Enduring abuse to avoid abandonment We have all been socialized to devalue ourselves. Can you afford to allow anyone else’s perception of you shape how you feel about yourself? Strange Yet True: The more you validate yourself internally, the more external validation will come your way!
September 24, 2025 at 7:33 PM
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How to Identify Cliques? Membership is decided by leaders’ opinion. Mean, even to others in the clique. Pressure to conform. Individuality and questions are not appreciated. Expects you not to talk to certain people to stay in the group. Insists you agree to their version of the truth. What Should I Watch Out For? Your boundaries taken as a personal offense. Being told not to talk to other people, or not to confirm information given. Threats to revoke access or turn others against you. Threats to lie, share private information, or to hurt themselves or others What Can I Do? Being friends with someone doesn’t mean you have to share the same opinions, values, and beliefs. Speak up, but be prepared to move on. Remember, cliques control others for their leaders to feel secure with themselves. Ask Yourself: What do I believe in? What do I value? Am I proud of the way I and the group treat others? Does this group engage in gossip, drama, or ‘cancel culture’?
September 24, 2025 at 7:29 PM
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4: Clarify Your Needs. Are you more aware of what may trigger you in the future? What do you need to feel supported or understood? Is there a specific request or clarification you would like to make to someone? 5: Communicating Understanding. Show Awareness and Ownership Factually Describe the Situation “I want to talk to something that happened earlier because I got triggered. When [specific thing] happened, I felt [specific emotion], because [explanation of trigger]...” 6: Requesting Assistance. Take Responsibility Express Your Needs Seek Collaboration. “...I know this is really about [past experience, personal sensitivity, current emotional state], but I wanted to share this with you. What would really help me in times like that is [specific request]. What do you think about that?” Keep In Mind. A trigger is a reaction to past trauma. Recognizing when we’re upset, understanding why, and managing our emotional reactions is the way to overcome them.
September 24, 2025 at 7:26 PM
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Be Responsible For Your Property. People you don’t know may enter your room. Keep things put away and where you know to find them. If you have things that can be broken or damaged, let people know what and where they are. *Store valuables and very important things in a safe place. You can’t put a price on peace of mind. **Bring a trash bag to make keeping things clean easier! Share Your Boundaries. What level of dress are you comfortable with? What level of physical closeness are you comfortable with? Are you comfortable sharing a couch, a bed, a sleeping bag, etc.? *State your boundaries clearly and be firm about them. If someone isn’t being mindful, talk to them directly or discuss it as a group! Respect Other’s Boundaries. Remember that everyone’s level of comfort with any subject will be different! When in doubt, ask, and thank others for asking you. *Respecting boundaries means being aware and considerate of them, but expecting their owner to be responsible for communicating and enforcing them. Remember: Sharing a space takes trust, respect, and communication. If you ever feel unsafe or disrespected, share your feelings. If those feelings don’t change, seek alternative arrangements. Communicate early, often, and plan to have a great time together!
September 24, 2025 at 7:21 PM