See my earlier post on gender versus sex, too.
https://www.rachelmacneillintimacycoaching.com/blog/expand-your-definition-of-gender-expand-the-creativity-of-your-sex-life

Pleasure Activism by @adriennemareebrown.bsky.social really changed my perspective on porn. I still think it can be helpful for people who have no idea what they like in real life, but it's such a cheap substitute for authentic anything, including fantasies.

But also. . . what is bara? 👀🙃🤣