Also I say irl because the fact is that most kink conservatism is online. If you go to an irl space and you try to attack people for being “morally incorrect”, you’re going to be ostracized. Most irl kinksters are much more chill than people online. As long as it’s safe sane and consensual who cares

A quick example, I know a lot of people into needle play. I have a really bad needle phobia. But no one is making me do needle play! That’s the beauty of all kinks! No one can make you do anything!

And I’m not mean to anyone who does, in fact I respect that they can do something so scary for fun!

This especially goes for irl spaces! If you go to play parties, people will be doing scenes you will not be comfortable with. The best thing you can do is look away! What they’re doing isn’t for your approval, it’s for their fun! Learning this helped me feel so much more comfortable in irl spaces