Anyway, stop making excuses for your trash ass behavior - until you admit your flaws without blaming others and do the work to he better, you will never be considered a good partner.

Good relationships are for whole people, not people who lack maturity and character.

Additionally, specifically for cheaters, if you admit to cheating, but then say you did it because of something your partner did, you are NOT taking accountability for your actions.

Loyalty and character mean that you're not breaking vows or monogamy for some cut. You would leave before cheating.

You cannot have piss poor morals and get mad at people who see through your basura.

Cheating, lying, controlling, manipulative, abusive behaviors are NOT mistakes, but are indicative of your character as a partner.

You lose the right to claim being a good person when you do any of these.

Facts. And don't point that out to them because then they'll cry "reverse racism".

Exactly this.

It's also why we're seeing the harassment of Black people (including threats on HBCUs) over this Charlie Kirk killing, despite it being a white perp, in a white conservative area.

They are trying their damnest.

Charlie Kirk was a hateful racist who enjoyed getting people riled up and perpetuating controversy wherever he went. I didn't agree with his political and social stances, and I detest how he moved through life.

But I wouldn't wish his fate upon him. That's not in my character.

That man's wife and young children witnessed his assassination in person. Anyone who knows me knows how I feel about children experiencing trauma - I empathize greatly.

I wouldn't wish that on the worst person in the world. And I'm not going to start now.

At the end of the day, I wish no harm on anyone. I do not celebrate death. I wouldn't have celebrated the death of Hitler. Why? Because I don't believe in inviting negative karma (an oversimplification) into my life. It is literally against my religious beliefs, and I actively practice Buddhism.

But let's take things a step further-

These same people who are harassing me, are bringing Donald Trump into the discussion. You know, about the man who was accused by DT's cabinet of being a traitor for wanting the Epstein Files released.

Make it make sense.

These people have even gone as far to say that I called for or justified his death because I mentioned that he put negative energy into the universe and it came back to him.

This doesn't make his murder okay. And this doesn't mean I'm happy he's dead. I do not condone violence. Period.

So yeah. I want nothing more than to exist peacefully with others who want similar.

This isn't to be confused with low self esteem or self loathing. I'm very secure in myself and happy with the person I have become. But there's just something about knowing someone is cruel for the sake of being cruel that just hurts my heart for humanity.

I'll never understand it.