Glad to hear it's not something worse, tho I know a UTI can still definitely be rough to deal with.

Hope I get to hear more from you soon <3

I'll probably get involved in the broader community again when leftist sexual politics move past "that kink is innately evil even if you don't actually act on it in any way that hurts anyone".

So, y'know, let me know when that happens. : >

Doesn't help that, for a little while, this was a place where I mostly felt safe and could come to unwind, when I was feeling like dogshit in very similar ways to this.

That's just how ever queer community space goes, eventually, I guess.

I'm talking about people openly engaging with each other in a sexual/horny manner in publicly-accessible threads on this website. Whichever that is.

I think that is ok and even good.

Other people think that is Bad and somehow caused all the sexual abuse.

Also it's not about the idea of someone being pressured into sexuality: That happens plenty and sucks. There are times when it happened on this site. But it... Isn't happening *just* when people are openly sexual with each other and someone else feels left out.

I will directly say that I am not talking about anyone directly involved with the Kairi thing, as far as I can tell. I'm talking about people posting about those posts on like a third-order level who are saying "Actually it being ok to be openly sexual here caused this"

Ah, ok

Yeah then

I think my point is just "Well, all the popular people on BSky are horny, and I wanted to be popular too, so I pretended to be horny" is not coercion.

I mean, it sounded to *me* like "decided". I feel like I'm not sure what "coursed" is short for here.

Also I am not sure what the difference between "sexual" and "horny" is in this context.

I will directly say that I am not talking about anyone directly involved with the Kairi thing, as far as I can tell. I'm talking about people posting about those posts on like a third-order level who are saying "Actually it being ok to be openly sexual here caused this"

I have no intention of being sneaky.

I think the bad thing Kairi did was bad. I don't even particularly like Kairi, and had her muted for a while before any of this happened.

I'm not calling anyone a liar (And am very specifically not naming a name. If you don't think this applies to someone, it's probably not who I'm talking about).

I am talking about people who said that they did the thing I said. I can't call someone a liar if I'm just... rephrasing what they said.

I am *trying* to

Like idk I feel like I'm going insane with some of the shit people post.

Not blaming victims is great, but when someone is literally saying "I wasn't comfortable being horny, but I decided to be anyway so I could be popular and that is someone else's fault" that

*Fuck*

If nobody every has to see it, it's not actually happening!

Did I feel Pressured to play board games? I mean... Kind of, I guess? I wished they weren't so incredibly boring to me, so I could make more friends. But I looked at myself, went "I guess I just have to find the folks who want something else", and moved on.