Raising Yourself
@raising-yourself.bsky.social
I help parents reparent themselves while raising their kids.
A mother who takes radically good care of her own needs shows her children that it is safe and important to take care of theirs, too.
#motherhood #parenting #consciousparenting #gentleparenting #parentingsupport #selfcare
#motherhood #parenting #consciousparenting #gentleparenting #parentingsupport #selfcare
July 25, 2025 at 10:14 PM
A mother who takes radically good care of her own needs shows her children that it is safe and important to take care of theirs, too.
#motherhood #parenting #consciousparenting #gentleparenting #parentingsupport #selfcare
#motherhood #parenting #consciousparenting #gentleparenting #parentingsupport #selfcare
If we want to raise kids who aren’t afraid to fail, we need to cultivate an environment where it is emotionally safe to take risks & make mistakes.
July 23, 2025 at 10:26 PM
If we want to raise kids who aren’t afraid to fail, we need to cultivate an environment where it is emotionally safe to take risks & make mistakes.
We don't shame kids when they fall off their bikes or stumble over a word while learning to read.
So why do we shame them when they have emotional outbursts?
Emotional regulation is a skill.
Let’s offer them the same compassion we show for any other skill they’re working hard to develop.
So why do we shame them when they have emotional outbursts?
Emotional regulation is a skill.
Let’s offer them the same compassion we show for any other skill they’re working hard to develop.
July 23, 2025 at 4:07 PM
We don't shame kids when they fall off their bikes or stumble over a word while learning to read.
So why do we shame them when they have emotional outbursts?
Emotional regulation is a skill.
Let’s offer them the same compassion we show for any other skill they’re working hard to develop.
So why do we shame them when they have emotional outbursts?
Emotional regulation is a skill.
Let’s offer them the same compassion we show for any other skill they’re working hard to develop.
Kids don’t “make” us yell at them. Kids reveal to us where we have room to grow, where we have wounds to heal, and where we still have unresolved rage from our own childhoods.
July 22, 2025 at 7:39 PM
Kids don’t “make” us yell at them. Kids reveal to us where we have room to grow, where we have wounds to heal, and where we still have unresolved rage from our own childhoods.
What the world needs is more parents (and adults) holding themselves accountable for their own behavior to the same degree that they hold children accountable for theirs.
The double standard needs to end.
The double standard needs to end.
July 17, 2025 at 2:28 PM
What the world needs is more parents (and adults) holding themselves accountable for their own behavior to the same degree that they hold children accountable for theirs.
The double standard needs to end.
The double standard needs to end.
What the world needs is more parents (and adults) holding themselves accountable for their own behavior to the same degree that they hold children accountable for theirs.
The double standard needs to end.
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting
The double standard needs to end.
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting
July 15, 2025 at 4:11 PM
What the world needs is more parents (and adults) holding themselves accountable for their own behavior to the same degree that they hold children accountable for theirs.
The double standard needs to end.
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting
The double standard needs to end.
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting
What if “boys will be boys” meant boys who are tender, emotionally aware, and unafraid to lead with compassion — not boys taught to mask fear with rage and call it strength?
July 14, 2025 at 11:02 PM
What if “boys will be boys” meant boys who are tender, emotionally aware, and unafraid to lead with compassion — not boys taught to mask fear with rage and call it strength?
When I'm tempted to take my child's anger personally, I try to remind myself that I’m witnessing what it looks like when their fear is on fire and they don't yet have the skills to communicate it any other way.
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #ParentingTip #ParentingAdvice
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #ParentingTip #ParentingAdvice
July 14, 2025 at 5:08 PM
When I'm tempted to take my child's anger personally, I try to remind myself that I’m witnessing what it looks like when their fear is on fire and they don't yet have the skills to communicate it any other way.
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #ParentingTip #ParentingAdvice
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #ParentingTip #ParentingAdvice
Self-healers are often the outcasts of a family because they focus their energy on breaking cycles + upending toxic patterns instead of passively maintaining the status quo.
It can be lonely work.
I acknowledge you.
It can be lonely work.
I acknowledge you.
