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The 5Ds of Bystander Training are great for folks who want to be able to help if/when they witness someone being harassed.

Distract
Delegate
Document
Delay
Direct

@righttobe.bsky.social has short videos for each D:

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screenshot from NJ handbook - which adapts the Right To Be's 5Ds. Distract Take an indirect approach to de-escalate the situation. Start a conversation with the target or find another way to draw attention away from the negative behavior. Ask them for directions or the time, or drop something. “Excuse me, do you know what the next stop is?” “Hey Elena, can you help me with something over here?” Delegate Get help from someone else. Find someone in a position of authority – like a bus driver, flight attendant, security, teacher or manager—and ask them for help. Also, check in with the person being harassed. ask them if they want you to call the police. “Excuse me! This person is being harassed. Can you help?” Report the incident to a supervisor. Document It can be helpful for the target to have a video of the incident. Laws about recording in public vary, so check local laws first. Only document if it’s safe. Tips: • Keep a safe distance. • Film street signs or other landmarks that help identify the location. • Say the day and time. ALWAYS ask the target what they want to do with the footage. NEVER post it online or use it without their permission. Keep your attention on the person being harassed – make sure anything you do is focused on supporting them. “Is anyone helping the person being harassed?” If not, use one of the other 4 Ds to help them. Keep track of comments or behaviors to report in the future Delay After the incident is over, check in with the person who was harassed. Ask: “Can I sit with you? Can I accompany you somewhere? What do you need?” “Are you okay?” “I saw and heard what happened and that was not okay.” Direct If safe, confront the aggressor more directly. Assess your safety first. Then speak up about the harassment. Be firm and clear. Also, talk to the target about what’s going on. Ask: “Are you okay? Should I get help? Should we get out of here?” “That’s inappropriate. Leave them alone.” “What do you mean by that?”
December 3, 2024 at 9:18 PM