In the end of the day its your community and your home, so your house your rules and just cause they "family" don't make them above said rules. If its not sitting right with ya at the end of the day cut the drama and move on.

I would say talk to the member first, let them know the standards that your community members are supposed to hold. If they apologize and are sincere about it. Yeah give them a chance, if they blow it off. Get the mallet