June 19, 2025 at 10:30 PM
Self-healers are often the outcasts of a family because they focus their energy on breaking cycles + upending toxic patterns instead of passively maintaining the status quo.
It can be lonely work.
I acknowledge you.
It can be lonely work.
I acknowledge you.
Sometimes, reparenting ourselves is about giving ourselves the grace we deserved, but never received, as children.
#ConsciousParenting #Grace #CycleBreaking #BreakTheCycle #Reparenting #Patience
#ConsciousParenting #Grace #CycleBreaking #BreakTheCycle #Reparenting #Patience
June 19, 2025 at 10:30 PM
Sometimes, reparenting ourselves is about giving ourselves the grace we deserved, but never received, as children.
#ConsciousParenting #Grace #CycleBreaking #BreakTheCycle #Reparenting #Patience
#ConsciousParenting #Grace #CycleBreaking #BreakTheCycle #Reparenting #Patience
Today, I am sending SO much love to the parents who never had a voice growing up but are now creating safe, loving spaces for their kids to speak their truth. In case you didn't already know, you’re raising future world-changers, and that’s powerful. I'm so proud of you. 💛
#ConsciousParenting
#ConsciousParenting
June 18, 2025 at 1:03 PM
Today, I am sending SO much love to the parents who never had a voice growing up but are now creating safe, loving spaces for their kids to speak their truth. In case you didn't already know, you’re raising future world-changers, and that’s powerful. I'm so proud of you. 💛
#ConsciousParenting
#ConsciousParenting
I often wonder if people seen as professionally successful pursued their achievements out of genuine desire, or if, deep down, they were just seeking to heal childhood wounds by finding acceptance through success.
#ConsciousParenting #ChildhoodWounds #GentleParenting
#ConsciousParenting #ChildhoodWounds #GentleParenting
June 12, 2025 at 10:02 PM
I often wonder if people seen as professionally successful pursued their achievements out of genuine desire, or if, deep down, they were just seeking to heal childhood wounds by finding acceptance through success.
#ConsciousParenting #ChildhoodWounds #GentleParenting
#ConsciousParenting #ChildhoodWounds #GentleParenting
If your parents used criticism, shame, & judgment when you made a mistake then it makes sense that you would speak to yourself that way as an adult. It’s so important to notice this and begin re-wiring our brains for how we respond to our own mistakes so we don’t pass that on to our kids.
June 10, 2025 at 10:13 PM
If your parents used criticism, shame, & judgment when you made a mistake then it makes sense that you would speak to yourself that way as an adult. It’s so important to notice this and begin re-wiring our brains for how we respond to our own mistakes so we don’t pass that on to our kids.
Until we heal our childhood wounds, we’ll continue to meet the same wounded inner child in the ways we lash out at our kids, take our child’s behavior personally, and experience chronic shame.
Raising our kids means raising our inner kids, too.
#ConsciousParenting #InnerChild
Raising our kids means raising our inner kids, too.
#ConsciousParenting #InnerChild
June 10, 2025 at 6:18 PM
Until we heal our childhood wounds, we’ll continue to meet the same wounded inner child in the ways we lash out at our kids, take our child’s behavior personally, and experience chronic shame.
Raising our kids means raising our inner kids, too.
#ConsciousParenting #InnerChild
Raising our kids means raising our inner kids, too.
#ConsciousParenting #InnerChild
As parents, let's focus less on preparing our children to "become good employees" and impress their future bosses, and more on helping them build an inner world where their worth isn’t defined external validation.
#ConsciousParenting #ParentingTools #GentleParenting
#ConsciousParenting #ParentingTools #GentleParenting
June 9, 2025 at 11:21 PM
As parents, let's focus less on preparing our children to "become good employees" and impress their future bosses, and more on helping them build an inner world where their worth isn’t defined external validation.
#ConsciousParenting #ParentingTools #GentleParenting
#ConsciousParenting #ParentingTools #GentleParenting
Children, whose parents demand complete compliance, often grow up to become adults who ignore their instincts, favoring blind obedience over their physical safety and emotional well-being. It is dangerous to treat your kids like your property.
#ConsciousParenting
#ConsciousParenting
June 5, 2025 at 8:46 PM
Children, whose parents demand complete compliance, often grow up to become adults who ignore their instincts, favoring blind obedience over their physical safety and emotional well-being. It is dangerous to treat your kids like your property.
#ConsciousParenting
#ConsciousParenting
So many adults expect kids, with their still-developing brains, to know how to masterfully regulate their own emotions... while those very same adults still don’t possess this skill themselves.
Raising our kids starts with raising ourselves.
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #Reparenting
Raising our kids starts with raising ourselves.
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #Reparenting
June 4, 2025 at 5:17 PM
So many adults expect kids, with their still-developing brains, to know how to masterfully regulate their own emotions... while those very same adults still don’t possess this skill themselves.
Raising our kids starts with raising ourselves.
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #Reparenting
Raising our kids starts with raising ourselves.
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #Reparenting
The last thing we need is another generation of children growing up to believe that to be acceptable + loved, they have to check a bunch of boxes that are important to everyone but themselves.
Encourage your kids to engage in what lights them up, and lead the way by doing what lights you up too. 💛
Encourage your kids to engage in what lights them up, and lead the way by doing what lights you up too. 💛
June 3, 2025 at 4:52 PM
The last thing we need is another generation of children growing up to believe that to be acceptable + loved, they have to check a bunch of boxes that are important to everyone but themselves.
Encourage your kids to engage in what lights them up, and lead the way by doing what lights you up too. 💛
Encourage your kids to engage in what lights them up, and lead the way by doing what lights you up too. 💛
A child who is acting out needs co-regulation, compassion, and curiosity about what’s underneath the meltdown... NOT punishment, shame, and criticism.
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #ParentingTools #ParentingTip #CoRegulation #Compassion #Discipline #Punishment
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #ParentingTools #ParentingTip #CoRegulation #Compassion #Discipline #Punishment
May 30, 2025 at 8:24 PM
A child who is acting out needs co-regulation, compassion, and curiosity about what’s underneath the meltdown... NOT punishment, shame, and criticism.
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #ParentingTools #ParentingTip #CoRegulation #Compassion #Discipline #Punishment
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #ParentingTools #ParentingTip #CoRegulation #Compassion #Discipline #Punishment
Bullying your child won’t make them tougher. It just teaches them to accept mistreatment or to mirror it. They deserve better. 💛
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #Punishment #Discipline
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #Punishment #Discipline
May 29, 2025 at 9:49 PM
Bullying your child won’t make them tougher. It just teaches them to accept mistreatment or to mirror it. They deserve better. 💛
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #Punishment #Discipline
#ConsciousParenting #GentleParenting #Punishment #Discipline
Let's stop pretending that punishment is a teaching tool and start admitting that it's a symptom of a dysregulated adult who's actually just discharging their anger onto their child in a misguided attempt to "teach them a lesson.”
May 28, 2025 at 8:12 PM
Let's stop pretending that punishment is a teaching tool and start admitting that it's a symptom of a dysregulated adult who's actually just discharging their anger onto their child in a misguided attempt to "teach them a lesson.”
Cycle-breakers are often the outcasts of the family because they focus their energy on upending toxic patterns instead of passively maintaining the status quo. It can be lonely work. I acknowledge you.
#BreakTheCycle #CycleBreaker #CycleBreaking #ParentingTools #ConsciousParenting
#BreakTheCycle #CycleBreaker #CycleBreaking #ParentingTools #ConsciousParenting
May 28, 2025 at 3:29 AM
Cycle-breakers are often the outcasts of the family because they focus their energy on upending toxic patterns instead of passively maintaining the status quo. It can be lonely work. I acknowledge you.
#BreakTheCycle #CycleBreaker #CycleBreaking #ParentingTools #ConsciousParenting
#BreakTheCycle #CycleBreaker #CycleBreaking #ParentingTools #ConsciousParenting
How about you? 💛
#ConsciousParenting #InnerChild #CycleBreaking #CycleBreaker #GentleParenting #RaisingYourself
#ConsciousParenting #InnerChild #CycleBreaking #CycleBreaker #GentleParenting #RaisingYourself
May 23, 2025 at 5:38 PM